spiderowl Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Hi, I would really appreciate your ideas on this. I got talking to a guy and his friend at a venue recently. I really felt I clicked with this guy but not so much with his friend. I also felt the guy liked me and we seemed to have lots of things in common when we talked. He asked if I lived locally and I gave the general area I lived in. He then volunteered information that he lived in a named street near me. He said it wasn't far. I agreed and was tempted to offer contact details but I'd only just met him. We chatted about various things during the evening. I told him (well both of them) about a similar gig at another venue and he looked interested, checked the date and said he might go. I left that evening with a strong feeling that he would turn up at the gig. I had already decided I liked this guy. Sure enough, he (and the friend) turned up at the gig. He seemed pleased to see me and they came and sat with me. Whenever the friend left the room we talked. I felt we were both keen to get to know each other but were interrupted each time by the friend returning. I did find out through comments he made that the guy was unattached. (Obviously, it is only my perspective that we wanted to get to know each other, I don't know if he felt the same way.) These guys were going on a trip down south. When I mentioned I hadn't been there, the one I liked invited me to join them. This was nice but I didn't know them that well and felt it was unwise to set off into the wilderness with two guys I didn't know. I also felt that it would be awkward with a threesome, so instead I just went quiet and the conversation moved on. I didn't know what to say without it sounding like I didn't trust them. Later, the guy I like mentioned again that we didn't live far from each other, but he didn't offer more than that and no contact information was exchanged. I wasn't going to volunteer my address or phone number without knowing them better and neither of them asked. Now, of course, I have a dilemma. I don't know if/when I'll see them again. It is likely we'll bump into each other at another gig, I just can't be sure, but supposing we do ... I like this guy and would like to get to know him better, but I'm not sure if he really likes me too or was just being friendly. Also, what can I do about the friend? It is really awkward trying to get to know someone you are interested in when there's someone else there. They are long-term pals and it's natural they'd go out together. I'm 99% sure they are not gay. I also don't want the friend to feel left out or a gooseberry. What do you think about whether this guy likes me or not and what do you advise I do if I see him/them again?
browolf Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 the obvious answer is take a friend to keep the friend occupied, give you a chance to have some 1 to 1 time and properly figure out what's what
Samari Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 The above poster made a good suggestion. If that doesn't sound like your thing, you may want to consider forgetting the entire situation and moving on. I mean if he was really interested in you, don't you think he would have come alone and/or asked for your phone number? I hope things get better with this entire issue, but I'm just saying keep your options open.
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