thesecretone Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 right here we go dont know if this is the right thread for this area but ill tell the story anyway. right im married with kids who i love very much and my wife has a friend who is just so lovely its hard to believe. we have had a good friendship but over the last couple of months things have started to get heated. we have told each other that the feelings we feel for each other are more than just friends. we have not done anything physical as we both agreed that there is no way we could let that happen. but as the weeks passed we got more attached. then all of a sudden a guy that she has liked for a while came on the scene. this devastated me and im so jelouse. why am i feeling these horrible feelings i love my wife and kids and i knew i could never form any kind of relationship with her friend so why is it bothering me so much that she is dating. someone please give me advice. oh and now it seems that she is going out her way to make me jelouse.
Author thesecretone Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 hey guys please someone give me some advice and quick she is meant to be coming to visit my wife tonight and i dont know how ill manage. just need someone to talk to
Trojan John Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 It is bothering you because as you've said, you have feelings for her. For the sake of your marriage and children, stop spending time with her. Yes, it is as simple as that. If you cannot stop yourself, tell your wife and see how she reacts.
Author thesecretone Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 we have never met up in secret or anything like that and never been physical. i know what my wife would say!!!! its so hard cause she visits every couple of days so i can hardly stop seeing her or avoid her.i do love my wife to bits and would never ever want to lose them but we are all human and sometimes you cant help how you feel
Trojan John Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 You can't always help how you feel, true, but you can control what you do. The best thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation. When you know that she's coming over, you should find an excuse to leave. Failing that, simply tell her to stop coming over. Think of your wife and children.
TaraMaiden Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 People come in with problems, and then start prevaricating, justifying and sandblasting the responses. Ok, so what do YOU want to do about this, "thesecretone"? What do you suppose the best solution would be for you to avoid anything happening - anything at all? Then, do it.
Losing Faith Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 This so called friend of your wives is NO friend at all! I would NEVER even think of crossing that line with one of my friends husband, even if I thought he was an amazing man!!! I'd be happy for my friend that she had a great guy, not try and take him away. This women sounds like a home wrecker! You can't always help how you feel, true, but you can control what you do. The best thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation. When you know that she's coming over, you should find an excuse to leave. Failing that, simply tell her to stop coming over. Think of your wife and children. Trojan John has great advise. Don't play with temptation, it's the devils game! I pray for strength for you! Best wishes!
McKenzie Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 It sounds like this other woman is using you to feed her ego. The clue is she is trying to make you jealous. If she cared about you at all, she would not play that game. In my opinion, she is no friend to your wife since she is toying with your affection. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing you feel anything for her. Ignore her and be affectionate with your wife when that so-called "friend" is around.
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