jo2 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 This has been going on for months. Met at the gym, after lots of glances and a strong attraction moment always saying hi to me. We have never really talked much in person at the gym. (only a couple of times...usually both wearing headphones). Started trading emails, sharing info, videos, music suggestions, etc. Usually answers emails right away. Sent him my number when I was going away for a while, but he never called or texted. Did continue to trade emails though. When I got back he was still friendly when I saw him, I catch him looking frequently and still comes up and says hi as he passes. I am quite a bit older than he is also. It seems that something is going on, but he kinda sways from hot to cold. Is this just being friendly or can something else be going on?
vox Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Sounds like he is attached. Attached? To what, Rose? A dialysis machine?
vox Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 A colostomy bag? To star in a new off-Broadway musical based on the life of Dr Joyce Brothers?
carhill Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I'll take dating dynamics for 1000, Alex .... (in reality, I'm trying to gather myself after reading 2sure's revelations this morning; humor helps) OP, if he's really interested, he'll take off the headset and ask you out on a date. Otherwise, such musings are largely irrelevant....sorry
Author jo2 Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 Sounds like he is attached. He's not attached...listed as single.
Bleeve Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 ask him out, then you will have your answer seriously, I have been asked out and if I like them, I go....if not I decline pretty simple
BCCA Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 ask him out, then you will have your answer seriously, I have been asked out and if I like them, I go....if not I decline pretty simple This^. Thats your best move, Id say. Go for it
Author jo2 Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 This^. Thats your best move, Id say. Go for it I have invited him to a couple of events I was in, but he had to work. Also kind of indirectly invited him to the beach once too. I kind of feel the ball is in his court.
Bleeve Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I have invited him to a couple of events I was in, but he had to work. Also kind of indirectly invited him to the beach once too. I kind of feel the ball is in his court. ok, so he knows you are interested Then you are right, ball in his court......in the meantime don't wait around and do date others
Author jo2 Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 ok, so he knows you are interested Then you are right, ball in his court......in the meantime don't wait around and do date others I think he definitely knows I'm interested. He makes an effort to come up and say hi...sometimes I purposely try not to look at him to see what he'll do and he'll make the effort and come up and say hi. Then I'll catch him looking and smiling/smirking...my instincts tell me he's interested too. Can you trust your instincts?
Isolde Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 My instinct from this limited information is he's attracted to you but isn't directly interested (read: story of my LIFE, I have encountered this situation more times than I can count.) Maybe that will change though. I'd not think too much about this
spiderowl Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 Emails only? I think he's probably attached. Email is about the only truly private form of communication. Phone calls can be overheard/noticed, so can text messages. If you gave him your number and he didn't use it, there is a problem. Has he given you his number? He sounds interested in you, no doubt about that, but if I were you I'd want to check into his living circumstances very carefully. Do not just take him at his word. Take it from me that some people will lie blatantly. Always check the facts not his words. Someone who is not attached and who is interested in you will let you contact him on home, mobile and work numbers, will not have a problem giving you his address and will be happy to have you visit, will also be happy to introduce you to his friends/family. Someone who is attached and is playing around will hint at all these things and talk as if they will happen but somehow it never will. A player will also have unexpected events arise that will prevent him meeting you as arranged. Favourites are: car trouble, work emergencies, kids to look after, sick animals. I am talking experienced players here; your guy might be genuine, or not likely to take it further even if he was attached. Just be aware that not all guys who show an interest can be trusted.
Author jo2 Posted August 30, 2009 Author Posted August 30, 2009 I'm pretty positive he's single and does live with family. I don't think he's a player at all...seems very sincere. Guess I should play the wait and see and try to not take this so seriously...but it's hard lol!
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