joerhp Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 K heres the cliffnotes -she breaks up with me end of July, we are both unhappy, worried and unsure of what the future holds, making so many sacrafices and never seeing each other at a young age im turning 20 and she is going on 19, we are the only people we have ever dated and have been together 3 years -i do the lame stuff contacting her for about 3 days, snap out of it start getting it together a bit -she apologizes says shes sorry for hurting me, still loves me, just it cant be whatever whatever -3 weeks ago she gets mad that i am facebook friends with girls and stuff since we have broken up, calls me nasty, gets all pissed when i say i agree its over i dont wanna be with someone who would just shut down on me (she basically stopped being any support system, or a girlfreidn in any sense of the word for the last 2 weeks and off and on for the last month) -2 weeks ago she asks to call me gets mad she thinks im moving on so fast, tells me to listen to a song Murs-The Breakup which is about a guy wanting his girlfriend back, she says its how she feels, she wants to be together but just knows it wont work -last week she is in town (she moved away a few months ago basically why we had to break up) asks to meetup to give me my sweatshirt to which i reply i dont want it just donate it, throw it away, whatever. she then gets desperate and says she needs to get her dads old nasty sweatshirt i borrowed to workout in once..i say ok ill ship it to you and she asks why i cant just meet -last week later, she gets mad at me tells me to leave her alone despite contacting me first, her lifes great etc, then comes back upset and asking to meetup cause she somehow has seen my facebook and sees girls commenting on it. her last night in town she asks to meetup i decline, then say ok i can say goodbye, she says "no you dont trust me" which im not sure i understand maybe because she asked for my friends number cause they are going to the same school and i got a little mad she asked me for a favor after being so rude to me minutes before (i admit thats chilidish and told her so) anyway its getting to be a little much we go no contact for about 8 days, i start to feel ok, i obviously miss her and am depressed but am starting to try and figure myself out. then i get a text today asking "what do you want me to do with your sweatshirt? ship it to you or what?" I have told her 5 times i dont care about the sweatshirt..I am not even responding I just need to know what to make of these irrational actions. I take it as she wants to be with me, but we both have a lot of growing up to do. I really wanna be with her, but I know its not best for me at least right now... bottom line does she just wanna make sure i get my sweatshirt or this an excuse to talk to me..either way i have kinna stopped caring
Bleeve Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 its an excuse to talk to you You have done good in moving on she is doing the typical "I don't want to be with you but don't want you to be with anyone else" Only listen to her if she says she wants to get back together, and then it will be your choice as to what to do
dashing daisy Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 It's an excuse to make you talk to her. Nobody would really care that much about a sweatshirt, especially after the who owns it said they don't care. Probably the fact that you are acting like you don't want to talk to her is driving her crazy, and she wants you to express that you want her, miss her, need her...even though she doesn't want to be with you. She just needs the ego boost or something. Don't fall for it. Unless she is begging to get you back, the best thing for you is to keep up NC. Focus on yourself.
callingyouuu Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 She is kind of a psycho. I agree with everyone above. I also think that it's disgusting to break up with someone and expect them to put their life on hold while you try to pick up the pieces before they do. 1. Don't respond to any texts of the "how are you?", "i miss you", or in this case, "what do you want me to do with your sweater" variety that don't lead anywhere. It's not worth it. 2. Just a suggestion, but is deleting her from Facebook an option? Just so she doesn't drive herself nuts over your profile and you don't have to worry about her being a nuisance over it?
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