MissJoness Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ya know after reading the thread about a girl not ever experiencing a serious relationship by her 20s being a red flag to many has made me very depressed and sad. At times I cry about it. Lately, I feel very vulnerable and depressed about every aspect of my life..no experience with serious relationships really or sex. I feel so behind. I don't know all about the great positions you can have sex in, or unprotected sex. I feel like just having sex with a random guy without a condom just to catch up with everybody else. Most people my age group are so ahead of me. All I can do is cry.
Vet Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ya know after reading the thread about a girl not ever experiencing a serious relationship by her 20s being a red flag to many has made me very depressed and sad. At times I cry about it. Lately, I feel very vulnerable and depressed about every aspect of my life..no experience with serious relationships really or sex. I feel so behind. I don't know all about the great positions you can have sex in, or unprotected sex. I feel like just having sex with a random guy without a condom just to catch up with everybody else. Most people my age group are so ahead of me. All I can do is cry. I wouldn't pay that thread too much attention. Flags, of whatever color, are irrelevant and meaningless. There are many people in your position (probably more men than women). Stop crying, and do something about it. Join a group, ask a guy out, join up with a dating site, whatever. Not sure if your part about sex is satire or not, but do what you feel you need to do. You'll probably find out, like mostly everyone else, that random sex is not very fulfilling and unsafe random sex is a risky behavior that comes with potential consequences.
Author MissJoness Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 I wouldn't pay that thread too much attention. Flags, of whatever color, are irrelevant and meaningless. There are many people in your position (probably more men than women). Stop crying, and do something about it. Join a group, ask a guy out, join up with a dating site, whatever. Not sure if your part about sex is satire or not, but do what you feel you need to do. You'll probably find out, like mostly everyone else, that random sex is not very fulfilling and unsafe random sex is a risky behavior that comes with potential consequences. Nothing ever goes anywhere with these guys. The guys lose interest and I never hear from them again. I'm so sad and don't know what to do
Vet Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Nothing ever goes anywhere with these guys. The guys lose interest and I never hear from them again. I'm so sad and don't know what to do Why do they lose interest? I'm assuming you've never had sex, right?
Author MissJoness Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 Why do they lose interest? I'm assuming you've never had sex, right? Yes, I have. A few times. I never enjoyed it because it was over so quickly I don't know why they lose interest. People never tell you why. Just eventually they stop picking up the phone (one guy did). I think it was someone else he was interested in.
loveslife Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 The answer is improving your relationship with yourself. Once you fill your life with things that make you feel good about yourself the rest will follow.
Author MissJoness Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 The answer is improving your relationship with yourself. Once you fill your life with things that make you feel good about yourself the rest will follow. How do I do that?
loveslife Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 You start doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Start doing the things you really want to do. Figure out some goals for yourself and go for them. If your life is full and happy then guys won't wanna leave so quickly.
Devil Inside Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 You start doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Start doing the things you really want to do. Figure out some goals for yourself and go for them. If your life is full and happy then guys won't wanna leave so quickly. MJ this is really good advice. Men are attracted to confident women. If you start doing things and feeling better about yourself you will see..like bees to honey.
Vet Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Yes, I have. A few times. I never enjoyed it because it was over so quickly I don't know why they lose interest. People never tell you why. Just eventually they stop picking up the phone (one guy did). I think it was someone else he was interested in. Unfortunately without more information about you, we can't really offer better advice than to be yourself, be confident, and not care about not having been in a relationship before. If you have specific issues you need advice with, then share them and people will offer what they can.
thegreatmoose Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ya know after reading the thread about a girl not ever experiencing a serious relationship by her 20s being a red flag to many has made me very depressed and sad. At times I cry about it. Lately, I feel very vulnerable and depressed about every aspect of my life..no experience with serious relationships really or sex. I feel so behind. I don't know all about the great positions you can have sex in, or unprotected sex. I feel like just having sex with a random guy without a condom just to catch up with everybody else. Most people my age group are so ahead of me. All I can do is cry. It made me sad too. I don't think lack of relationships by any age should be a red flag, but so many disagee. You don't want to have sex with a random guy for so many reasons, including the serious health risks. Keep getting out there and be at least somewhat selective. Don't date a loser. There's so many good men in your position that would jump at the chance for a serious relationship with a good woman.
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