tkgirl Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager. seriously? I'm in my 40's and think I look better than I did when I was in my 20's! maybe not.. but I feel better and am waaay more confident etc. I truly believe we all get better as we age... so stop comparing yourself to other "girls" and start loving who you are!
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Well, I'm 29 and I feel much better than I did at 19. I'm more secure, I'm healthier physically and emotionally. I'm confident, and I've had some great experiences that make me who I am. I feel BAD for the 19-y/o's. They have a long way to go to get to where I'm at.
tkgirl Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Well, I'm 29 and I feel much better than I did at 19. I'm more secure, I'm healthier physically and emotionally. I'm confident, and I've had some great experiences that make me who I am. I feel BAD for the 19-y/o's. They have a long way to go to get to where I'm at. yep... that's what I'm talking about... and I swear it only gets better!
dreamergrl Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Well, I'm 29 and I feel much better than I did at 19. I'm more secure, I'm healthier physically and emotionally. I'm confident, and I've had some great experiences that make me who I am. I feel BAD for the 19-y/o's. They have a long way to go to get to where I'm at. Me too! Only I'm almost 28
stuckinwithyou Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 it is part of cycle of life don't let it get into you your problem is that you care and it is part of your personality you want to feel better look at people who are older than you or fatter or uglier then you know how lucky you are with what you have I know big fat ugly people who eat like pigs and don't give a crap what other people think about them do me a favor " every time you feel bad go to dinner at a buffet restaurant" and I know you will look like Cinderella between the crowd
sb129 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 A friend of mine is 30 and he has recently rejected a hot 22 year old girl because she is too young for him and he is after a LTR. True story. I don't know ANY guy in his 30s who would be interested in a LTR with someone younger than probably 28. There is some utter rubbish on this thread. Turning 29 was almost like a light going on for me- it was a real turning point, almost overnight I stopped giving a sh*t about what everyone else thought and started to feel awesome in my own skin. I met my H a few days later - and age is so not an issue for me now, my 30th birthday was my best birthday ever! I'll be 32 in a couple of months, and I wouldn't go back to being in my 20s for anything.
kiss_andmakeup Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 I feel, at 22, that I am embarking on some of my best years physically speaking. In my teens I had acne, I was gawky and awkward, I was skinny but not fit, and I had not yet fallen into a personal style and confidence. Now my skin has outgrown the acne but not yet grown into wrinkles, and I am still slim but know how to take care of my body so that it's fit as well. I now carry myself better than I ever have and am more confident in my appearance than I have ever been. Your 20s are a great time. If you don't enjoy them now, you'll only regret it when they're over. Same goes for your 30s, your 40s, and beyond. Appreciate the woman you're evolving into every day. It's absolutely insane to feel "old" in your mid-twenties...you should feel on top of the world.
MadDriver Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 I don't know ANY guy in his 30s who would be interested in a LTR with someone younger than probably 28. There is some utter rubbish on this thread. What kind of utter rubbish are you spewing? All the guys I know in their 30's would give their left nut to be with "spring chickens". There is no niche for "teen porn" because that's *mainstream* porn. A bunch of 18, 19, 20, 21 college girls on film. I met my H a few days later Oh I see, you're a WOMAN -- no wonder you have no idea what goes on inside a MAN's head. Men want younger women. That's the cold hard truth of the world we live in.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 Younger girls make everyone feel old, except for the older men who marry them. LOL LOL very good yes
Citizen Erased Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 LOL very good yes How long will I be young for? 3 years? This thread is depressing...
burning 4 revenge Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 How long will I be young for? 3 years? This thread is depressing... You have an old soul I did too And look what happened to me
Vet Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 What kind of utter rubbish are you spewing? All the guys I know in their 30's would give their left nut to be with "spring chickens". There is no niche for "teen porn" because that's *mainstream* porn. A bunch of 18, 19, 20, 21 college girls on film. Just because you know a few immature idiots doesn't make them a representation of men as a group.
northstar1 Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 What kind of utter rubbish are you spewing? All the guys I know in their 30's would give their left nut to be with "spring chickens". There is no niche for "teen porn" because that's *mainstream* porn. A bunch of 18, 19, 20, 21 college girls on film. Oh I see, you're a WOMAN -- no wonder you have no idea what goes on inside a MAN's head. Men want younger women. That's the cold hard truth of the world we live in. And show me how many of these 30 something men will end up with a serious relationship with these 20 year olds. I doubt many.
sb129 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 What kind of utter rubbish are you spewing? All the guys I know in their 30's would give their left nut to be with "spring chickens". There is no niche for "teen porn" because that's *mainstream* porn. A bunch of 18, 19, 20, 21 college girls on film. Oh I see, you're a WOMAN -- no wonder you have no idea what goes on inside a MAN's head. Men want younger women. That's the cold hard truth of the world we live in. Uh, OK whatever. The world I live in is somewhat different to that, we must be from different worlds. You are more than welcome to stay in yours, we don't need your kind round here! My H (and all our 30 something male friends) could quite easily GET women in their 20s, but not one of them is with one. I wonder why that is? Care to tell me, seeing as I can't possibly know whats going on in their heads? Just because you know a few immature idiots doesn't make them a representation of men as a group. And show me how many of these 30 something men will end up with a serious relationship with these 20 year olds. I doubt many. Thank you, some more voices of reason.
GrayClouds Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager. Date an old guy he wont see the difference and likely be better in bed.
Lizzie60 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 WOW... do I want to look like what I looked like in my 20s.. not a chance.. I weigh 87 lbs when I got pregnant at 22... I think my best years, look-wise.. was 45 to 54... these were my best years... Don't compare yourself to teenagers.. come on.. older might be better.. much better.. trust me.
Lizzie60 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Wow, I opened this thread thinking MissJ must be my age or something. To hear someone that much younger than me saying they feel 'old' makes me feel like a fossil. .................
Tayla Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 LOL to the fossil comment! I got a few fossils in this here ole body that when I die the scientist will ask how I lasted so long! Geritol does wonders !! Gotta say, I loved every age/stage I have gone thru, Loved the 20's! Enjoyed the 30's and Now living/loving life in the 40's! The best part is when you realize Hey! I've come along way and dern glad I did! I admire beauty in many forms, and it isnt the YOUTH that is the most beautiful in my perspective. I've seen such beautiful smiles thru different ages, be it a child or my aunt getting her cherished roses to blossom that year! There is a glow that is gorgoeus from the inside out! If the opposite sex seems to see beauty only on the surface then they are shallow and will continue such. So be it if there are some men who want to rob the cradle, saves the Real Men for ladies who have matured and outgrown the bubblegum stage Cheers to those who get that age is a number and you are always Number 1 to those that value your beautiful being!
MadDriver Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Just because you know a few immature idiots doesn't make them a representation of men as a group. Wake up Vet, you're the idiot here who is afraid to see the truth. You've been brainwashed by your mom. As an example of your inaptitude, you could have taken the bias-by-undersampling argument to sb129's post, but you chose not to. I replied to sb129's post using her same style of anecdotal evidence, but I knew a few idiots like you wouldn't be able to grasp what I was I doing. That's why I included the porn market paragraph -- that's a statistical proof that men prefer younger women -- voting with your dollars. You probably still have no idea what I'm talking about, so just trust me on this one, ok Vet boy? I don't want to make your head explode...
MadDriver Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Uh, OK whatever. The world I live in is somewhat different to that, we must be from different worlds. You are more than welcome to stay in yours, we don't need your kind round here! I agree -- you and Vet must be in some bizarro la-la land where 30 year-old strippers make more money than 18 year-old strippers... That just simply doesn't happen in my world. I live in the real world. In the real world you can actually determine people's preferences using market research. The 30 year old men you know are simply not telling you what they really want. Just as you hardly tell them what you really want as a woman. In sb129 and Vet's bizarro world, you can just choose to believe that gravity does not exist, and then jump off a cliff... I'm not stopping you.
MadDriver Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 And show me how many of these 30 something men will end up with a serious relationship with these 20 year olds. I doubt many. It's because the average 20-year-old female is not choosing your average 30-year-old male. Not the other way around. Biologists call this Female Choice. If the 30-year-old male had a choice, he'd pick the younger woman. Alas, he has to settle for a woman his own age.
sb129 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 Who said anything about 30 year old strippers? What a weird thing to bring into the mix, I don't doubt you for a second that 18 year old strippers are probably in more demand than 30 year old ones. But a strip club is sooooo just like real life, isn't it? Maybe yours. Eek. Not mine. I can determine peoples preferences in the world I live in because not one married or coupled up man I know over the age of 30 is with someone under the age of 30. Surely if their "preferences" were so definitely that of being with someone younger, at least one or two of them wouldn't have bothered marrying their over 30 girlfriends and would be out going for it with 18 year olds? What was my H thinking by marrying me if all he wants is a 20 something girl? This time last year we weren't even married, I must have something he likes, right?
sb129 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 If the 30-year-old male had a choice, he'd pick the younger woman. Alas, he has to settle for a woman his own age. :rolleyes::rolleyes: You are just awesome MD. Can't wait to hear you tear strips off me and tell me how my H has "settled" for me. Go for it. Sticks and stones and all that.
sb129 Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 PS- I'm not "afraid" of any "truth". No brainwashing here. Unlike you, I am in a happy marriage, and all is going really well, thanks for asking. And in the unlikely event of that not being the case in the future, I can see myself being a pretty damn HOT cougar. Lots of 20 something guys just loooooove women with a little experience. I really need to stay away from threads full of bitter unhappy people with warped views of the world.
Citizen Erased Posted September 1, 2009 Posted September 1, 2009 You have an old soul I did too And look what happened to me Oh s**t I'm screwed aren't I.
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