conehead Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? ------------------- 1) 6 days 2) Some say I was the dumper, some say I was the dumpee, and many say it seemed mutual....depends on how u look at it I guess. But either way, I feel hurt and so does he I think. 3) I want to wait until marriage for physical intimacy, he disagrees. He thinks our relationship has not grown much. 4) 6 days (so far so good) 5) N/A
icyness Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 1. almost 2 months 2. Dumpee 3. He felt he was falling out love with me, wanted some freedom/space, got tired of my jealousy/insecurities, got tired of being LD. 4. 12 days since I've contacted him. 5. About 6 weeks since there was actual conversing between us.
mimiminx Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) 3 weeks 2) Shocked Dumpee 3) Wish I knew why. All I got from him was that he needed time to get his life together, I got in his face when he asked me to leave him alone at times, and that we were fighting too much, he was unhappy. That is all I know why. There was no "I don't think I love you anymore, I want to see other people, I'm not in love with you, it's not gonna work." 4)2 weeks no contact; he broke it by calling me. 5) Now one week of limited contact. He always initiates it with the exception of one time. In past week, it's been over 5 times.
moo Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) 3 1/2 months 2) Disgusted, damaged dumpee 3) He wanted to be able to stand me up any time he saw fit. He wanted to put me some place for nine hours in a city I did not know so he could think about how his car not working affected his life. I protested against this. He didn't want me to wait for him to contact me if he was supposed to see me or said he might see me that day. That way he didn't have to be bothered with calling me to tell me if he was going to see me for sure. I had a problem with him putting paperwork, his car, his friends, and sports ahead of me. I had a problem with seeing him once every 5 weeks with no letters or emails in between. I did not have money to see him. He did not want to be responsible for seeing me even though he lived one hour away. 4) Been strict NC 28 days 5) Limited NC almost 2 months.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? ------------------- 1) 2 months + almost 2 weeks 2) dumpee 3) He freaked out. Commitment phobic is what I think it was. 4) the whole time, minus one phone call, and one text message back to him telling him to leave me alone unless its about getting back together 5) N/A
soheartbroken Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I'm gonna add 6), How do you feel so far? 1) 7 weeks 2) Dumpee for sure 3) Probably her feelings changed. Things just didn't work out. I have anger issues. 4) 9 days strict NC 5) N/A 6) Felt relieved at first. Starting to hurt now. I want to contact her sometimes but I know it would hurt more to reach out than to stay in NC...because I would not hear back from her; can't take any more rejection
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 6. I am still hurt. I might be affected for a long time, but I do feel better now than I did in the first 2 months. I hope this will last and get better. The first 2 months were a constant struggle and it did get worse before it got better. The fact that I was completely blindsighted without an explanation I can grasp, that something so wonderful came to such an abrupt ending really has taken its toll. Still I know that I have to get through this so I pray and I will.
moo Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) 3 1/2 months 2) Disgusted, damaged dumpee 3) He wanted to be able to stand me up any time he saw fit. He wanted to put me some place for nine hours in a city I did not know so he could think about how his car not working affected his life. I protested against this. He didn't want me to wait for him to contact me if he was supposed to see me or said he might see me that day. That way he didn't have to be bothered with calling me to tell me if he was going to see me for sure. I had a problem with him putting paperwork, his car, his friends, and sports ahead of me. I had a problem with seeing him once every 5 weeks with no letters or emails in between. I did not have money to see him. He did not want to be responsible for seeing me even though he lived one hour away. 4) Been strict NC 28 days 5) Limited NC almost 2 months. Reading what I wrote disgusts me so much. I wish I never met him. I wish I never made so many excuses for him. He makes me sick to my stomach.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Reading what I wrote disgusts me so much. I wish I never met him. I wish I never made so many excuses for him. He makes me sick to my stomach. Seriously, this reminds me of a month ago. I made a list of thoughts beginning with 'I wish' and the first one was 'I wish I never met him'. We are better than this. We're gonna finish being disgusted and then we are going to be delighted with our newfound happiness. WE ARE.
icyness Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 6. I feel scared and depressed. I want to know whether or not he intends to ever speak to me again. I have no clue, and I don't know when/if I will ever know. I hate it.
moo Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Seriously, this reminds me of a month ago. I made a list of thoughts beginning with 'I wish' and the first one was 'I wish I never met him'. We are better than this. We're gonna finish being disgusted and then we are going to be delighted with our newfound happiness. WE ARE. Amen to that!
WiseOne1 Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? ------------------- 1. 1 year and 3 months. 2. Dumpee 3. She wanted a no good thug that reminded her of her ex BF. 4. 4 weeks, the longest every since we broke up. 5. 4 weeks, have not had any type of contact what so ever. Ending comments - I never want to talk to her again, never, when I say never I mean 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 20. I guess me and her can try again in another life, but she ruined it this time around.
Darren09 Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? ------------------------------------------------------- 1) 8 weeks 2) dumpee 3) She left me for somebody else 4) 1 week 6) FEEL AN EMOTIONAL WRECK, CANT STAND ON MY OWN 2 FEET CAUSE OF ALL THIS. JUST TAKIN EVERY MINUTE AS IT COMES AND TRYING TO GET THRU THIS HORRIBLE TIME.
lizzylizliz Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) Just over 2months 2) Both. I dumped him, then hoped we could work it out. He refused. Now he's back with his ex. 3) He just kept treating me badly, he was nice to begin with, then just treated me with contempt. Had anger issues, totally took me for granted. Very unpredictable too. And had an ex always on the scene causing trouble, which he was blind to. 4) Was strict NC when I found out they were back together, told him to never contact me. He was shocked and hurt. Carried it on for 2 weeks, gave his dvds back through a friend, who then said he had more at mine. So I texted him directly because it was getting pathetic. Saw him out a few times and said hi last time, then took the p*ss out of him in front of people because I was drunk. He texted me the next say saying it was a shame our first conversation since had to go like that.I agreed, and said he can have his stuff back later. Still not sure what to do, he said to drop them back to him. Tempted to give them to my mate to. 6) Stronger! Live for today. There's hard days, and good days. His stroppy bitch-fits are someone else's problems now. I miss the good....and laugh at the bad. Be a fool for no one!
silic0ntoad Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? 1) Almost 3 full months (This thursday) 2) Dumpee. Was not mutual. 3) "I don't know" was all I got. 4) Almost three months (Next friday, I think)- I haven't caved, and I won't.
dianna Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? 1.almost 2 months ( 8 july) 2.dumpee.. 3.he made the move because he felt like he could not handle life and a relationship.nevertheless , acted like a complete jerk and moved on like nothing happened . 4-5.i've gone nc 1 month, then he broke the nc to tell me about a meeting with mutual friends(I didn't go ), then I went Nc again for 2 weeks then he broke the Nc again to ask how im I doing ( answerd him after 5 houres )and right now im in 1 week of Nc. Jerk
t0ri Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? Over 4 months. 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? Dumpee 3) Why did you break up? He didn't "want to be in a relationship" right then, + we fought quite a bit, but then he came back 3 weeks later, and dumped me again a month after that for reasons I don't know. Lots of unanswered questions and missing "closure." I suspect grass is greener syndrome since I was his first everything, but who knows. 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? He and I both went strict NC right away, but a month ago, he apologized for hurting me and made small talk, and I responded. Then he text me a week ago wishing me a happy belated birthday, and I didn't respond. Soo...it's been a week since I've heard from him, a month since I've responded, but only 2 contacts from him period in over 4 months. I've never initiated contact. Dunno why he had randomly popped up twice when I was starting to finally feel better. 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? See above. And for what it's worth, we were together 2 years 3 months. 22 years old. First heartbreak..
borbiusle Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) 1 month, 1 week 2) dumpee 3) I don't know but me going on vacation for a month was the "deal-breaker" 4) 1 month, 1 week 5) She txted me "How are you doing?" I replied with "I'm good. Busy with stuff lately". That's about it.
dianna Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 6. I feel dead tori i feel you..Im 20 ( 2 and a half years relationship)..first heartbreak..worse thing ever..
moo Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 6) How do you feel so far? In the beginning, I felt like I wasn't going to live through this break up. I was angry because I waited one year for him to get his life together, and then when I needed him, he left and took up with another woman a few days later. I was consumed by feelings of anger, feeling taken advantage of and disbelief. Now, I'm much better. I realize that he is sick, dysfunctional, and incapable of having a loving, healthy relationship. I'm sad, but still I'm better and I feel sorry for him and his current gf.
jv032889 Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? Got dumped in April, but we continued to "see each other" until August 10 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? dumpee 3) Why did you break up? She told me she could no longer be with me bc she wasn't happy...She is now telling me that she can't be with me b/c I betrayed her 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? She always contacts me after two-three days. We work together and she will stop by on her days off 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? Since August 10...I no longer contact her
DustySaltus Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2 months 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? Dumpee/Mutual 3) Why did you break up? Says she couldn't trust me, went through my emails, tried to get me fired from my job, didn't think I was serious about living in her country 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? I was NC for a month, broke it about a week ago and now am really, really regreting it. 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? 1 Hour WHAT A F'ING DISASTER.....THIS GIRL IS COMPLETELY OUT OF HER MIND!!!!!!!!!
Author conehead Posted August 31, 2009 Author Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2 months 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? Dumpee/Mutual 3) Why did you break up? Says she couldn't trust me, went through my emails, tried to get me fired from my job, didn't think I was serious about living in her country 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? I was NC for a month, broke it about a week ago and now am really, really regreting it. 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? 1 Hour WHAT A F'ING DISASTER.....THIS GIRL IS COMPLETELY OUT OF HER MIND!!!!!!!!! Who broke NC after a month? You or her?
DustySaltus Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Who broke NC after a month? You or her? She was trying to contact me for about two weeks before I finally replied. Now she says she is unsure of what she wants after days of saying she missed me and wanted to try and make it work. I was doing EXCELLENT a week or so ago, but once again I am a mess.
hopefullove Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 1) How long has it been since the breakup? 2) Were you the dumper, dumpee, mutual? 3) Why did you break up? 4) How long has it been since you've gone strict NC? 5) Or how long it's been limited NC? 1)January 2008 - then on and off unti July 2008, that is the last time i saw him 2)i flipped out and told him to leave me first, and then he did... but i took it back... what does that make me? 3)my tantrums, his pride, i am different now, but he still has his pride 4/5)since July 2008-June 2009 it has been limited contact, a month and a half ago we started talkin again, we were suppose to meet up again, but he has dropped off the face of the planet 2 weeks ago..... i am angry, and confused, sometimes i think i'm starting to understand him, sometimes i think i just want to move on, i am hurt.... but i feel like i am getting better every day with the help of this site. thanks.
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