darkNpretty Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Ok so I uploaded a couple of vids of myself on an amutuer porn style site last week just to get a personal thrill and to kind of dare myself I guess. It is similar to MySpace in that you can add other members as friends and comment on vids etc. Well this particular guy emailed me immediately complimenting me on my vid and I liked the look of him straight away and he obviously likes me too as he has sent me alot of private stuff and we now exchange emails daily to our normal email addresses and not via the site. Its only been 1 week but I am really falling for him, he is lovely looking and a very nice guy. I have now removed my vids from there and do not talk to anyone else on the site as I dont see the point. He is still very much on there though and put a new vid up a couple of days ago of him cumming over a pic of another girl from the site which has made me so jealous and upset but obviously I cant show my feelings. He lives a few thousand miles away but said he plans to come travelling to this country at some point. Its weird cos the millions of messages I have recieved from guys off various dating sites over the last couple of years and not one of them has tickled my fancy - then I join a site like that not looking for anyone and then have a love at first sight kind of feeling. So am I wasting my time or is there a possibility of a relationship developing? Should we carry on exchanging emails and see if anything develops?
redhighheels Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 A guy who posts videos of himself jerking off to some girl's picture online isn't exactly what I would consider "relationship material". Seriously, girl!
boogieboy Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Youre wasting your time. If youre pretty, go meet someone in real life. He isnt even in your country? Dont bother. You'll only set yourself up for a booty call, and dissappointment.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Uhhh...yeah. Sure, he'll come visit you - so he can come all over YOU and then leave. It's called the Jizz and Jet. I don't see "relationship" coming of this one. You met on a sex site, dear.
carhill Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 So, what does his voice sound like? I'm reading sex site, e-mails, videos and relationship all in the same post and wondering how the cart got before the horse again today. Ah, the horse is eating out of the back end of the cart. A lot of relationships grow out of sex. That requires actually being with a person. I'd suggest working on that part first. Best wishes
Hkizzle Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I still find it weird that some women can't differentiate between: Lust > guy looking only for sex > sweet talking to get it and Love Especially when it's obvious.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 To men Sex = Sex Sex will never = love right off the bat! I pretty much agree hes not into you def if hes jizzing over some other girls pics common now! Yea hes cumming to see you don't you worry! just like hes going to see any girl who's willing and able. This is not how real love starts Hun don't set yourself up for a heart ake and to be used. I think you prob have some self respect issues to even be degrading yourself to post that kinda stuff on line don't go Thu with it you will regret it in the end..
Citizen Erased Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Uhhh...yeah. Sure, he'll come visit you - so he can come all over YOU and then leave. It's called the Jizz and Jet. I don't see "relationship" coming of this one. You met on a sex site, dear. Yeah, what everyone else said.
deux ex machina Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I still find it weird that some women can't differentiate between: Lust > guy looking only for sex > sweet talking to get it and Love Especially when it's obvious. One reason is because a precedent has been set somewhere along the line that only way to perk up a male's full attention is through being sexually provocative. The thought process is something like: Emptyness. Attention = fills the emptiness. Filling the emptiness = something like love. A part of someone. Everyone needs attention. Someone to really look at them. To see them. It's a basic human need. Could it be there's a reason she was on this site to begin with? Some people can take it for what it is and leave it. She is getting emotionally involved, very quickly, and is not taking it for what it is. DarkNPretty, please understand that this guy has been around and knows what the score is.
Hkizzle Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 One reason is because a precedent has been set somewhere along the line that only way to perk up a male's full attention is through being sexually provocative. The thought process is something like: Emptyness. Attention = fills the emptiness. Filling the emptiness = something like love. A part of someone. Everyone needs attention. Someone to really look at them. To see them. It's a basic human need. Could it be there's a reason she was on this site to begin with? Some people can take it for what it is and leave it. She is getting emotionally involved, very quickly, and is not taking it for what it is. DarkNPretty, please understand that this guy has been around and knows what the score is. I understand the theory behind it. I just find it amazing so many women don't learn from it. It's like ODing on drugs and doing it again and again.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I understand the theory behind it. I just find it amazing so many women don't learn from it. It's like ODing on drugs and doing it again and again. Its a herd lesion but they do learn eventually hopefully they don't get any STDs in the process tho.. For some women Sex = Love simple as that allot of men know this and pray on it like lions to a fresh kill..
deux ex machina Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Its a herd lesion but they do learn eventually hopefully they don't get any STDs in the process tho.. For some women Sex = Love simple as that allot of men know this and pray on it like lions to a fresh kill.. This is what I fear this man is doing.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 This is what I fear this man is doing. Of course thats what hes doing if he was searching for a new wife he would be on a reputable dating site not a armature porn one don't ya think?
Author darkNpretty Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 A guy who posts videos of himself jerking off to some girl's picture online isn't exactly what I would consider "relationship material". Seriously, girl! but then Im on the site...and I would consider myself relationship material for sure
Lucky_One Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I suspect that most men who watch amateur videos of strange women in other countries on porn sites don't really consider them relationship material, though, no matter what you think of yourself. He's jerking off to other porn. He jerked off to your porn. That doesn't make a romance nor a relationship. It makes a jerk-off opportunity and he likes the way you make his penis perk up.
Hkizzle Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I suspect that most men who watch amateur videos of strange women in other countries on porn sites don't really consider them relationship material, though, no matter what you think of yourself. He's jerking off to other porn. He jerked off to your porn. That doesn't make a romance nor a relationship. It makes a jerk-off opportunity and he likes the way you make his penis perk up. Hey don't generalize! I love all my porn stars and want to have relationships with ALL of them........
butcher's hook Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 but then Im on the site...and I would consider myself relationship material for sure Yeah but the typical male ego is a lot more complex than the female, it's ok for him to be on there exposing his dong for thousands of women to see and he could still demand respect but he does not respect a woman doing the same thing with her own naked body. Get used to the double standards most average men will have them. More than likely you are not rel. material, go to a swingers site I think men there would be more open to a rel with you than on an amateur porn site. He's more than likely just there to wank not find love.
butcher's hook Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Hey don't generalize! I love all my porn stars and want to have relationships with ALL of them........ Have you ever had a relationship and fallen in love with a porn star? In reality not your head...
Hkizzle Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Have you ever had a relationship and fallen in love with a porn star? In reality not your head... Why do people not accept the sarcasm............
butcher's hook Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Why do people not accept the sarcasm............ Ohhh sorry! :lmao: It's your poker face online, that's why.
utterer of lies Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 So am I wasting my time or is there a possibility of a relationship developing? Of course there is the possibility, likely in the lower single-digit range. Should we carry on exchanging emails and see if anything develops? Yes, but it will most likely end up with you getting hurt because you let your imagination soar.
Author darkNpretty Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 I know its only been 1 week but I know for a fact there is much more to this guy than videoing himself jerking off over pictures. He is not a dirty old man, neither is he an immature young guy messing around -hes in his mid thirties and from a decent background. He runs his own business and is successful, the first few times we spoke was sexually orientated - however we have since exchanged 'normal' pictures of ourselves, he is a handsome man and you can just tell he is from quite a posh background by the way he dresses and also his interests are quite highbrow. It was when he received my normal everyday pictures that he wrote to me and said 'wow, I would love to get to know you better, tell me all about yourself'. Since then it has not been about sex, we have been talking about our hobbies etc. Thats when I started falling for him, when I realized there is actually a very good catch behind the horny guy on a dodgy website. He is similar to me in that we are just average people with a naughty streak, and thats what brought us to the site. I know is probably unlikely a relationship will develop, but stranger things have happened at sea...
Vet Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I know its only been 1 week but I know for a fact there is much more to this guy than videoing himself jerking off over pictures. He is not a dirty old man, neither is he an immature young guy messing around -hes in his mid thirties and from a decent background. He runs his own business and is successful, the first few times we spoke was sexually orientated - however we have since exchanged 'normal' pictures of ourselves, he is a handsome man and you can just tell he is from quite a posh background by the way he dresses and also his interests are quite highbrow. It was when he received my normal everyday pictures that he wrote to me and said 'wow, I would love to get to know you better, tell me all about yourself'. Since then it has not been about sex, we have been talking about our hobbies etc. Thats when I started falling for him, when I realized there is actually a very good catch behind the horny guy on a dodgy website. He is similar to me in that we are just average people with a naughty streak, and thats what brought us to the site. I know is probably unlikely a relationship will develop, but stranger things have happened at sea... Try it and find out. People are demonizing both of you, but people meet in the weirdest places. You obviously have things in common, so explore.
deux ex machina Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Of course there is the possibility, likely in the lower single-digit range. Yes, but it will most likely end up with you getting hurt because you let your imagination soar. This. Just keep in mind the realities of the situation, keep your eyes open, and guard your heart. Take care.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Ok so I uploaded a couple of vids of myself on an amutuer porn style site last week just to get a personal thrill and to kind of dare myself I guess. It is similar to MySpace in that you can add other members as friends and comment on vids etc. Well this particular guy emailed me immediately complimenting me on my vid and I liked the look of him straight away and he obviously likes me too as he has sent me alot of private stuff and we now exchange emails daily to our normal email addresses and not via the site. Its only been 1 week but I am really falling for him, he is lovely looking and a very nice guy. I have now removed my vids from there and do not talk to anyone else on the site as I dont see the point. He is still very much on there though and put a new vid up a couple of days ago of him cumming over a pic of another girl from the site which has made me so jealous and upset but obviously I cant show my feelings. He lives a few thousand miles away but said he plans to come travelling to this country at some point. Its weird cos the millions of messages I have recieved from guys off various dating sites over the last couple of years and not one of them has tickled my fancy - then I join a site like that not looking for anyone and then have a love at first sight kind of feeling. So am I wasting my time or is there a possibility of a relationship developing? Should we carry on exchanging emails and see if anything develops? Thanks for sharing such an intriguing question. I still have to say that the origins of your connection deem it very important that you let TIME and LOTS of it pass before you make any sort of real-life effort or commitment toward this individual. Any woman who displays her wares on a website such as the one you describe is going to get lots of attention from men (and other women too, probably). For this reason it doesn't seem too wise to believe YET that what you're getting is authentic and sincere beyond a guy being drawn to your physical form and the fact that you would show it so provocatively. Time will sift out all but the most obsessed individuals because the regular creeps know that there is a long line of other women standing by waiting for their online interest. If you want to do the best for yourself, over the long run, then just sit back and interact with this man only from afar for, lets say, at least six months.
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