redhighheels Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I came across this online, apparently it's an excerpt from a book. Enjoy! Raise your hand and repeat after me... I, (state your name), do, hereby, solemnly swear that I will not behave in the manner of a crazy ex-girlfriend. I will not participate in foolish or destructive behavior. I promise to act in a dignified fashion and that means I will not do stupid things, no matter how I might rationalize them. Therefore, I vow the following: * I will not call him. No matter what good or bad news I think he should hear only from me, I will not call him. Even if I am convinced it will make me feel better, I will not call him. I will not call him even to get my stuff. I'll have a friend do that, preferably via email. * I will not email him. Not even an innocent and rather funny group email forward. I will not email him simply to give him back his stuff. I will not contact him at all. * I will not frequent the places I know he goes to, even if I went there first and like it better. I acknowledge that this is not a pissing contest about territory. I know going to such places will hurt more than it will help. Until there has been some space and time between us, going to those places is asinine, can be viewed as stalker-ish and will be painful only to me. * I will not encourage or allow friends to do anything foolhardy, even with my best interest at heart. That includes talking to him when they see him in public to let him know he is a jerk and he'll never do better than me, or to share that I am looking fabulous, got a promotion, bought a new house and am dating George Clooney (or the regional equivalent thereof). * I will screen all of my calls. I will get caller ID, if necessary, and put "private call block" on my phone. I will not answer the phone unless I know who it is and am sure it's not him. All other calls will go to voicemail. * I will not take his phone calls. I repeat, I will not take his calls. * I will not return his phone calls or emails. If he is "just checking" to see how I am, I know he is really just checking to see if I think he's a jackass. He is looking for an ego stroke, not to get back together, and I know this because he did not start out the communication with, "I am sorry. I made a mistake. I want us to get back together." * I will not look for signs that we will get back together. This includes asking the Magic-8 Ball or tarot card readers and the like. The only professional guidance I will seek will be that of a licensed therapist or member of the clergy. * I will not believe this is temporary. I will see this as permanent until proven otherwise by concrete actions, immense apologies and couple's therapy. * I will not hide under a rock, be humiliated or ashamed that this relationship ended. For all I know, this could be the best thing that ever happened to me. And I believe the wonderful stuff I deserve is on its way. I promise to abide by these vows for at least thirty (30) days, or until I have gotten over him, whichever is longer. This is about me feeling better and that has nothing to do with him. This I do affirm. So help me. Signed: Date:
cant let go Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 this is great! i'm going to come back and read this everynight DAY 1
icyness Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Oh wow, I'm so ashamed that I'm guilty of some of those. Especially the "I will not look for signs that we will get back together." I did everything under the sun from horoscopes to love spells. Eek. As for some of the others, I wish he would contact me so I could ignore it..that one little thing would make me feel amazing right about now, lol. Great list though, especially since I'm in a period where I want to break NC every second. Thanks.
mimiminx Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 This is excellent. I have been killing myself trying to read into all the "signs". I have no concrete actions, immense apologies, or any effort on his part to work on the relationship right now. I keep thinking that this is maybe temporary too, but this post made me realize that I should look at it as permanent until I see those things, if I ever do.. still have hope though. I'm not quite at the angry stage yet. I will refer to this list for the remainder of the "30 days" although we have had contact. I will abide by these rules anyway like that never happened. Thank you for posting this!
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