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hey all..

 

gotta say, this forum is great. it's sucha release to some times put things "onto paper" n hopefully get some perspectives from ppl who arent biased. i'd appreciate any and every opinion / view point on this.

 

basically, i've been seeing a girl now for 2 n a half mths.. n its been tuff. like we spoke on the fone on long distance for 4 months b4 we ended up in the same country for the summer. n when we did get into the same country, all started going wrong. u name it.. we've been thru it. it's been intense. fights every other day.. she thinks my family hates her, etcetc.

 

basically, it isn either of our faults. we decided to go out in the start of summer.. with the knowledge that at the end of summer, we both prob would have to go our own ways again, OR we could decide to do long distance. BUT we both knew 3 months isnt enuf to get to know each other sufficiently to trust em on long distance. so we crammed it all! we met every other day.. even went on a holiday together.. physically we havent been far at all.. but emotionally we're both sure that we like each other.

 

but the thing is.. we fight! all the time. n we dont know why. of course i'd say she does certain things that i want her to stop doing, n she'd say the same... n today, i got upset at her cos she snapped at me. n she said that i need to relax and "care less" ... bcos i was being to sensitive. but i really am not. i picked her up after work and she made me wait an hour for her.. but that's ok. i got upset when she snapped at me for giving my opinion about something that she felt was her decision to make. i didint criticise tho..

 

anyways, so we argue a lot. n we both feel like we try. but we just dont get along. but we like each other.. n we're hoping it's just a phase to push thru b4 we both learn how to not piss each other off as easily. i cant care less about her. i feel for her .. there are so many things which we know we like about each other... but we can't keep fighting forever. it's too tiring.

 

what do we do?!:confused:

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/twitch. It is "and."

 

Having said that...

 

It is probably a pretty bad sign that you fight all the time. That is not the mark of a healthy relationship. By itself, the arguing is not likely to be a mark against either one of you. It just means you would probably be best served dating other people.

 

Arguments happen in relationships, but when you feel it is happening "all the time" there is a major problem. Additionally, you should not want your partner to change much if they are right for you, nor should they want or expect it of you. So if there are many things you each want other to stop doing, that may be a problem as well.

 

As you said, fighting so often becomes tiring. The problem is that if it continues it will get worse, not better, specifically because you are tired of dealing with it.

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