tamarachick Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I posted a few weeks ago when I had a first date and thought i had stuffed it up but he contacted me and we have been out since so that's good and thanks for the advice! Just a bit of background, we live about 90 mins' drive from one another, I am divorced (no kids) he is several weeks away from the decree absolute with a child of 10. I get the impression I may be his first dating experience since his divorce but not too sure. So he has now asked me out twice but because we don't live so close it's been 10 days between dates and we don't have that much contact. He seems to be keen but also not exactly beating a path to my door. My question is how to play it. I know he is not quite divorced and his child is everything to him and he is worried about the effect of hte divorce on his child, as of course he would be. I would really like to see him again but don't know how I should behave. I mean should I let him do alll the asking and leave it to him to ask me out again? I am happy to do that but there's a fine line between being too cool and beeing too keen. I am happy to give him space and leave it to him but equally I wonder whether i should give him some encouragement? ... I don't want to add to his issues and make him feel hassled but he does seem to be taking a cautious (but very slow-moving) interest in me and we do get on well and have a laugh together. I just have no idea what he wants from me and obviuosly it is way to early to have any such conversations... Maybe I should just text/email every now and then and keep in touch without making any reference to meeting up...I really, really don't know. I don't want to stuff this one up.... Any advice anyone, please?
sexibanez Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I think you need to give him the space and time to get his divorce and home life sorted, there's no reason why you can't be part of that if he asks for your help, but personally I'd steer clear until the dust settles and his kid is ready to see his dad with another woman... Perhaps the best course of action would be to inform him you're there if he needs you but that you don't want to be another burden on him while he sorts this stuff out, so you want to give him some space and to call you if he wants to take things further.
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