SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 You sound quite intelligent perhaps its a bit intimidating for the kind of women your choosing to approach maybe there not the best fit for you? Also dating at work can bring on all kinds of headaches! Ive found that when they say "I'm not interested in a relationship with any one right now" it pretty much just means "I'm not into one with you" for what ever reason. My best advice just flag women like this really would you want a long term relationship with one who's willing to sleep around like that so quick anyways? doesn't scream commitment minded personality to me..
Hkizzle Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Ended up saying "Well should we let the night continue in this direction or am I making you uncomfortable" . You and a hundred million people out there think attraction is based on logic. I mean come on, your version of seduction is like pulling a contract out in the middle of a nice moment and going "wanna date? Sign here" Should have just started brushing her hair and then started kissing her neck. If a girl is going to be in the same room as you alone and allowing you to massage her, you're already in. Saying what you said was actually the thing that made her uncomfortable. Don't be a business man at intimate moments, be a caveman.
Hkizzle Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Btw, I just started reading back and saw someone else said pretty much the exact same thing, haha. Yeah you're not caveman enough. If you got over the main barrier and actually had sex with her, and if you're good and screwed her brains out, she probably would change her mind. Don't let someone's logical mind do the thinking. Let the primal side take over, then they're not thinking clearly. Unfortunately players know how to do this, whilst most guys don't. That's why players get so many girls even though they are jerks. Caveman wins most of the time.
Author BlueHarvest Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 Btw, I just started reading back and saw someone else said pretty much the exact same thing, haha. Yeah you're not caveman enough. If you got over the main barrier and actually had sex with her, and if you're good and screwed her brains out, she probably would change her mind. Don't let someone's logical mind do the thinking. Let the primal side take over, then they're not thinking clearly. Unfortunately players know how to do this, whilst most guys don't. That's why players get so many girls even though they are jerks. Caveman wins most of the time. I believe that there is still semblance of culture and intellect left in humanity, wrapped beneath layers of mental-conditioning, and unfounded stereotypes there lies the raw potential of the human mind that not only thinks clearly but understands what it is to think beyond just the "now" moment. Your absolutely right, I'm not caveman enough. Thank god for that. I went to a bar tonight to wish an old-coworker goodbye and meet up with some old friends as well. Was good to see them, but the entire situation was downright boring. Other then watch some of my friends get trashed and become blithering idiots that say stupid comments and do annoying actions, I don't see a reason for me to really go out. Never got into the bar seen in college, no idea why I'm trying to fit in now. I get stimulated by deep conversations, sorry but saying the same sentance over and over again while trying to make the girl say something and barely able to hear her is downright annoying. And while the two of you are pretty much just sizing up each other visually, while aesthetically pleasing, it get's old after awhile. Maybe I'm too intelligent for my own good. It's kind of like that statistic, the lowest IQ percentage of the population is responsible for the vast majority of population increases. I.E. The dumb people on our planet are outnumbering the smart people.
Hkizzle Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 you're too much of a nerd, that's why you can't get women.
Hkizzle Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 Maybe I'm too intelligent for my own good. and too arrogant and delusional.
boogieboy Posted September 5, 2009 Posted September 5, 2009 This isn't an "act" or a "game", despite what may work for you, or what you think I'm doing. Yes I am a nice guy but I don't do it just get laid. Otherwise I wouldn't be complaining about how she didn't want a relationship. Grow up and stop trying to just get laid. Getting laid gets old real fast. It's the companionship that accompanies a physical relationship that satisfies in the end. You really should try out what Cowboytothecore said, there are some basics in there that you are overlooking that are the reason these women lose interest in you. Youre probably too open, and what you might see as deep conversations, they dont care about, which is why you have trouble. Remember you came here to ask because you have NO idea why these women flake on you after the first date. Youre not fun or attracting them enough with your personality. Whether you want to believe it or not, dating is a game, and you cant show your cards so early in that game. You DO have to be mysterious, yet interesting and alluring. You do have to cut off the dates first, and leave them wanting more. You will then get signs from them that you can escalate things, and you wont get weird looks while youre massaging them. BTW women play a game with you when they dont tell you the real reason they dont want to see you again, they'll make up the quickest excuse that makes sense to make you go away. So remember, anything that is not a yes, is a no.
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