Lights Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I've been wondering if I've offered it too freely in my own life, and whether I should instead expect it to be earned. What generally works in this regard, and what generally causes people to take actions that earns someone's respect?
TaraMaiden Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 To my mind, and just in my opinion, all human beings deserve a level of respect. They all eat, breathe, see, hear, smell live, procreate, cr*ap and exist in precisely the same way I do. They have anxieties, hang-ups, issues, problems, conditioning, ideas, points of view and opinions, just like I do. So I respect other beings in precisely the same way I would like to be respected. That said, if people behave in a specific way that goes against general Public standards of manners, politeness or courtesy, with no apparent motive but to belittle and humiliate others - then I lose a goodly measure of that respect. If, on the other hand, a person demonstrates altruism and selflessness, that person goes up in my esteem. I have a baseline. people take it up and down from there. The important thing to bear in mind, is that there is not one person who is superior to me. but there is no person inferior either. it is not trappings, belongings or status that 'Maketh the man'. it's 'who they are and what they want.'
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Respect has to be earned for me...someone working hard for what they have..fantastic
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Respect has to be earned for me...someone working hard for what they have..fantastic At my college people drive around in BMW's and nice cars and when i ask how did they pay for it..they said their parents gave it to them...if they worked hard for the car..i would have respected that.
D-Lish Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 There is general respect for people - and there is deeper respect, the foundation of which is built on trust. General respect is about courtesy really. I extend that to everyone I first meet. Trust takes much longer to build. I don't hand that out until I feel someone has earned it.
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