entityzero Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Just quickly im really in a panic. After 9 months of being broken up and a good 6 months of NC, my ex called me coz she had some money to give me. I could of left it to just business on the phone, but oohh no, i had to lay my heart out didnt i? She only called to tell me one thing, and i got heavy, told her i still loved her, and i'll never understand why she did what she did. All she said was she wants me to be happy and the rest was silence, i dont know what i expected her to give me. She broke up with me for my friend, so they're living together now, and I hate it. Having her on the phone in my ear for 1 minute after missing her for 9 straight months and i just lost my s**t ya know? I feel like an idiot for letting her know that stuff, it would of been so much more manly of me to just to play it cool. And then i worry that its gonna make her hate me and get closer to him anyway, but i know in reality it doesnt even matter. But still, 6 months of NC down the drain, it hurts. Bad.
Sbrizio Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Ehi EZ, don't be so hard on yourself. If love was an ordinary matter and we could treat it as a business thing, we won't be on this board. Stop beating you up. You had the balls to keep 6 months NC. She called you. If you had managed to keep it cold and business-like maybe now you would be torturing yourself because those feelings were still trapped in you. Instead, now you let them out. You've the right to feel as you feel: We are not pain-proof, nor made of stone. Also, don't think these 6 months are wasted. You'll discover soon that you're much more detached than you were the first days of NC. Hope this can help. Keep yourself up, you're not alone in this mess.
WiseOne1 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Be happy that you could do NC for 6 months str8, Im just on my 25th day of NC, and me and my ex broke up 1 year ago and unil now I haven't been able to stay on NC, and so far this is the longest time I stayed NC. You and I are alike in this sistuation though, now that you know that you tried, and you know whatever u say won't make a diffrence, just don't let it happen again, thats what I finally had to admit to myself.
Odyssey Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Look you managed to go 6 months without breaking NC, now that's already a fantastic achievement. Think of this as only a minor set back and it won't be like starting from day 1 again, i promise, because i'm just going through the same situation too. I had to change my phone yesterday (desperate measures i know) because my ex is trying her best to contact me again after we accidentally met up. It sucks! But your ex isn't worth it! Stay strong man - you can do it!
BW007 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 dude, It is not a contest. The one thing I do not really like about the whole NC theory is that it does not take into account real life interactions like you just had. NC just creates space and distance(which you need to heal) but it does not kill your real feelings, really, it just wears them down and lets them die a slow death. You did nothing wrong, I mean, she could have re-opened the door to you, but no, that is not what is happening. Look at this like further proof of the reality of the situation. And ..."Pot to Kettle, Pot to Kettle, come in Kettle. We gotta get over it."
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