BigBubbs Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I can't believe it. My friend emailed me yesterday and said my ex that broke up with me 3 weeks ago when I refused to deal with her ultimatums has put her profile on a Millionaire dating website. She is looking for dating, long term relationships and intimate/casual relations. I have explained in my previous posts that she is 39 with 2 children and has been through very abusive relationships and now has very low self esteem (her words) and doesn't want to be alone. This really makes me sad as she is so desparately seeking love. She's got alot of issues with men and I am worried she is doing exactly what she told me she was afraid of doing. She also doesn't have any close friends to talk with about things. I still care about her and her children very much and they have been through alot but I don't know what I can do. I can't go try to get back with her as that would not be healthy for me as I have to set boundries and can't be in a relationship with ultimatums used whenever we argue. But I hate to see someone I really care about doing this. She is going to get used again. I wish my friend hadn't shown me this as being blissfully unaware and having no cantact has bein so much easier. Please help
silic0ntoad Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Don't look at the website. This shows you a few things: 1. She's a gold digger now. As soon as one of those millionaires is in her grasp, you may as well forget it. 2. She'll never settle and be happy. Stick to NC and keep chugging forward.
Lizzie60 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 She's your ex .. right? Why bother.. if she gets used.. it's her problem.. not yours. I can't blame her for trying to date a wealthy guy.. why not? she's better off with an attractive rich guy than a poor, ugly guy.. Just kidding.. but seriously, her choice of 'dating sites' is her own business..
jerbear Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Just let her be. Age 39 with 2 kids is not on a typical millionaire's list of long term mates. Dates and intimate encounters sure. Marriage potential, maybe in Hollywood. You two are broken up so just let her be and detach yourself from her including her kids. The kids are their parent's responsibility.
westernxer Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 No way she'll attract a millionaire if she's 39 with children.
northstar1 Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 No way she'll attract a millionaire if she's 39 with children. Maybe as a Nanny???
Author BigBubbs Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 It sucks though. When you still care about someone as a person and see them doing something stupid with no one to talk them out of it its hard. If she was on a site just telling the truth about what she wants and who she is then at least I wouldn't feel like I was watching a car crash happening. Really sad and I feel partially responsible
Author BigBubbs Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Cali .. thanks for the book recommendation "No More Mr Nice Guy". I got it earlier this week. About 1/3 through it and man it reads like it was written about me.
Thaddeus Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Cali .. thanks for the book recommendation "No More Mr Nice Guy". I got it earlier this week. About 1/3 through it and man it reads like it was written about me.A LOT of men feel that way when they go through it. "Holy sh*t! How does Dr Glover know exactly what's going on inside my head??" I had the same reaction when I first read it. Don't stop with just reading it though. Go through the exercises. And - trust me on this - they WILL stretch you.
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