MissViolet Posted September 2, 2009 Posted September 2, 2009 lusitan: good Lord that is ridiculously long, I only had strength to read a fraction. So what I got from you post is...a) You're cheap. b) You're drooling over your best bud's girl. c) You're a virgin slayer and after you're done slaying you leave them. d) You have to much time on your hands.
Author TooAccepting32 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Posted September 3, 2009 thanks again everyone for the advice Lusitan: I was so glad when you originally posted because I got a perspective from exactly the kind of guy I wouldn't want to date. My bf is nothing like you thank god. Untouchable fire: hmm... I have advice for guys who want to know what to look for in a non gold digging woman. Maybe I should make a post about it. Maybe I could help you! I'm sorry you had the experience that you did
SpanksTheMonkey Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Why dose a guy have to pay to make us feel like a lady? women want to be in charge mens equals now adays witch is great! But if thats honestly the case then yes it should be a 50/50 split no? But don't play the helpless lady in need role only when it suits us! OK I'm ready for my flaming got my fire retardant suit on lol..
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Lusitan: I was so glad when you originally posted because I got a perspective from exactly the kind of guy I wouldn't want to date. My bf is nothing like you thank god. You read that? Untouchable fire: hmm... I have advice for guys who want to know what to look for in a non gold digging woman. Maybe I should make a post about it. Maybe I could help you! I'm sorry you had the experience that you did Please, that would make a great thread. I'm sorry you have to go through what you do with your BF. I know he is probably a good guy at heart... but it literally takes training to make some guys thoughtful and I think that is the biggest issue you face.
Els Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Why dose a guy have to pay to make us feel like a lady? women want to be in charge mens equals now adays witch is great! But if thats honestly the case then yes it should be a 50/50 split no? But don't play the helpless lady in need role only when it suits us! OK I'm ready for my flaming got my fire retardant suit on lol.. Unfortunately in the OP's case it's more like 80/20, with her paying 80.
The Collector Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Unfortunately in the OP's case it's more like 80/20, with her paying 80. I'm all for 50/50 and equality of financial arrangements, unless one partner earns much more then it would be nice if they did a lot of treating. In the OP's case though it does indeed sound like he is maniacally penny-pinching and selfish.
WineCountry Posted September 3, 2009 Posted September 3, 2009 At the risk of sounding like a male chauvinist, I must admit that I've known plenty of long-winded women in both my life and LS, but I've never seen any to rival Lusitan's talent for dragging on and on and on and on in a post, not even JS. God, Lusitan, are you sure you're even male??? Any true-blooded male would fall asleep a quarter-way through that tirade and type TL;DR. No freaking s##t!! I have NEVER, in my entire time of reading forums, all kinds of forums..have I EVER seen a post so da*mn long. And i have been on forums that have mostly women on them..and STILL this post..HANDS DOWN..wins for the longest rant I have ever seen!! And that includes mine..because i thought I was long winded! Dude claims he is all male, but that long winded, emotion filled, self validating post SCREAMS otherwise. Switch the sexes, and his post sounds like an emotionally wounded woman who has now vowed to "harden her heart" against men. And im a woman, so i can admit we can be a tad emotional at times. Most men I know wouldnt even be able to TYPE all that emotion out in a week, much less do it in a few minutes on a post. Good thing he doesn't want to get into a serious relationship. Can you imagine him having his monthly at the same time his girlfriend is???
Author TooAccepting32 Posted September 5, 2009 Author Posted September 5, 2009 You read that? Please, that would make a great thread. I'm sorry you have to go through what you do with your BF. I know he is probably a good guy at heart... but it literally takes training to make some guys thoughtful and I think that is the biggest issue you face. I read peter pan's first post and I felt grateful to read the perspective from a type of guy I would never want to date in a million years. Creepy. It made me appreciate my own bf a lot more. The second one.. I tried. Honestly.. then after a few paragraphs I realized I wouldn't benefit in any way from the ongoing psychobabble. I hadn't even realized how ridiculously long it was until I tried to scroll down past the rest of it to see the next poster's comments. Yikes.. I remember thinking wow.. he's trying hard to convince himself that he's ok... he should create his own thread for the purpose of justifying his lifestyle, relationship style and the fact that he dates 19 year olds. oki doki.. I won't forget to create a thread when I have a bit of time to put it together for you! Thanks for your comments btw.. I think you're right. Good at heart and training.. literally... at least I hope so! We'll give it a shot and we'll see. I guess we all have things to learn in terms of how to care for a partner! Even if it may seem evident to the other partner. take care
Els Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 No freaking s##t!! I have NEVER, in my entire time of reading forums, all kinds of forums..have I EVER seen a post so da*mn long. And i have been on forums that have mostly women on them..and STILL this post..HANDS DOWN..wins for the longest rant I have ever seen!! And that includes mine..because i thought I was long winded! Dude claims he is all male, but that long winded, emotion filled, self validating post SCREAMS otherwise. Switch the sexes, and his post sounds like an emotionally wounded woman who has now vowed to "harden her heart" against men. And im a woman, so i can admit we can be a tad emotional at times. Most men I know wouldnt even be able to TYPE all that emotion out in a week, much less do it in a few minutes on a post. Good thing he doesn't want to get into a serious relationship. Can you imagine him having his monthly at the same time his girlfriend is??? They'd probably have a cool drama-filled thread here that'd cause the LS server to breakdown due to the excessive lengths of certain posts submitted.
musicfan876 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 So wait a minute? Why can't a woman be just as giving in the beginning? If a guy doesn't automatically pay for a meal, he's a cheap selfish bastard? Wasn't there this whole thing I read about, women's liberation where women fought (rightly) for the respect of being seen as equal? Huh, until courtship and then it's all Victorian again. nah man it will always be like this. although anecdotally the only women i know who did pay or treat their dates to home cooked meals early on were the traditional women who became housewives. and i mean good housewives. most housewives are lazy. its traditional women who know what it is like to be a good hostess.they enjoy treating their dates not just do it after he has proven himself. women like butcher's hook will never be like one of them. they understand nothing about generosity except that somehow it only an attractive quality in women. traditional is not the world to describe them. as vox said selfish and princess is and most truly traditional women would look down upon them.
musicfan876 Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 lol I'm sorry if I offended you, but I don't see anything about a relationship that is fair and even, or 50/50. Thats the kind of relationship you have with someone at work, not a romantic relationship. I don't want to be treated like a coworker, I want to be treated like a lady. True. The servant - master or knight-whiny princess relationship is obviously a step up.
whiteberry Posted October 8, 2009 Posted October 8, 2009 I'm 32.. no kids.. I have a lot going for me with the exception of age.. I'm fit and healthy, and according to some I'm a really pretty girl. I would like a family and I don't know if I'll end up all dried up at 34 or something and having to start over. Never lose hope. Try to find someone online . It's not too late to have your own family.
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