Mr. Noname Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 In a nutshell: - Wednesday I dated a girl, we drinked something, I brought her home, we kissed very passionate and for a big amount of time. - We agreed to have a another date very soon - I texted a couple of times after the date, saying I liked her very much and that we I hope we will meet soon. I think that's my big mistake! I think I overreacted and that she thinks I'm desperate. - Is this girl just shy? or isn't she interested anymore and did I screwed up? - She said we will date (maybe next week, if there is time to do it), but I'm not sure about that, she haven't said she liked me! Is this just a girls tactic?
Thaddeus Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Here's where you screwed the pooch:II texted a couple of times after the date, saying I liked her very much and that we I hope we will meet soon. I think that's my big mistake! I think I overreacted and that she thinks I'm desperate.Yes, that was your big mistake. *smacks Mr. Noname upside the head* Don't do it again. She may or may not be in touch, it's impossible to tell. But if you even hinted at coming across as clingy and needy - and I'm pretty sure you did - that's like Kryptonite to Superman. Sorry, dude, but don't hold your breath hoping for another date with this girl.
alphamale Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 i agree w/ Thad. the other reason could be you were not a good enough kisser for her. women hate that
butcher's hook Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I honestly think it was the fact that you "drinked" something.
alphamale Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I honestly think it was the fact that you "drinked" something. you mean like she made out with him just cause she was hammered and had nothing better to do with no intention of taking it further? well it wouldn't be the first time that happened to a guy
Author Mr. Noname Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 F**K ME AAAAAAAAAAARGH! I really liked this girl, and I just f***ed it up...! Pfff my only hope, if there's any, I should not contact her anymore.
JohnP82 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I think she was making fun of him for using "drinked"
Thaddeus Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I just f***ed it up...!Yea, pretty much.Pfff my only hope, if there's any, I should not contact her anymore.At this point, it probably doesn't matter. What I mean to say is that it doesn't matter what you do or don't do anymore, the die has been cast and the door closed.
espec10001 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Easy there man. Everyone ****s up, no big deal. It's just a chick, there are millions of them out there, don't let it get to you.
Author Mr. Noname Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 is there no hope anymore then? even when she likes me very much and don't say it?
espec10001 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Well if she likes ya man then she'll date ya again. Only time will tell. Guys on this board will act like they are Don Juans and never **** up with females but in reality we ALL **** up with them. There are no set in stone rules when it comes to romance.
Thaddeus Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 is there no hope anymore then? even when she likes me very much and don't say it?Who knows? She might, she might not. Just don't wait around too long, that's all. Guys on this board will act like they are Don Juans and never **** up with females but in reality we ALL **** up with them. There are no set in stone rules when it comes to romance.Agreed. We all screw up from time to time, that's normal and natural. Point is to not let it stop you from trying again, if not with the same woman then with another one. What's that saying? Falling down is not failure. Refusing to get up again, THAT'S failure.
Author Mr. Noname Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Thanks guys, It was my first date in a very long time, I had a girlfriend for 3,5 years. So I have zero experience in dating, thanks for the advice... I need to be hard to get next time, and not clingy
Thaddeus Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I need to be hard to get next time, and not clingyNo no no no. Playing 'hard to get' isn't the way to go either. There's a happy middle ground between clingy and hard-to-get. Point is to live your life as you wish to live it, and let the relationship fold into it naturally, rather than taking over your entire life.
butcher's hook Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 you mean like she made out with him just cause she was hammered and had nothing better to do with no intention of taking it further? well it wouldn't be the first time that happened to a guy no no of course not! It was a joke because he wrote "drinked" in the OP. You are usually really good at spotting those I am surprised you missed it. Carry on... In all seriousness MrNoname, I think it is because you showed too much interest afterwards you might have come on a little bit too eager. I have been guilty of getting turned off when guys come off too eager at first. It's all about pasing yourself and balancing out a good approach and keeping a little bit of distance to reel her in. I think...
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