hopesndreams Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Yeah, paying for lunch is the oldest trick in the book. Run, girl, run!
Chrome Barracuda Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 So you have this months long fling and you dont think it's prudent to tell your husband? If your husband was doing something dirty behind your back wouldnt you want to know?
Dexter Morgan Posted August 28, 2009 Posted August 28, 2009 Fine Dexter....I have commitment problem. If thats what you want to hear. its not about what anyone wants to hear, its about what you have to admit to yourself. If I do, I would have gotten out of this relation long back. wrong, many people cheat and never leave their relationship. Or do cheaters NOT have a committment problem? Anyway, thats not the point I am worried about. As I said, I am going to be here for a while taking everyone's advice to keep me moving in the right direction. Once I fix this OM issue, I will spend time and energy in my marriage. that is good to hear. you need to have a VERY serious discussion with your husband. not like the ones you have had. You need to make him feel the depth of the seriousness of how you feel. And whether you intend to or not, he needs to realize, he just may lose his marriage if he doesn't get out of his funk. Marriage gets stale, people get comfortable. People stop being spouses and lovers and become parents. Hopefully the both of you can realize that and start making the effort. I had a wonderful day.....I wish I could say that. The OM went NC all day. I handled well till evening but was so upset after that....I am fine once I am home...Those few minutes are killing....million thoughts on why he is not talking. as long as you care why someone who SHOULD be insignificant to you is not talking, you will not make any strides in your marriage. My journey started yesterday with me confessing my EA with all of you. maybe you need to confess it to your husband. because he could be the catalyst that gives you a good kick in the ass to not dwell on what some other interloper is thinking and feeling. and even though I refer to it as emotional extortion, it may just be the kick in the ass he needs to realize the funk he is in.
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