dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Ummm.... What exactly did you think would happen between you and a guy you met on a sexual video posting site? And how do you fall for someone you've never met? And what if that's not him? And... well... move on.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I don't see how a guy willing to post videos of himself jacking off to a picture to be of any worthy of you to even want to begin a relationship with. But whatever makes you happy right? Just be careful and not trust him too easily. Especially since you've merely known him for a week. People lie all the time if they can get want they want. He's not all that different if he's after sex.
Gemini09 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Ok so I uploaded a couple of vids of myself on an amutuer porn style site last week just to get a personal thrill and to kind of dare myself I guess. It is similar to MySpace in that you can add other members as friends and comment on vids etc. Well this particular guy emailed me immediately complimenting me on my vid and I liked the look of him straight away and he obviously likes me too as he has sent me alot of private stuff and we now exchange emails daily to our normal email addresses and not via the site. Its only been 1 week but I am really falling for him, he is lovely looking and a very nice guy. I have now removed my vids from there and do not talk to anyone else on the site as I dont see the point. He is still very much on there though and put a new vid up a couple of days ago of him cumming over a pic of another girl from the site which has made me so jealous and upset but obviously I cant show my feelings. He lives a few thousand miles away but said he plans to come travelling to this country at some point. Its weird cos the millions of messages I have recieved from guys off various dating sites over the last couple of years and not one of them has tickled my fancy - then I join a site like that not looking for anyone and then have a love at first sight kind of feeling. So am I wasting my time or is there a possibility of a relationship developing? Should we carry on exchanging emails and see if anything develops? I would be scared to mess with someone who involves himself in such activities. I guess since you were on the site as well, you might have something in common. You could just email and see where it goes, but personally I wouldn't want a relationship with someone like that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 but then Im on the site...and I would consider myself relationship material for sure But you're a woman. Men can separate sex from relationship EASILY. It's called compartmentalizing - an evolutionary advantage that men got that women don't have. I know its only been 1 week but I know for a fact there is much more to this guy than videoing himself jerking off over pictures. He is not a dirty old man, neither is he an immature young guy messing around -hes in his mid thirties and from a decent background. He runs his own business and is successful, the first few times we spoke was sexually orientated - however we have since exchanged 'normal' pictures of ourselves, he is a handsome man and you can just tell he is from quite a posh background by the way he dresses and also his interests are quite highbrow. I wouldn't have described my XH as "dirty old man" or "immature young guy," either. The family he grew up in was quite wealthy - his father the founder of a bank, his mother a well-known speaker in their area. He had a degree and children and was a NCO in the Army. So what? The guy still turned out to be a pervert. I think there's something to be said when a person doesn't have healthy sexual boundaries. And when I say "healthy," of course that will mean different things to different people. For me? I'm a monogamist through and through. I did not think it was cool that I had to tell him that, no - it was not okay for him to keep going for happy-ending massages while we were dating. But somebody that was on the same wave-length with me on the monogamy thing would KNOW that. It was a mismatch on the sexual preferences thing. So I guess you have to decide if you can keep sharing this guy with other women...because you will continue to do so.
Author darkNpretty Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 This. Just keep in mind the realities of the situation, keep your eyes open, and guard your heart. Take care. Thank you, I will try! Although normally when I fall for someone I do wear my heart on my sleeve and end up getting hurt so hopefully in this case it will be different.
dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Thank you, I will try! Although normally when I fall for someone I do wear my heart on my sleeve and end up getting hurt so hopefully in this case it will be different. Please explain to me how you could possibly fall for a guy in one week that you never met?
Author darkNpretty Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 Please explain to me how you could possibly fall for a guy in one week that you never met? I honestly dont have any idea - it is completely random and bizzare, also unexpected as I did not go on the site looking for anyone. I dont fall for guys easily, I am very picky so I just dont know whats going on here! However I think that people can easily develop feelings for people they have never met - look at online dating, also people 'in love' with public figures.
dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I honestly dont have any idea - it is completely random and bizzare, also unexpected as I did not go on the site looking for anyone. I dont fall for guys easily, I am very picky so I just dont know whats going on here! However I think that people can easily develop feelings for people they have never met - look at online dating, also people 'in love' with public figures. It's called Lust.
Author darkNpretty Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 It's called Lust. OK I agree, but the feeling is still very intense. Also as mentioned many times on here before many woman cannot seperate love and sex - so if you are in lust with someone it also feels like you love them if that makes sense.
Author darkNpretty Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 OH come on. You know she doesn't mean actual love. It has been a week, its clearly an infatuation. Yeah, I never even mentioned the word 'love' when talking about the guy!
dreamergrl Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Yeah, I never even mentioned the word 'love' when talking about the guy! You said you fell for him - what do you think that means :rolleyes::rolleyes:
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