How hard would it be for a 26 year old virgin who never dated to attract a cougar?

[Doku]

First and foremost, hear me out. I have spent most of my late teens and early twenties mostly indifferent to the idea of dating because I have been too busy with working dead end jobs and trying to go to school part time, and also just found most people (men and women alike) my age immature, and frankly ended up growing up sort of a misanthrope. Over the last year I finally have gone to school full time and am very close to finishing an applied mathematics degree with at least a 3.7, and I am hoping to obtain an entry level position hopefully in either the actuarial or software engineering field which are supposed to have a starting pay of at least 50k, and is likely go up as I obtain more experience. Also, I have dealt with some weight problems before that I have had when I was younger (I have been told by people I acually look pretty good back then, and now that I am in better shape I've had alot of other guys wonder why someone as attractive as me has never dated).

 

So no, by the end of this I am going to be perfectly financially independent and I am not looking for a rich mommy. It's just that I have grown up too busy just trying to survive to consider dating and have finally taken some of an interest in it later than most people, and for some reason seem to be attracted particularly to women older than me.

[samspade]

You need to work on yourself and your game, and not worry right now about your first lay, whether she's a cougar or not.

 

The very fact that you're focused on cougars tells me your confidence is low and you'll settle for a desperate older lady at this point. Now, there's nothing wrong with sexing older women - I've done it - but don't deny yourself the wide range of females available to you. Any woman between 18 and death is attainable, but you will have to work on your attitude, your confidence, and your game. PM me and I will help you...this place is an echo chamber of frustrated singles, man of whom will tell you the wrong things and keep you off track for years to come. Don't be that guy. - SS

[SoulSearch_CO]

Just ask bac (a poster here) - she'd take you in a heartbeat.

[bac]

Just ask bac (a poster here) - she'd take you in a heartbeat.

 

I would be glad to take you. Please, send me your pic:)

 

Seriously, you may find a couger if you go to match.com or yahoo or AFF.

But, I do not think that cougers are interested in a serious relationship with a younger man.

This type of a relationship with couger is mostly for hot sex.

[thegreatmoose]

First and foremost, hear me out. I have spent most of my late teens and early twenties mostly indifferent to the idea of dating because I have been too busy with working dead end jobs and trying to go to school part time, and also just found most people (men and women alike) my age immature, and frankly ended up growing up sort of a misanthrope. Over the last year I finally have gone to school full time and am very close to finishing an applied mathematics degree with at least a 3.7, and I am hoping to obtain an entry level position hopefully in either the actuarial or software engineering field which are supposed to have a starting pay of at least 50k, and is likely go up as I obtain more experience. Also, I have dealt with some weight problems before that I have had when I was younger (I have been told by people I acually look pretty good back then, and now that I am in better shape I've had alot of other guys wonder why someone as attractive as me has never dated).

 

So no, by the end of this I am going to be perfectly financially independent and I am not looking for a rich mommy. It's just that I have grown up too busy just trying to survive to consider dating and have finally taken some of an interest in it later than most people, and for some reason seem to be attracted particularly to women older than me.

You should start dating as soon as possible. Many people of either gender will not date someone who doesn't have experience at 26 and I wouldn't mention it unless you are asked directly. Don't restrict her age to older as you are getting experience or you might miss out on a mature 23 year old woman. Try any dating method or if you can stomach it multiple methods at once.

[CarrieT]

Many people of either gender will not date someone who doesn't have experience at 26 and I wouldn't mention it unless you are asked directly.

 

I dunno -- when I trawl Craigslist, I always see ads from guys in their 20s claiming they are virgins who are looking for some older woman to teach them the ropes.

 

No idea if these ads get responses or not, just telling you there are a lot out there!

[The Collector]

The more attractive cougars are looking for hot young studs, not virgins. You need to learn the ropes asap with whoever...

[thegreatmoose]

I dunno -- when I trawl Craigslist, I always see ads from guys in their 20s claiming they are virgins who are looking for some older woman to teach them the ropes.

 

No idea if these ads get responses or not, just telling you there are a lot out there!

I don't know either, but I have my doubts that many get favorable responses. It might be easier at 21 than at 29.

[thegreatmoose]

The more attractive cougars are looking for hot young studs, not virgins. You need to learn the ropes asap with whoever...

This makes sense. You really don't want to get into your upper 20s or beyond with no experience. That makes it nearly impossible to get any.

[Els]

If you're going to listen to all the 'advice' here about finding some random girls and screwing them just so you can get experience to catch the 'real' women you want... I do hope you'll at least consider prostitutes, a ONS or a FWB, basically something with all the rules laid out nice and clear. Because trust me, no girl wants to be the 'stepping stone' in a relationship.

[Lizzie60]

There aren't LOTS of younger men attracted to older women.. for a serious relationship but I know a few.. most are for no string attached sex.

 

This is a personal preference IMO.. just as height, weight, etc.. you might not want to go for much much older than you though... that wouldn't work in the long run... but let's say 10-15 years can be very 'doable'...

 

I've dated more young men than men my age.. since I'm single (last 7 years) .. I have a preference for men early 40s (about 15 years younger than me)... I don't know why but this seem to be the perfect age for me... they are well established.. financially and emotionally.

 

Just perfect..

 

so my advice.. I'm sure you'll find someone.. be confident. when you see one you'd like..don't be scared.. go for it..