leorise34 Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 OK, I made a lengthy post here last week where I got some helpful advice, but I figured given the particular direction things are going I should make a new post for this question. Basically I've met this girl who I like and seem to click with. She's a transfer student who started at my college this week, and we've been talking since about mid-summer (starting on facebook, then meeting for the first time last week). Well anyways I guess my issue is mixed signals. She just got out of a relationship about three weeks ago where for a while it was 'open' but now they're just broken up. It's been pretty clear on my end that I like her and am interested romantically (maybe too clear as I'll explain). She cancelled a date last Friday because she was doing some heavy moving into her parents' home and we met up this past Wednesday. Everything was good. It was just a coffee shop hang out session where we chilled for an hour. I was kind of shy and nervous at first but my confidence was back once we were in conversation. I was funny, yada, yada. So we get to the end of hanging out and I ask her as we're getting up to leave what she's doing this weekend. She says 'working.' I'm asking so I can set up a date. But as it turns out she's hanging out with her girl friends tonight (to see a band play that one of her dude friends is in no less) and probably tomm. too. And then as I walk her to her next class I ask her when she thinks she'll be able to hang again and she told me 'when she has her schedule figured out.' So I told her 'OK, just give me a holler (not exact words) when you have everything set and let me know.' Then I hug her and we go our separate ways. I found out later that night that my best friend's girl friend is in class with her, and I'm thinking 'well this can only help' because she's cute and very outgoing and tells me she has 'nothing but good things to say about me.' So I figure that can't hurt. But I guess the big rub with all of this is the way that this girl has been vague about getting together again for a real date. My thing is that we've hung out twice and now I want to take it to a real date (she's cancelled with legit reasons twice, but has never suggested a new date, only saying we should hang out or we'll work something out). I'm doing my best not too be hovering with her, so I try not to message her on facebook too much or anything else. I thought for a while that maybe I was messaging too much (not clingy guy levels but kind of showing my eagerness) so I'm going to play it cool for a few days. So I'm wondering if this is the right thing. I can't make her take it to the next level, but a little perspective would be nice. Thanks for reading this, and I promise to get more in depth with the forum in the near future. I'm just getting readjusted with school right now, which is part of the reason why this thing with the girl is so difficult!
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