Ilovehim Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Hey everyone..well I'm writing because I would really appreciate some advice..I'm "dating" this guy who is really confusing..I don't even know what we are honestly..this summer we would hang out and kiss and I guess you can call it a summer fling..he is a sweetheart when I see him, always complementing me and we basically have fun and good conversations.he as told me he likes me but however there is one problem! He does not call me as often as id like..he'll stay days without calling or checking up on me at all and sometimes he won't call me back when he says he will..Im very understanding and don't bother him at all but this is bothering me as it's makin me feel like he's not really interested..what should I do??
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 It doesn't sound like hes not interested it sounds like hes not invested as much into it as you have. I say tell him how you feel so at least you two can be on the same page and you will know what way things are going best of luck..
stuckinwithyou Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 from my personal experience if you don't have spark and mutual affection to each others something like "he love me so much he can't wait till he sees me" or" he is so sweet he is always thinking about me" if he so much of an A.S.S that he goes days without calling wait till you live together you wouldn't know where he is every night or he wouldn't tell what is he doing behind ur back feeling Love to someone doesn't mean necessarily that the other person share the same feelings some times you need to ignore youR heart and think with your mind if something smell like crap and taste like carp so it must be crap and if I am wrong why Brady Pit dumped Jennifer and chased Angelina there is no other explanation other than that he is a dick.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 from my personal experience if you don't have spark and mutual affection to each others something like "he love me so much he can't wait till he sees me" or" he is so sweet he is always thinking about me" if he so much of an A.S.S that he goes days without calling wait till you live together you wouldn't know where he is every night or he wouldn't tell what is he doing behind ur back feeling Love to someone doesn't mean necessarily that the other person share the same feelings some times you need to ignore youR heart and think with your mind if something smell like crap and taste like carp so it must be crap and if I am wrong why Brady Pit dumped Jennifer and chased Angelina there is no other explanation other than that he is a dick. Wow this is putting the cart a little bit before the horse no? the poor guy doesn't even know how much she likes him and shes going to dump him? Thats some serious phyco circus material right there lol.. just cause you hang out with some one over the summer and kiss a few times. Doesn't mean your automatically in a relationship with them don't listen to that Op follow your heart..
whiteberry Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Just try to ask him... and say everything you have in mind.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Jeebus. Who opened the cage tonight? Noooo...don't spill your guts to him. He sounds like he's not all IN to this and if you spill your guts, you'll scare him completely away. If it were me, I'd start seeing other people and being less available to this guy.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I'm with Soul Search. If he was really that crazy about you, he'd be calling everyday. Be less availble, just like Soul Search says. When he does call and want to hang out, say you have other plans, but say it nicely. If his lack of contact continues, just drop him from your radar.
D-Lish Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 When IN DOUBT, the very LAST thing you should do is ASK!!!! When a guy is really into you, you'll know. If you have to ask, that indicates a problem.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 When IN DOUBT, the very LAST thing you should do is ASK!!!! When a guy is really into you, you'll know. If you have to ask, that indicates a problem. Really you think? my current partner says he had no clue I even liked him? I cant believe that tho I just about held up a neon sighn for a bit there lol. Then again we were casual acquaintances who started hanging out as friends tho we never kissed before I told him. I think some times some guys can be so clueless it comes off as their not intrested...
callingyouuu Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I think some times some guys can be so clueless it comes off as their not intrested... As a guy, I don't think truer words were never spoken. Some of us are just really bad at reading signs...
Island Girl Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Jeebus. Who opened the cage tonight? Noooo...don't spill your guts to him. He sounds like he's not all IN to this and if you spill your guts, you'll scare him completely away. If it were me, I'd start seeing other people and being less available to this guy. SoulSearch is right on this. He blows you off and you say you are "understanding"??? Sweetie that is door mat behavior. That turns guys OFF - and they end up knowing you are just like a piece of furniture that will be there whether they pay attention to it or not. Don't be so available. Don't text him back right away or call him at all. And start trying to keep yourself occupied - VERY busy. If it were me I'd be meeting other guys and not focusing on him AT ALL.
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