MissJoness Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager.
Vet Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager. Just wait until you're in your mid-30s, or mid-40s, or heaven forbid, your mid-50s. Do you really want to live your life like this? It is an absolute fact of life that you will get older, and that there will always be people younger than yourself who look more beautiful than yourself. Why agonize over something you can't control? 1
loveslife Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Is this serious? Are women nowadays worrying about age in their 20s????? Trust me, it gets better as you get older. Turning 30 was one of the most liberating experiences ever. Turning 40 was such a relief. I wouldn't be in my 20s again for anything and certainly not a teenager. Good thing, I guess, because it's not going to happen. It's wonderful to be older and wiser. The quality of men is MUCH better as well. Don't focus on the stories here of men wanting only young girls. That's just not the blanket feeling out there. The better you feel about yourself the better quality of guy you'll attract, at any age. 1
Author MissJoness Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 I just feel like the guys in my age group want the younger girls 18-20. I stress that they may find them more youthful and attractive than girls in their mid 20s
caramel c Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 You need to get a hold of yourself. This is a horrible attitude to have. Is this how you really want to be? Are you constantly comparing yourself to others, in different ways, or is this the one thing? There is no point in worrying yourself over this. There will always be females younger than you and there will always be females older than you. What you should be concentrating on is doing the best you can with what you have.
caramel c Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I just feel like the guys in my age group want the younger girls 18-20. I stress that they may find them more youthful and attractive than girls in their mid 20s If thats how a guy feels, then he is not the guy for you. It's very simple.
Author MissJoness Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 since I've gotten into my mid 20s, I have been comparing myself to younger girls a lot. In class, I look at them and wonder if I look much older than them, or if I am as pretty as them, etc. It's on my mind all the time. I haven't been eating much lately, just trying to starve myself to get really really thin like a teenager
caramel c Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 since I've gotten into my mid 20s, I have been comparing myself to younger girls a lot. In class, I look at them and wonder if I look much older than them, or if I am as pretty as them, etc. It's on my mind all the time. I haven't been eating much lately, just trying to starve myself to get really really thin like a teenager It sounds like you are developing an eating disorder and you may need professional help. This is not healthy.
Gamine Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 My husband and I are 2 years apart in age... I'm 48 and he's 50. He has been asked about his 'very young wife' and suggestion that he has 'robbed the cradle'. I remember spending the afternoon with a bunch of people at a trunk show and one of the women commenting at the end of the day that I didn't know what I was talking about... because, after all, I couldn't have been more than 25/26 years old. Sometimes people who are 18 look used up. Clean living, keeping your head on straight, having a kind heart, etc... does more for looking 'young' than anything. I suppose I stopped being concerned that age reflected age... and simply always tried to look the best I could at any given period in my life. I have found that looking good and knowing it... seems to be a magnet to steel for men... and I'm not sure that chronological age has much to do with it. At almost 50 I have high school boys cat calling me... one screaming out that he'll be turning 18 soon. So I have to wonder if age has much to do with being foxy.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager. I've felt like this before... it sucks! I stay away from guys my age that go for the young girls now.
Hkizzle Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I'm starting to get very depressed the older and older I get. I'm jealous of the younger girls who are 18-20ish. Even men admit to thinking that younger girls are more physically attractive. I'm so insecure to the point that I don't even want to leave the house anymore because I feel old and think I'm starting to look old. when i look in the mirror i see that mid 20ish look that doesn't have that super young and fresh look like a teenager. Ok wow, people need to get a hang of their insecurities. The first time I found out a black man had a bigger penis than me, I was intimidated, but afraid to get out of the house?
missdependant Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Good god, I hope you're joking. "Woe me, I'm aging just like everyone else." Really shallow. Afraid to leave the house because of aging? Unfortunately, I don't feel sorry for you.. I think you should seek therapy. If you really think your deteriorating appearance is enough of a reason to stay home and avoid everything good in the world, you probably need to go to counseling.. and start a fund for cosmetic surgery. IMO, there's tons of life to live, tons of men who are interested in girls their OWN AGE, too much fun to have to worry about petty, inevitable things like aging. It's going to happen to everyone, including the little 18-20 year old girls you're looking at. Soon, they'll be in their mid-twenties, and seem "horribly unattractive".
Vet Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Ok wow, people need to get a hang of their insecurities. The first time I found out a black man had a bigger penis than me, I was intimidated, but afraid to get out of the house? Was he at least gentle with you?
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Ok wow, people need to get a hang of their insecurities. The first time I found out a black man had a bigger penis than me, I was intimidated, but afraid to get out of the house? Did you hang on to your soap?
Hkizzle Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Was he at least gentle with you? haha, that was actually a good one.
prettybaby Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Oh my God, I just responded to your other thread about the need you feel to wear sexy clothes because you feel like crap in regular clothes. I thought you were in your late 30's or 40's or something So, you and I are about the same age then? Wow. I definitely don't feel old!! Girl, snap out of it.
vox Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 If you don't see the value in yourself, why the hell should anyone else?
westernxer Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Younger girls make everyone feel old, except for the older men who marry them. LOL
Jersey Shortie Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Actually, that's why older men marry younger women. Youth by association. Trying desperately to hold on to their last bit of youth and think it can be done by having a younger partner.
Vet Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Actually, that's why older men marry younger women. Youth by association. Trying desperately to hold on to their last bit of youth and think it can be done by having a younger partner. ...or they find them attractive.
Jersey Shortie Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I have no doubt they find them attractive. It doesn't mean that a huge part of it is very often dependent on his own insecurities as an aging man and knowing his place in the world to make his mark is going to come to an end.
dreamergrl Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I think there are some men out there that go for younger girls because they are more impressionable. They'll listen to sly words of charm more. Easier to convince. Less experience sometimes equals out to more naive.
northstar1 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I have no doubt they find them attractive. It doesn't mean that a huge part of it is very often dependent on his own insecurities as an aging man and knowing his place in the world to make his mark is going to come to an end. Didn't you used to date older men? What was your reasong for dating them? Money? Security? Experience. Surely there must be a reason that some women rich older guys.
Vet Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I have no doubt they find them attractive. It doesn't mean that a huge part of it is very often dependent on his own insecurities as an aging man and knowing his place in the world to make his mark is going to come to an end. This doesn't even make sense. Marrying a young woman = making your mark on the world?
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