Mr. Stumpy Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Ok Im a decent lookin guy and Im decently tall, 5 foot 11.5, and I have a decent build. Im a pretty good guy and know how to treat people. HOWEVER, my hands are VERY messed up. My fingers didn't grow right (long story), and they are shorter than every single guys and girls hands I know. I am constantly hiding them... it's horrible... they are killing ALL confidence I have... Are they that bad? heres a scan: http://i998.photobucket.com/albums/af101/mrstumpy01/img013.jpg please no rude answers... i almost killed myself over my hands. compare them to your own hands and let me know what you think. Link to post Share on other sites
yasmina1706 Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Believe me, your hands look perfectly normal to me, if I were to meet someone with hands like these I wouldn't notice anything unusual about them whatsoever. They are not 'messed up' and your fingers do seem to have grown properly I think you are creating more of a problem for yourself by focusing on them so much. Please take it from me, and I'm sure other posters will say the same thing, your hands are not abnormal. Is there something else going on in your life which could be an underlying cause of this issue? Do you have hobbies or interests you love which define you as a person more than a body part? A lot of people dislike something about their bodies but not to this extent. Take care and don't hide your hands! P.S is your screen name somehow related to this? Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I think maybe you have some kind of body dysmorphia - seeing something wrong with a part of your body, when in fact there is nothing wrong with it at all! They just look like a normal pair of hands to me! In fact you have quite nice hands. Absolutely nothing to worry about! I really don't think any girls would care less about this... Link to post Share on other sites
Littlemixtape Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 They look completely normal to me. By the way you had described them I was expecting something horribly disfigured and then when I looked at the pic it was like "those are completely normal! that's not odd at all!" Honestly too, hands are the very last thing a girl pays attention to. I can't think of a single instance where I even thought about a guy's hands ever and I don't know a single girl that would say "i met this really great guy, but his hands...." i mean, not to discount the way you feel about them, I'm not trying to say you're nuts for feeling that way; i understand everybody has issues about their own bodies, I'm just trying to let you know they are just fine The thing is though, everybody could tell you that they're normal till they're blue in the face, it really is up to you to really see that there's nothing wrong with you. You need to believe it yourself, and I'd say it sounds to me like its time you did The more you hide them, the more you will be handicapping yourself and making it more of an issue for the people that care about you. Be confident! Don't allow yourself to think that way anymore. Any time you start thinking those thoughts again, stop. Just stop. And know that you are normal. I mean, you said yourself you're a pretty decent looking guy, right? Believe in that. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Huh, your fingers look normal. Not long, but perfectly average. Link to post Share on other sites
prettybaby Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Are you kidding? Your hands are normal. In fact, they look exactly like my ex's hands. People get embarrassed about the silliest things. Link to post Share on other sites
girl68 Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Meh, certainly nothing to kill yourself over. If someone tells you something rudely simply tell them to f*** off. So you have small hands, some men have ginormous heads, small penises, tiny boobies, huuuuuge asses, non exsistant lips... you name it. Don't get all down about it. It's no big deal. I think you make a big deal more than other people make it a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 at the end of the day it's all just flesh and bone, and we don't get to keep them forever. don't let other's dictate your happiness; live it for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
vox Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 You almost killed yourself over your hands? Why is life wasted on the living? Link to post Share on other sites
CLC2008 Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Your hands look totally fine, but it looks like the photo was taken with the right hand on the left side Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 As long as you know how to use them, you will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 You're hands are completely normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I think your hands look very normal! There is nothing wrong with them at all. Has anyone ever commented on your hands or is this simply your own perspective? We tend to judge ourselves more harshly than anyone, but this is hardly anything to kill yourself over! Jeeze! Link to post Share on other sites
butcher's hook Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Your hands look totally normal in fact the picture of the palm down, iit looks really hot! I like manly hands/arms you have very manly hands/fingers and the hair on your arm is really hot too. Link to post Share on other sites
Vet Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I see what you're saying; they're slightly disproportionate in relation to your palms. We all have small abnormalities with our bodies that we have to get over, or we'll spend our entire lives agonizing over them. You're only here once. You want to spend it worrying about the length of your fully-functioning fingers or actually living? Link to post Share on other sites
Lish Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I agree with the poster above... it's quite hot. You're really very normal. Don't worry about things that aint worth worrying about Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 i don't know what you're talkin' about here...they look normal Link to post Share on other sites
borbiusle Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 I'm not a girl but my good friend was born with a hand deformity where his fingers obviously look shrunken. He's in super-good shape, picks up women daily and always smooth-talks his way into living in their house and running the place as if he bought it, very nice houses I might add. Your hand is the very least of your problems man. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Nuthin wrong with your hands Stumpy. At least you have fingers with girth. For many women, its all about a strong grasp, like when you grab their ass in the midst of passion, you know? I think you know that already. Be happy you dont have what I have. Im a petite guy, genetically built after my mom, so im skinny with small woman hands. I had to keep that out of my head so that I dont think my women think they have woman hands on them. Its all your own perception, and it will take practice, mental practice to get over your insecurity of your hands. But you have nothing to worry about. Hands look pretty good size to me...kinda like penis fingers. I envy you. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Short fingers.. not a problem.. Short thumb.. humm... could be a sign of a small d*ck.. Seriously.. I think there is much more to worry about than the length of our fingers.. The only thing I check on guys' hands are their nails.. (clean, well trimmed).. Link to post Share on other sites
stefspets Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 To me, yes I think your fingers do look a little bit short, but this is coming from a person who has extremely long, skinny fingers (think skeletal). So my sense of normal is probably a bit skewed in the other direction. If you hadn't posted what you did though I wouldn't have thought there was anything wrong. I wouldn't have thought anything about it. Everyone is different (i.e. I don't expect everyone to have my skeleton hands). I wouldn't stress about this. If a girl has a problem with your hands she's probably not someone you want to waste your time with. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted August 28, 2009 Share Posted August 28, 2009 Ok Im a decent lookin guy and Im decently tall, 5 foot 11.5, and I have a decent build. Im a pretty good guy and know how to treat people. HOWEVER, my hands are VERY messed up. My fingers didn't grow right (long story), and they are shorter than every single guys and girls hands I know. I am constantly hiding them... it's horrible... they are killing ALL confidence I have... Are they that bad? heres a scan: http://i998.photobucket.com/albums/af101/mrstumpy01/img013.jpg please no rude answers... i almost killed myself over my hands. compare them to your own hands and let me know what you think. Stumpy, this is what I think. A) no I don't think they are bad. B) if any person rejects you on the concept of your hands; you do NOT need that person in your life. I can't believe you have contemplated suicide over your hands? I worry about you. Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted August 29, 2009 Share Posted August 29, 2009 Good lord man! They look just like mine and I never even thought to be self conscious about my hands. My daughter has hands just like mine and I always thought they were adorable. Anyone who would reject us for the shape of our fingers isn't even worth having anyway. Maybe you should get some cuticle cream though--yours don't look well cared for--maybe because you hate them so much? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mr. Stumpy Posted August 30, 2009 Author Share Posted August 30, 2009 Thanks everyone for your replies. I do have a little bit of body dysmorphia, my growth was stunted as a teenager from antidepressants and I used to be 5 foot 8-9, but I got cosmetic leg lengthening surgery to become 5 foot 11, even though I was supposed to be around 6'0"-6'1". But 5'11" is good enough. But with stunted growth means evey bone is stunted, arms, fingers, legs, torso, feet, everything. So even though I'm 5'11" I have the same stunted fingers... They have killed my confidence so much for the past 2 years that I haven't been able to have a girlfriend for all that time, cause I'm kind of egotistical (in a good way) and feeling like a freak cause I have shorter fingers than EVERYONE is the biggest ego-blow to me... My last girlfriend commented saying "you have small hands!" and she was really short with really small hands. Plus a lot of other people have made comments to me about it... So I'm so terrified of what any girl would think if I tried to get with her, I haven't even been able to look girls in the eye... Why would people comment on my hands so much? But I like this message board, seems like a good community. Here's 2 more pics: http://i998.photobucket.com/albums/af101/mrstumpy01/PalmScanWithRulerAndPenny.jpg http://i998.photobucket.com/albums/af101/mrstumpy01/CIMG1146-2.jpg Do you girls still think they're not bad? Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted August 30, 2009 Share Posted August 30, 2009 If girls commented on your hands first and foremost, then they're complete strangers who hasn't gotten to know you. Yes physical attributes oftentimes come into play, but ultimately personality wins in the long run. I wouldn't worry so much about your hand as opposed to why you have so little self- esteem. Most people can overlook their flaws because they are comfortable with they way they are. Like people with scars in visible places. One suggestion: how about getting a manicure? I wouldn't think it effeminate you as much as keeping your nails nice and trim. Link to post Share on other sites
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