dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I was asked out by a guy I've been out with about 3 times the last few weeks. We set something up for yesterday. I ended up having to work this morning very very early, and he was tired last night, so we decided to reschedule for today. I was okay with doing something for a little, but not to upset because I figured tonight would be better, so I went with the rescheduling. We were suppose to meet up after he got done with work today - 6ish. He asked if we could do it at 8ish. Now he's asking if we can do it at 9:30. I straight up asked if he didn't want to hang out. He said it wasn't that, he's just got a lot going on, but understood if I didn't want to hang out now. I want to, but I don't like the constant changing of plans. I understand things come up, but it's getting a little bit much. He doesn't have a history of doing this though...
loveslife Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Oh man! Oh man oh man oh man. Here's the thing, don't ask if he still wants to, just become unavailable. Don't put up with irresponsible. I'm learning a lot lately about falling in love with potential. NOOOOO we should only fall in love with reality!!!!!!!!!! You can do soooo much better. Just say "next."
Author dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 I'm going to go, but next time he asks - I'm not going to be readily available.
Lucky_One Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 He has a lot going on that is more important than his date? In that case, give him all the time he needs tonight to take care of whatever highly important crisis he has going on. If you don't act as though your time is valuable to yourself and to other people, then he is just going to treat you as if you are cool with being a post-script to his real stuff.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 Well, to be honest, I'd really like to get out tonight, and since it hasn't happened before, I'll let it slide this time. But next time, it's going to be, nah I'm not waiting. It's been a long week, and I've been looking forward to getting out and socializing for a while.
Gemini09 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 That sort of thing always bugs me, but unless he's doing it all the time, I don't think that was the best idea to ask him if he wanted to hang out. Sometimes people's schedules change and things happen. If he continues to do this, something is up. It happening this one time, I don't see the problem.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 That sort of thing always bugs me, but unless he's doing it all the time, I don't think that was the best idea to ask him if he wanted to hang out. Sometimes people's schedules change and things happen. If he continues to do this, something is up. It happening this one time, I don't see the problem. No, yesterday I asked him when he wanted to reschedule, he suggested tonight. He asked if we could switch it to antoher day, I asked when, he offered tonight, then this all happened... He's on his way, we'll see how it goes.
CarrieT Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Dreamer, the same thing happened to me this evening! I was supposed to have a date and he canceled at the last minute, asking if I was available tomorrow -- MAYBE (he might have to fly out on a business trip). I have a massage scheduled for tomorrow, but I might be willing to postpone that if the date comes through. I'm sort of guaranteed a massage with a Happy Ending if the date happens!
Lyssa Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I guess it's okay to let it slide the first time seeing that he doesn't have a history of doing that but the next time he does, you better voice out.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 DG...hope things went well tonight. I'd say that with no history of it happening, this ONE time sliding is alright. But definitely agree - don't let it become a habit.
Author dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 Well everything was fine. He seemed kind of tired, but didn't make a deal about it. We talked about this and that. He's going back to WI to visit family (he's got family there too! And is kind of from there) and we might make the drive together to cut down on costs. I had fun. He didn't seem disinterested or anything that I was sort of expecting with the few delays. If he does it again, I'm going to tell him no for the night though.
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