SadandConfusedWA Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I read many threads on how being thin is important in a girl and generally a desirable trait. However, in real life I see girls that are thin but really have no shape. Examples: small boobs, no waist, wide shoulders and narrow hips. They are technically skinny which is good but is that really sexually attractive? I am not a guy so I wouldn't know. I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? Overall how much body shape impacts on wheter being skinny is attractive?
Sam Spade Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? Overall how much body shape impacts on wheter being skinny is attractive? Yes and yes. Body shape/proportions are the most important. Hourglass figure is the name of the game. that said, anybody who says he isn't attracted to girls built like young boys is lying . If you're a woman, it isd VERY hard to be shapeless when skinny. Girls naturally have smaller waists and bigger hips, so it's all good.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I'm thin and I receive compliments all the time on my figure, but I do have an hourglass shape...I guess if there was nothing up top or no booty I would look like a tall & skinny boy lol thank goodness thats not the case.
Jaytb Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? I don't think anyone has said 15 or so pounds is undesirable. I like curvy, but I also like thin. Both types are attractive to most men, I think.
parrotlover Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 When I was thin (90 pounds) I had no shape what so ever. I have no hips, no butt and no boobs. Men found me very attractive. Now that I'm 130 pounds and slightly more heavy men find me less attractive. Which is sad because 130 pounds is a much healthier (though still overweight) weight than 90 pounds. But, at 130 pounds I still don't have curves, I have the same shape (or lack of) that I had before but with more weight! YUCK.
parrotlover Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 my height is 5 feet tall. I have a 34 inch waist, yes I am overweight. Around the middle. Half the time I look pregnant, and yes people have mistaken me for being pregnant. It was horrible.
BobSacamento Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Not having a gut is always more desirable than having a gut.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 I think that face counts for a lot too.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 So for majority of men: Skinny but shapely > Skinny and no shape > Few extra pounds shapely/hourglass > Few extra pounds and no shape > So overweight that you can't see the shape
Kamille Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I would categorize myself as few extra-pounds with hour-glass and have never had problems attracting men. (I'm not really overweight though, I'm well within a healthy BMI). In fact, I gained ten unsheddable pounds in the last year but have never had so much luck with men. I think what makes the biggest difference is how you showcase what you've got, how you dress, carry yourself and show you've got confidence in yourself. If you're curvy, accept it. Don't try and pull off the skinny look. And more importantly, don't try and minimize the curves. Showcase them! Think Christina Hendricks who plays Joan on Madmen.
lupa Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Or...some guys just find something attractive about the woman and make a choice from there. I've dated girls (and was married to) anywhere from 4' 11" with a "perfect form" to the slightly skinny (5'3", 95 lbs) to the tall (5'11", 145 lbs) to the "normal" (5'7", 155 lbs). All of them had an attribute or two that made them attractive. Tits, ass, face, booty...whatever. it's up to personal taste...
fishtaco Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 So for majority of men: Skinny but shapely > Skinny and no shape > Few extra pounds shapely/hourglass > Few extra pounds and no shape > So overweight that you can't see the shape Well for me: Skinny but shapely > Few extra pounds hourglass > Skinny and no shape > Few extra pounds and no shape > meat ball I'm just not into the skinny + no shape look. There was a thread on a random internet forum about posting pictures of attractive celebrities. So I posted Vida Guerra, and some guy was totally not into her, saying she's too "burly". Everyone is different.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I think lots of women focus too much on exact shape and weight to please men, well it is going to be impossible to be the perfect look for all men. So I would strive to be what YOU feel is attractive. I am very happy at 5'8, 136 pounds. Now many people will say "You could gain a few" and others say I look "great". There is no pleasing everyone. I feel great like I don't have to starve myself at this weight, but I do have to exercise regularly and eat healthily. It is very important, however, to have muscle tone, otherwise you look inactive and flabby.
fishtaco Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I think lots of women focus too much on exact shape and weight to please men, well it is going to be impossible to be the perfect look for all men. So I would strive to be what YOU feel is attractive. I am very happy at 5'8, 136 pounds. Now many people will say "You could gain a few" and others say I look "great". There is no pleasing everyone. I feel great like I don't have to starve myself at this weight, but I do have to exercise regularly and eat healthily. It is very important, however, to have muscle tone, otherwise you look inactive and flabby. Yes, muscle tone is important. A person that's in good physical condition, doesn't matter skinner or heavier, will even move differently than a couch potato, even when their body is covered by clothing and you can't tell. So it's never a bad thing. Some men like skinny, some men like shape, but exercising regularly with cardio + weights is almost never considered a bad thing. Not to mention the health benefits. It's actually more important for women to lift weights than men.
deux ex machina Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I read many threads on how being thin is important in a girl and generally a desirable trait. However, in real life I see girls that are thin but really have no shape. Examples: small boobs, no waist, wide shoulders and narrow hips. They are technically skinny which is good but is that really sexually attractive? I see that shape occasionally. What I see the most though are women saying that about other women, yet when I actually look at the woman being talked about...she actually does end up having a nice shape (tiny waist included!)...oh, about upwards of 90% of the time... I am not a guy so I wouldn't know. I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? That depends on a lot of other factors. Overall how much body shape impacts on wheter being skinny is attractive? In a female...a waist-to-hip ratio of 0.7 or so is generally considered the healthiest. Stands to reason.
lovesacks Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I read many threads on how being thin is important in a girl and generally a desirable trait. However, in real life I see girls that are thin but really have no shape. Examples: small boobs, no waist, wide shoulders and narrow hips. They are technically skinny which is good but is that really sexually attractive? I am not a guy so I wouldn't know. I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? Overall how much body shape impacts on wheter being skinny is attractive? i don't find that appealing. terribly skinny, small breasts, no waist and more. i would rather have someone very curvy or even a little over weight
Chocolat Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I see that shape occasionally. What I see the most though are women saying that about other women, yet when I actually look at the woman being talked about...she actually does end up having a nice shape (tiny waist included!)...oh, about upwards of 90% of the time... Exactly. It's a false dilemma: do you prefer skinny and no shape or 15 pounds overweight and curvy? Fact is, most thin women have a shape and 15 pounds overweight is in the eye of the beholder. What one person sees as 15 pounds over the ideal someone else may see as 25. The bottom line is that there is a huge range of looks that men find attractive, from super thin to super obese. If you're happy with how you look, you will exude confidence and men will find you attractive as a result. There is no one ideal and it is silly to pit women against each other in a quest to determine one.
tami-chan Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 my height is 5 feet tall. I have a 34 inch waist, yes I am overweight. Around the middle. Half the time I look pregnant, and yes people have mistaken me for being pregnant. It was horrible. well at 5, yes you are A LITTLE overweight. Nothing that a few good wardrobe and attitude change can't fix. Wear heels!
D-Lish Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I'm pretty thin, but I also have shape. I'm 5'7" and just under 120 at the moment. My best friend is the same height as I am and around 105- she is bordering on skeletal- but whenever we go out, she gets hit on A LOT. So, sure some men really like that super skinny look. You can't pigeon hole what all men are attracted to. Some guys like skinny, some men like curves, some men like super big boobs and hips. Of my male friends, they are all attracted to different types of women. I have one male friend that values breast size above all else. He'll date a girl with an average face and huge boobs over a beautiful face and small boobs. That's just his thing. As a woman, you just have to be happy with yourself. If you're not happy- you're not going to draw someone that loves and appreciates you.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 Exactly. It's a false dilemma: do you prefer skinny and no shape or 15 pounds overweight and curvy? Fact is, most thin women have a shape and 15 pounds overweight is in the eye of the beholder. What one person sees as 15 pounds over the ideal someone else may see as 25. The bottom line is that there is a huge range of looks that men find attractive, from super thin to super obese. If you're happy with how you look, you will exude confidence and men will find you attractive as a result. There is no one ideal and it is silly to pit women against each other in a quest to determine one. There is quite a lot of naturally thin woman that have a shape that's straight up and down. Almost no waist, flat butt, small breasts, legs and arms like sticks. If they gain some weight it goes straight to their belly. To me that shape is what I consider no shape. It is actually exceedingly rare to find a woman that's thin and has a nice hourglass shape. Those women that have that are hot as hell. If you look at definition of different body types, women that are naturally and genetically skinny have much more chance of having a straight up and down no shape body. So it's beyond me where you get that most skinny women have nice shape argument. It almost makes me think that some men are not sophisticated enough to appreciate subtleties of the female body but only look at the big picture: thin, fat. Thin == WIN Just as I thought.
DunnoWhat Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I don't like the boyish look. I think most men want a healthy looking woman. It's probably hardwritten into the genes to seek out a healthy woman. Healthy usually means average. This isn't to say that all men think like that. People have there own tastes also. I used to like skinny girls and my latest gf is a bit overweight which is a bit of a turnoff because she wasn't like that when we met last year.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 SadandConfused, when it comes down to it, true love is not about looks. It's about what's inside. If you are obsessed with having the perfect body to please all men, and to downgrade women who have "no shape" according to you, guys are only going to see a shallow empty person who has nothing else to worry about. I am figuring out that a boyfriend of yours left you and is now seeing one of these women who is "thin with no shape" and you think he is out of his mind for being attracted to her (because you are dumped and wanting him back and feeling badly about yourself right now.) He's not with her solely because she is a physical body. There's much more to it than that. Maybe he got tired of your shallow attitude.
D-Lish Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 There is quite a lot of naturally thin woman Honestly- there is no such thing as "naturally skinny people"~ All of us can survive on under 1000 calories a day. As humans, that is how we are engineered.
boogieboy Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Examples: small boobs, no waist, wide shoulders and narrow hips. They are technically skinny which is good but is that really sexually attractive? I guess my point is if a girl has a hourglass body shape but carries few extra pounds (say up to 15lbs) can that be more attractive than skinny straight up and down one? I need some meat on my women with a shape. Skinny with no shape whatsoever isnt attractive to me.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 ok just asking. i was going to say if it was average height , the 130lbs isnt considered overweight. you are 5 feet tall so that is understandable. Actually it depends on her body frame if she has a larger frame anything up to 137 pounds wouldn't be considered overweight. Target weight for 5ft is some were around 120ish from the info I found on line about bmi its interesting what people think is overweight now adays... Most of the time whats actually a healthy weight is seen as horribly overweight and disgusting sad really when being underweight is more desirable..
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