He's going to a party.... with the presence of females. Should I worry?!

[OnTheEdge]

im sorry but you have to be alone, your obviously not ready for a relationship if you are this insecure, it will just hurt you and him, go have fun with your friends and get help with your insecurites, it will be better for u in the long term

[MSUE]

oh girl...let it go already...your insecurities your problem...this is happening because of your own actions in the past...that now comes to haunt you because of the what if he does the same to me? also I agree w pretty much everyone here that he did invite you...he wanted you to be there...you can't be there cause of work...why should he stay home? also I'm sure if you really wanted to go you could figure something out w your job

[Dina2208]

Good call MSUE! I really good try and figure something out with my work, maybe ill see, but I think i see this as an opportunity to just have some space, and hopefully get together with my BFF.

[rudeaims]

So how did the whole ordeal go?

[Dina2208]

It's tomorrow night lol I'm having a sleepover with my BF (Best Friend). I'll post how it goes. Well, my boyfriend said that his friends mom is going to be there, and not alot of girls are going actually, pretty much only 2 girls are confirmed to be attending, so that makes me feel alot better. So, they can't get **** faced lol Just casually drunk I guess. But I told him "I want you to have fun, but party safe" . Thanks for asking rudeaims =)

[Dina2208]

So this is how it went .... basically he left the party because the guys that were there were gay. He said they were so childish and annoying lol so bascially thats how it went. He stayed for like 3 hours and went home. And I was worrying about nothing, don't I feel embarassed (hehe)

[EmmaLou]

So this is how it went .... basically he left the party because the guys that were there were gay. He said they were so childish and annoying lol so bascially thats how it went. He stayed for like 3 hours and went home. And I was worrying about nothing, don't I feel embarassed (hehe)

 

Hi Dina, is that you in your avatar? You're really pretty!

 

It's great that it worked out, however what if the guys there weren't gay and he hadn't come home early? I know how powerful jealousy is, and feeling anxious about your boyfriends behaviour around other women, what kind of thoughts he is having.... It used to drive me crazy. I then realised it was my rubbish self esteem that made me so bothered with it. I improved my confidence and now just don't think about it. I also realised that I find other men attractive, but it's a fleeting thought, a quick observation, and then it's over. There's no point getting our knickers in a twist about something so natural.. You're gorgeous (if that is you in your pic) so don't worry, and you'll cut so much worrying out of your head.

[Dina2208]

EmmaLou, thanks! That is me in my avatar, and my lovely boyfriend lol. I totally agree on the self-esteem part. Jealousy is sometimes very hard to let go. Sometimes I don't feel very beautiful. Whenever I would see other pretty girls, I start feeling like ****. But I'm getting help with my anxiety and moods as well. So, hopefully all of this paranoia and over obessing will disappear soon! Thanks for your opinion EmmaLou ! =)