mercedesgirl Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Hi I received an email from a friend of my sons, asking me to be his friend on facebook. I accepted and didnt think anything more of it. I then got a txt message from him asking how I was, I was a little puzzled having not really had much to do with him before, but I just txt back I was ok. His txts started to become more frequent, then he asked if I had someone special. I said no and he asked if I was looking. I presumed he was just being concerned and friendly. This went on for a few days, he was asking what I looked for in a partner and did age matter. I said that as long as we had same interests, he had good sense of humor, was affectionate etc that age wouldnt really come into it. He txt back saying that he was available if that was an option. Wow I thought, I'd had a bit of a crush on him, but not really thought anymore than that (Im 45 and he is 25, but thats not the issue). I knew that he has just split from his g/f and so asked him was it over, he said it was, they were just friends. They have a flat together,but he has been staying at his parents house for the last 2 weeks, and so it been easy for us to meet up. I asked why he wasnt at the flat and he said, she was away and he didnt get on with the other flat mate, but he will be going back this weekend, he said not to worry, they have seperate beds. We have continued txting eachother and have kissed and had a hug. I am feeling a bit unsure whether his interest is genuine or whether he is missing his g/f as she is away and he has looked for attention and got that from me. He said its over, and that he wants to get to know me more, but how do I know he is telling the truth. I dont want to be used, I have been in the past and so I look for reassurance all the time. I really like him and want to get to know him more and spend more time with him, but I cant seem to stop worrying that he's leading me on! Your thoughts please
Lucky_One Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ok this is bordering on gross. He is a friend of your son. He's horny, and you are a MILF. You have already kissed him? Stop it now. Do you want to mortify your son by having all of his friends know that you will put out with kids young enough to be your own child?
Blade Runner Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ok this is bordering on gross. He is a friend of your son. He's horny, and you are a MILF. You have already kissed him? Stop it now. Do you want to mortify your son by having all of his friends know that you will put out with kids young enough to be your own child? Yeah. Unfortunately this sounds a little strange. I have no problems when you say he's 25, but when you say he's a friend of your son...this is a problem. but how do I know he is telling the truth. Know that it is a dream of a lot of young guys to get with older women, for casual relationships, and some sex, or whatever. I'm sure you know this. You're 45 and he's 25, I don't think he's going to want to get too emotionally serious with you. Physically? Yes, you can guarantee it. There is no way for you, or us to know what his real intentions are without talking to him straight. He could hang out with you all day, non sexually, be content with that for a while, leading you to believe that he's really serious and not in it for the physical side of things, but still have that as the ultimate goal in the back of his mind. There's no way for us to tell what he really thinks based on that little bit of information. He could be sincere, and even if he means well.. he could be with some hot, loose 25 year old. What are your intentions with this guy? It could work out sure, but for how long, and without embarrasment to your son, that's another issue. A lot of 25 year old guys don't want to settle. They want to party, do crazy things, get with older women, get with younger women, whatever. And they'll say whatever they need to say to get it. (ESPECIALLY by text and at the comfort of their computer screen). This does not mean this guy is like that, but you have to realize that it's hard to tell without having a real discussion about this. I think you need to really decide what you're looking for and then adjust your plans accordingly. What do you want, where do you see yourself in 5 years? do you want to be married? etc. This guy might be fun today but could leave you hurt tomorrow.
CaliGuy Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I say do whatever your heart feels but do it with caution and with not too much expectation. Everyone here is warning you rightly, that Mr 25 year old has an agenda (to boink you!) until he finds someone he likes/wants more. As long as you understand that going in, you will hopefully not get too attached.
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