sickdog55 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Ok guys so some of you know my situation, but i think my ex still thinks in her head that there is a chance we can be friends even though she has a new boyfriend, i dont want to be friends with her, i want to finally forget about her so i can move on with my life because it hurts to much to see or hear from her So i was just wondering if the next time she text's me if this statement would be the best way of telling her to leave me alone and make her understand why i can't be friends "Look, I can't be friends with you, I love you to much, If you and i cant date, then we can't be buddies either, Sorry, But it has to be this way, Please stop texting me, I need to move on, Im sorry, Ill never forget you, Good Bye" Or would there be a better way or telling her.....
Author sickdog55 Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 Or should i just ignore her and just p*ss her off?
silic0ntoad Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Don't do anything trying to get an emotional rise out of her. Say this: "Look, I can't be friends with you. I am asking you to not contact me, so I can move on. Have a good day." Then, don't reply to anything she sends back. At all. And disappear.
TaraMaiden Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Yup, Silic0n's got it. Show no emotion, show no remorse (no "I'm sorry"...not even once, let alone twice!) and keep it plain, simple and matter-of-fact. Just do it, end it and never respond again. Cut everything about her out of your accessible means of contact, and never let her get past to you, either.
caramel c Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 I agree, show no emotion. Just state your terms and be done with it. 'Since our relationship is over, I do not want to stay in contact. Please respect my wishes. Thanks.'
adamt Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Just dont respond to any contact, by responding you are still on her ball and chain. By not responding it shows her you are goign to move and cut that ball and chain. Silence will say it all
NopeNah Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Just dont respond to any contact, by responding you are still on her ball and chain. By not responding it shows her you are goign to move and cut that ball and chain. Silence will say it all This..No matter how hard it is, don't give her anything at all!!
trueblue72ny Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 i say just tell her this: hey, thanks for the friendship offer, but i need some time/space. i know you understand. thanks! and just leave it at that. there is no need to get into anything else about how you feel. she knows how you feel. and now you come off as the bigger person. she left you to be with someone else. you owe her nothing. absolutely nothing. and if she does not respect that you want some space than she is not being respectful of you.
Author sickdog55 Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 Yeah, im tossing up between saying something with no emotion or not saying anything at all, i think i will just not reply and ignore her, silence will say it all, she has moved on and so should i, screw her, she wanted time apart or see other people, why should i wait for her to be finished with her new little toyboy, i think she sees the grass is not greener, thats why she wants to try and keep me so close as a friend, 'selfish i know', But in the mean time i will be healing and moving on, i am going to vanish i cant wait for the day when ive completly forgotten about her, but something inside of me still wants her to come crawling back in the future, but by then it will be to late for her.... i dunno im probably just not thinkin straight but i kind of want her to feel the pain of what she put me through.... sound silly??
NopeNah Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Doesn't sound silly at all. That's the good thing about not responding, she already knows how you feel..what's left to say? She's with another guy..what's left to say? There's NO guarantee she'll come back fishing around but, you'll be in a better emotional place to handle it how you see fit. NC all the way! For now it's DONE between the two of you.
Author sickdog55 Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 yeah i know what you mean, i best thing is N/c for my own sake of healing even if she does text me i will just ignore them, I dont think you guys know how crazy this girl is.... the other week my cousin texted her asking where i was even though he knows we arnt together no more.... so then she texts me askin where i am because my cousin didnt know where i was, I didnt tell her of course where i was She actually texted my cousin saying "hey me and ****** arn't together anymore but you can text me anytime you like if you want to where he is" He showed me the text and i was like Wtf... shes crazy, she has a new boyfriend thats only like 15... im 23 by the way... i think ive said that before but anyway ... its like shes still attached to me in some way and cant let me go, i think she is very confused
Author sickdog55 Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 Correction sorry....... She actually texted my cousin saying "hey me and ****** arn't together anymore but you can text me anytime you like if you want to *KNOW* where he is"
Beeotch Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Ok guys so some of you know my situation, but i think my ex still thinks in her head that there is a chance we can be friends even though she has a new boyfriend, i dont want to be friends with her, i want to finally forget about her so i can move on with my life because it hurts to much to see or hear from her So i was just wondering if the next time she text's me if this statement would be the best way of telling her to leave me alone and make her understand why i can't be friends "Look, I can't be friends with you, I love you to much, If you and i cant date, then we can't be buddies either, Sorry, But it has to be this way, Please stop texting me, I need to move on, Im sorry, Ill never forget you, Good Bye" Or would there be a better way or telling her..... Sounds great. It is honest and to the point without being overly bitter/harsh.
Author sickdog55 Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 yeah, but what do you think i should do about the last post i wrote
TaraMaiden Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Forget it. Don't worry about it. it's her problem, not yours. If she wants to go round pretending to people that inspite of the break you're still in her pocket, that's her affair Time will tell people the real state of things. In the meantime, maintain No Contact. Completely. Oh, and don't come back in saying "She did this, she texted that, she's now done the other...." Like you should care! Just ignore it! it's all just a game! if you don't throw the ball back, she can't play the game, can she?
e.clipse Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 So i was just wondering if the next time she text's me if this statement would be the best way of telling her to leave me alone and make her understand why i can't be friends "Look, I can't be friends with you, I love you to much, If you and i cant date, then we can't be buddies either, Sorry, But it has to be this way, Please stop texting me, I need to move on, Im sorry, Ill never forget you, Good Bye" if writing the above will give you the most peace of mind and of heart, then write just that. however, i must say that i have noticed that some people "end" things with an apology--when they have nothing to apologize for--in a final effort to leave the door open, as though to say, "i love you and will be here, if you chose to come back." some people think that by being as kind as can be, even in the end, they will take that kindness with them and perhaps change their mind and come back. after all, you told them that you still love them, right? so, the door is there, and it is wide open. even if you don't think this is you, it probably is. if you really wanted to move on and forget her and leave no viable options for reconciliation, you would not even be thinking of whether you should say this or that: you would say nothing, because there is no hope, there is nothing to be said or done. if you want to say that, then say it; go with the honesty of your feelings in the moment. after it is done, face the reality that she is gone and that whether you want her back or not, she is not here--right now--with you, and that leaves just one person to care and tend to: you. don't overthink it, sweets. there is so much more yet to come.
dianna Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 ah ..this reminds me THE LINE . Him - I don't want to lose you as a friend too Me- Oh please cut the crap Him- *started to cry*
Author sickdog55 Posted August 28, 2009 Author Posted August 28, 2009 Hey thanks for all the advice guys, i am really greatful thanks, N/c all the way... Cheers
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