bonsei Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Hi. Have you met someone you thought you are both in love and when you met, the feelings were gone?
FreddieMay Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Nope.. in my case the feeling grew even stronger, for both of us.
pinkstar Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Yes! for me , it happened. He was from another country but was working in my country but in another city. We met after 2 years and when we met, he was leaving my country for ever the next day. I had fallen in love with this guy through time. When we met, at that moment, when I saw him, I just got shocked how all my feelings vanished. He looked good but just no chemistry at all...On the other hand, it seemed to like me more...but it did not happen for me. He even said he regreted why we had not met sooner while we had been in the same country...we can not force ourselves to love some one, there should be some feelings created immediately after we have know some one in time...So, after that our first and last meeting, I was happy that he is leaving for ever....after that, he wrote me some emails and we chatted but I had changed and he felt it...finally this relationship ended due to the time ...so it might happen.
Mary Shadows Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Hi. Have you met someone you thought you are both in love and when you met, the feelings were gone? No. I had a relationship over the phone/through a friend, for about 6 months, than he stopped talking to me. ..I sent him a few texts, and still nothing. ..Over a period of two months we had no communication, and than he called out of the blue, and said he was planning to drive 5 hours to meet me once and for all. When we met, the connection was so intense. And he was the one who always said he was not good enough for me, and I met him. I fell even more in love with him. You should go for it, plus if you show up at his/her place, this person might just really see how much you care (: Good luck
JaggedRoad Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 No, meeting her for the first time only made our feelings stronger.
Els Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Yes, some people have had that happen. But honestly I've done it three times with guys whom I were crushing on online; not all succeeded in turning into relationships, but in all of them I only developed stronger feelings for them. Of course, there was always a discrepancy between what I imagined and what came about in RL, but usually the RL seems appealing anyway because I'd already fallen in love with their internal self. In all honesty, MOST of the people whom I know don't lose feelings when they meet.
looking4 green grass Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 I've only done this once with the most recent bf. We met IRL after a few months of talking online and it was awkward for about 3 minutes. Then both of the personalities we "knew" came out, and it was smooth sailing. By the time he kissed me after our first date I needed a fire hose! haha But I wasn't "in" love with him when we first met, just "in like".
northstar1 Posted September 11, 2009 Posted September 11, 2009 Hi. Have you met someone you thought you are both in love and when you met, the feelings were gone? Well, IMO you can't be in love with someone you've never met in person. Sure, you can have strong feelings by how they've represented themselves over chat/phone etc, but you need to actually physically be with them in order to be in love.
Rollercoasterr Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Nopies. I think I might be a freak, but even though I had never met Mathew I knew he was the one for me. If I hadn't of known that, there's no way I would have went through what I've gone through for him. I wouldn't have waited 4 years for him, I would have married my ex. He probably would have married his. I just KNEW I loved him. But I think that when it's right nothing can hold back those feelings you have for someone. Now when I first saw him I honestly looked at his face for 5 seconds, and then when he turned around I couldn't stop staring at his butt. He's got the cutest butt ever! But then when I realized he probably knew I was staring at his butt while he was waiting at baggage claim, I regained control of myself and all those butterflies in my stomach just exploded. It gets stronger every day for me.
Els Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Well, IMO you can't be in love with someone you've never met in person. Sure, you can have strong feelings by how they've represented themselves over chat/phone etc, but you need to actually physically be with them in order to be in love. Yes some people can; why not? It may not work for you but that doesn't mean others can't. I fall in love for whom the person is INSIDE, and if both people are genuine that can be seen as easily over the internet as it can be in real life. Why do you need to be there physically with them to 'fall in love'? Is 'love' really so dependent on the physical? Of course, I do think that meeting IRL strengthens the bond, provides a foundation for the relationship, etc. But all those can occur AFTER falling in love.
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