sexibanez Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 These forums have been brilliant in helping me so far, thanks! Ok, I got back in touch with a girl I knew back in my uni days and we arranged to meet up to catch up. I've always reeeeeally liked her but was in a relationship before. So anyway, we met up, it went really well, we stayed til the restaurant closed, we talked and flirted, it was really nice. We arranged to meet again a few days later, we watched a movie (the proposal - worst movie ever i wanted to shoot myself at several points but she loved it so i pretended to too ), then bowling and finally we went for dinner again. During all this we talked about bra sizes (she even told me hers), relationships, our friends, exs, family, her fave flowers, jobs all the usual - interesting point: I said I was surprised how unlucky she's been with her exs as she could basically have any man she wants (cringe i know i know), but then she said the same to me that i could have any woman i wanted - at this point i thought OMG so changed the subject instead of pursuing it... At the end of the night she held my arm as we walked to the car, and then said 'kiss me goodnight'. Here is where all of my friends differ in opinion. Some say that when a woman shows you affection and you're getting along well, holds your arm and tells you to kiss her good night, you give her a full on kiss to show her you want her. Other friends say that it was only the second time out, neither time were classed as official dates, and she probably wouldnt be expecting a full on kiss. I'm a massive wuss, so gave her the ever stable, ever reliable peck on the cheek. I did this because I am afraid of being rejected. I dunno whether the time we spent together were even dates as neither of us said it was so, though it really felt like it at the time. More than anything, I was afraid of ruining my chances by going for it too early! I've arranged for her to come to my friend's house where we're going to enjoy some board games (cranium)/scrabble, together. My new plan is to present her with her favourite flower at the end of the night and kiss her then - but only if it's going well and all the stars are perfectly aligned and I suddenly grow a pair. I am going back to London too, so there are long distance issues that will have to be dealt with if things do progress. But I'll make a new thread for those issues if I get anywhere. Please bestow your ever appreciated views and opinions, should I go for it? Should I wait longer? Should I ask her if I can kiss her?
Author sexibanez Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 oh, and she told me the second time we went out that she's shown aaaaaall of my facebook pictures to her mum, in which i am doing several embarrassing things...
westrock Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 At the end of the night she held my arm as we walked to the car, and then said 'kiss me goodnight'. She obviously had a good time so you are doing something right. I'm a massive wuss, so gave her the ever stable, ever reliable peck on the cheek. I did this because I am afraid of being rejected. She specifically asks you to kiss her but then you are afraid to kiss her because you're afraid of being rejected? Don't be so hard on yourself. Should I ask her if I can kiss her? She already said you can kiss her, so what different answer are you hoping for to make it more clear to you? Does she need to put it in writing for you? My new plan is to present her with her favourite flower at the end of the night and kiss her then - but only if it's going well and all the stars are perfectly aligned and I suddenly grow a pair. If you wait until the "stars are perfectly aligned", you'll be waiting a long time. Just be yourself and have a good time. At the end of the night, just kiss her! If you're doing embarrassing things on your facebook pictures that you are not proud of then why have them up there? Remove them.
Author sexibanez Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 yeah when she said kiss me i didnt know whether that meant a peck on the cheek or a full on kiss, so played it safe. As for facebook pictures, i should indeed remove some of them, but they always make me grin and i want to share them with certain friends! I'm just confused as to what to do for the next time i see her. my friends are advising all sorts of scenarios!
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