EmptyPromises Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 so my ex and i have been trying to work it out for the past 3 weeks. we broke up 3 months ago after a year realtionship due to trust issues. today he went to visit his friends at school who were having a huge frat party. i wasnt happy about it but wasnt going to stop him from going. the past couple of days i let him know i still didnt trust him and was nervous about him going to this huge party. i told him i was worried about him cheating or hooking up with someone else.. he assured me it wouldnt happen. i asked him to call me during the night in that way i knew he was behaving. he said he def would. its 1:15 am. he hasnt called me. how much does that show? seriously i feel sick to my stomach for falling for this bull**** again. if he cared that much about proving to me that i could trust him, he would have called at 1) a decent hour 2) at all. so beyond upset and anxious right now. i sent him a text saying : its 115 im going to bed. i tried calling u 3. u knew how worrie di was about this and u pull this? r u serious? n im supposed to trust you? youre a jerk. have fun. arghadsklfjklasdjf
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 I didnt want to say we told you so, so what now?
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 he finally called and claimed i never called him. he proceeded to say i was a liar after i told him i didnt do nething last night. he called me a lying slut, cheater, everything. i dont understand it. i guess its time to let it go.
t0ri Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Accusing you of lying, cheating, and being a slut randomly? Yikes. My ex did the same thing. He dumped me and came back a month later telling me he wanted to "start over, start fresh, forget the past and take things slow." He had me fooled, acting like we were a couple again, all-the-while talking about me horribly behind my back. He continued to let the relationship be mostly one-sided, as it was before the breakup. And yet again, HE was the one to dump me again a month later. Point is, people don't change in short periods of time. The problems you two had are still there. The trust issues? - still there. 3 months is nowhere near enough time for issues to resolve and people to change in my opinion.
boogieboy Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 he finally called and claimed i never called him. he proceeded to say i was a liar after i told him i didnt do nething last night. he called me a lying slut, cheater, everything. i dont understand it. i guess its time to let it go. Thats ok, you needed a definitive answer, and you got it. He's an ass, and unfortunately you got hurt again, but now you know to keep away from him for good, and you can start your healing.
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 yea, he just called me and apologized said he blacked out and didnt know why he went off on me. he said he should have called me and is stupid for not. but an apology isnt working this time. im extremely pissed off and upset about this. he could have so easily made it go the other way by calling me when he said he would.
utterer of lies Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 yea, he just called me and apologized said he blacked out and didnt know why he went off on me. he said he should have called me and is stupid for not. but an apology isnt working this time. im extremely pissed off and upset about this. he could have so easily made it go the other way by calling me when he said he would. Lets just hope you still remember this in a few days.
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 29, 2009 Author Posted August 29, 2009 yup still do..last night i wound up calling him after he said he would call me..he didnt pick up and called me back 10 min later. said hed call me back in 20 minutes..calle dme at 3 am.. said hed call me in half hour..called me at 7 am. was groggy dont really remember talking to him. do i have a right to be mad? i mean im not his g/f but i think thats kinda disrespectful. and he hasnt called me all day his phone is off.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 By staying in this relationship you are saying that it is ok to treat you this way. I don't know how in your right mind you havent broken up with him yet with no looking back. I guess love makes you go stupid. I'm not calling YOU stupid, but staying in this relationship IS stupid.
nature Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 This isn't a relationship. Basically, he is saying just enough to keep you hanging there, because he knows you will. You're his doormat sitting at home pining for him, while he parties his ass off living the good single life! And you're in the background pining away for him. Makes his ego feel pretty special! And while he's out partying away, he even gets texts and phone calls from you tracking him down! You couldn't stroke his ego any more if you tried!!! No, this isn't a relationship. This is you chasing after a guy who feeds you a few lines to keep you happy...then carries on his merry way.....he says what you want to hear....then he carries on as a single guy...while you pine and track him down. This is the reality, whether you like it or not. We get treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. You don't need to break up with him, because there's nothing to break up from. You are not in a relationship. He is single. You are pining and chasing him. Reality check. Yes you are.
caramel c Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 This isn't a relationship. Basically, he is saying just enough to keep you hanging there, because he knows you will. You're his doormat sitting at home pining for him, while he parties his ass off living the good single life! And you're in the background pining away for him. Makes his ego feel pretty special! And while he's out partying away, he even gets texts and phone calls from you tracking him down! You couldn't stroke his ego any more if you tried!!! No, this isn't a relationship. This is you chasing after a guy who feeds you a few lines to keep you happy...then carries on his merry way.....he says what you want to hear....then he carries on as a single guy...while you pine and track him down. This is the reality, whether you like it or not. We get treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. You don't need to break up with him, because there's nothing to break up from. You are not in a relationship. He is single. You are pining and chasing him. Reality check. Yes you are. Excellent points.
boogieboy Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 This isn't a relationship. Basically, he is saying just enough to keep you hanging there, because he knows you will. You're his doormat sitting at home pining for him, while he parties his ass off living the good single life! And you're in the background pining away for him. Makes his ego feel pretty special! And while he's out partying away, he even gets texts and phone calls from you tracking him down! You couldn't stroke his ego any more if you tried!!! No, this isn't a relationship. This is you chasing after a guy who feeds you a few lines to keep you happy...then carries on his merry way.....he says what you want to hear....then he carries on as a single guy...while you pine and track him down. This is the reality, whether you like it or not. We get treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. You don't need to break up with him, because there's nothing to break up from. You are not in a relationship. He is single. You are pining and chasing him. Reality check. Yes you are. EP make sure you read this post every day.
Recommended Posts