ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Met this girl at somebodys wedding. We talked for like an hour despite all the noise of the djs and dancing. Shes older than me by three years (school by four) and just starting grad school. Shes definitely an outgoing person, so I don't know if she likes me or not. I got her email, she's got mine, but I don't know how to ask her on a date, or if I even should. I don't even know if she's into me like that. Help?
Vet Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Met this girl at somebodys wedding. We talked for like an hour despite all the noise of the djs and dancing. Shes older than me by three years (school by four) and just starting grad school. Shes definitely an outgoing person, so I don't know if she likes me or not. I got her email, she's got mine, but I don't know how to ask her on a date, or if I even should. I don't even know if she's into me like that. Help? Just ask her out. She gave you her email right? So email her.
dreamergrl Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Just send her an email asking her out to something casual. What's the worse that could happen? You'll never know unless you find out.
Thaddeus Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Well, if she gave you her contact info, that's a pretty safe bet that she's interested. Send her a quick note and ask for her phone number in it. Better to chat over the phone than email, which can be too impersonal and humour often gets lost in email.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Since she talked to you for an hour and gave you her email address, I think she is interested. Grow a pair & do it (I say that in a nice way)
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Im just afraid that maybe Im asking her out too quick. Im a performer and poet, and I get up in front of hundreds of people on a weekly basis, but Im bad with women.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Im just afraid that maybe Im asking her out too quick. Im a performer and poet, and I get up in front of hundreds of people on a weekly basis, but Im bad with women. It's not too quick even if you met her last night. If you want to ask her today, ask her today. If you are too busy (who are we kidding lol) then wait till you get a chance.
Vet Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Im just afraid that maybe Im asking her out too quick. Im a performer and poet, and I get up in front of hundreds of people on a weekly basis, but Im bad with women. It's not too quick. It's just right.
Thaddeus Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Im just afraid that maybe Im asking her out too quick. Im a performer and poet, and I get up in front of hundreds of people on a weekly basis, but Im bad with women.If you're an actor, then act the part of a confident, self-assured man even if you don't feel it. That's pretty much your stock-in-trade, so may as well use that to your advantage, right?
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Much appreciated. You guys are right: I've got to do it, or I'll never know. Any thoughts on the best way to ask her to hang out if it's over email and she lives in a different town?
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Don't ask her to "hang out" - that is so lame. Ask her to lunch or dinner, that shows you mean it.
Vet Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Much appreciated. You guys are right: I've got to do it, or I'll never know. Any thoughts on the best way to ask her to hang out if it's over email and she lives in a different town? Be very upfront with your intentions, and don't beat around the bush. Make it clear it's a date, and meet somewhere in the middle of your respective towns.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Much appreciated. You guys are right: I've got to do it, or I'll never know. Any thoughts on the best way to ask her to hang out if it's over email and she lives in a different town? Well you can start by telling her you had a great time at the wedding talking to her. Ask her if she's interested in lunch or dinner some time soon. When she says yes, ask her if there are any restaurants over her side of town that she likes. Just go from there. It will all fall into place.
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Okay, point taken. Thanks. ; ) Does it need to be anything nice? I mean, obviously I'm not going to take her to McDonald's, but the only thing in the town between that I can think of is Perkins... = S Also, how do you do the "who pays" thing?
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Or, you can email her just saying it was wonderful to meet her, and ask her for her phone number in the email. Mention that you'd like to talk some time. Then ask her out during the phone call. I would be happy with that.
Thaddeus Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Okay, point taken. Thanks. ; ) Does it need to be anything nice? I mean, obviously I'm not going to take her to McDonald's, but the only thing in the town between that I can think of is Perkins... = S Also, how do you do the "who pays" thing? Perkins?? There MUST be something nicer than that... And you pay. If you're inviting her out (which you will be), then it's your responsibility to pick up the tab.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Okay, point taken. Thanks. ; ) Does it need to be anything nice? I mean, obviously I'm not going to take her to McDonald's, but the only thing in the town between that I can think of is Perkins... = S Also, how do you do the "who pays" thing? It doesn't matter so much where you go, but you pay. If you can't afford a decent restaurant that is ok, just ask her to coffee or ice cream. There is nothing wrong with that at all, but you pay. If she's not looking for a wealthy man she will not think any less of you.
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 That's a good idea. I'll give that a try. I just sent her the first email saying I enjoyed talking to her, blah blah blah, asked her cell number, blah blah blah. Hope it works out.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 You can just do an internet search for restaurants or coffee cafes in her town. Maybe there's even a place of interest, museum, art gallery, park, you can have lunch and spend the afternoon together on a Saturday or something? Google is an amazing tool.
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Yup I am searching out some resterants. Thadeus, I understand your pain at the idea of taking a girl to Perkin's. I'm just dumb with these things. Haha. = )
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Okay, new developments. She emailed me back, gave me her number, and said I could call her anytime. = )
Author ilius Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Here's the only thing I'm concerned about: I'm on my way out of a serious relationship, and I think she was within the last month or two. thoughts?
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I think you are thinking too far ahead. Ask her out and don't talk about exes. She seems enthusiastic so don't let this be a factor.
jennifer4 Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 If you aren't out of a relationship yet then I wouldn't go out with her,unless you tell her that. If you're soon to be ex is gonna be a pain and not leave you alone that is also huge. This new woman doesn't need that kind of stuff going on early in a relationship. I have been there and dated a guy who's ex couldnt let him go, so I did. Now they're back together. good luck
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