Dolls Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 So long story short, this guy and i broke up around 2.5 years ago and we've been on again off again friends for the past 2.5 years. I found out a couple of times that he was dated different girls since we've been broken up but we always managed to remain good friends. Even when he found out I was in a new and serious relationship we didn't let that get in the way of our friendship. But then about three weeks ago I found out he was dating this new girl and I guess its pretty serious because he suddenly became very unavailable to me. I decided that it would be foolish of me to keep holding on to him if he was so very moved on so I stopped trying to contact him. He randomly txt me out of the blue a couple of times asking me random questions and each time I answered his questions pleasantly but cut the talk short. I text him tonight and a bunch of people just letting them know my number has changed and I got a text back asking me to forgive him if he's ever done anything to hurt me. He's done A LOT to hurt me in the past but I've done my best to move past it and like a fool I still like him a lot as a friend and as pseudo bfriend figure but I know he's not my man. I don't know what I'm ranting about it just sucks MAJOR because after 2.5 long years of heart pain it makes me sad I'm still pinning for him. I feel pathetic and I don't want to talk to my friends about it b/c I feel foolish. Any kind words or feedback would be nice.
boldjack Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Dolls, My old Mama always said that "the heart wants, what it wants". It's ok to pine over a lost love, and it doesn't mean that you are pathetic. Some relationships are more difficult to get over, that's all. Don't beat yourself over the head, worrying. Relax, take it one day at a time, and it WILL get better. Lots of Luck:D:D
Goatsbreath Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 bah, I bet you are a human. It will sort of always be this way probably. Ive remained friends with a girl who I dated over 10 years ago. We still talk and such on the phone but she lives far away. Over the 10 years it has been her living close then far, close then far. Sex, sometimes not. Just a mess, haha...but really, I guess I like her still. Why she hangs on to the friendship when she is with others, I dont know? I will probably always like her. Still, I'm not really pinning for her. When she tells me something about a boyfriend she is with I really don't feel anything but happy for her. Sometimes I wish I was with her because I think she is great but the feelings of us together have really left me all together. I guess the compass that I hold our friendship to is now really defined by how I have known her for the past 10 years and not how I knew her for the few months we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
openbook08 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Dolls, My old Mama always said that "the heart wants, what it wants". It's ok to pine over a lost love, and it doesn't mean that you are pathetic. Some relationships are more difficult to get over, that's all. Don't beat yourself over the head, worrying. Relax, take it one day at a time, and it WILL get better. Lots of Luck:D:D thank you boldjack....came across your msg & just *thanks* xx
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