Dmoney28 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 I did what i promised myself, i wouldnt do. I Open the box that i packed away with all of our pics and items. I have to admit, i came home from a night of drinking with my buddies. Almost year later, and i had to go and open the box. I have been seeing this other girl for about a month.....and i have to admit, i dont love her as much as my ex. Even though she is cool, pretty and fun....i just cant completley get over my ex. That speacial connection...i just cant forget. I', sitting here reading all the love letters she sent me...all the "i love you's", all the "you were so speacial to me" letters. i just dont what the hell is wrong with me. I just had a break down today. She has a boyfriend...that has be enough to make me forget about her. But i just get hit with memories of her smile. Her smell. Her touch. I feel like a looser. sorry guys, just having a rough time...drinking earlier today made it so much worse
fabulous_chk Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 A year after the break-up? Oh my. Maybe you needed to open the box and desensitize yourseld by looking at them. People with phobia are exposed continually to the source of fear to "cure" their irrational reaction to it. Although I am a firm believer of NC for at least 2 months after a break-up, I believe that some sort of LC is needed after so that your perception of them changes. NC made my ex sort of perfect, almost god-like, but I kept NC to keep myself from humiliation ( pleading, stalking, etc, etc). I kept LC afterwards, looked at his pictures, drove past his house, never avoided places where there are memories. I wanted to confront my pain, forced myself to do so. I still have a key to his place, I was just there to visit our dog. And this limited contact made me view him as just human. Imperfect, undeserving of my excessive adoration. I would advis
PinkToes Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Hey, I'm sorry. I hate those triggers. Doesn't matter how it happened, you're human and you had a moment of weakness. But whatever feelings came out, even if it was really hard, maybe those feelings had to come out. One thing I've noticed is that the flashbacks don't stick around as long as they used to; maybe that will be true for you also. I hope tomorow is better.
openbook08 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 I did what i promised myself, i wouldnt do. I Open the box that i packed away with all of our pics and items. I have to admit, i came home from a night of drinking with my buddies. Almost year later, and i had to go and open the box. I have been seeing this other girl for about a month.....and i have to admit, i dont love her as much as my ex. Even though she is cool, pretty and fun....i just cant completley get over my ex. That speacial connection...i just cant forget. I', sitting here reading all the love letters she sent me...all the "i love you's", all the "you were so speacial to me" letters. i just dont what the hell is wrong with me. I just had a break down today. She has a boyfriend...that has be enough to make me forget about her. But i just get hit with memories of her smile. Her smell. Her touch. I feel like a looser. sorry guys, just having a rough time...drinking earlier today made it so much worse dont worry, im at almost a year later and i did same as you not so long ago. i dont know why but i just cant throw out the love letters, cards, photos.....and reading/looking at them........... he too has a girlf.... so if youre a looser then at least we're in it together!! therell be rough days. but they make the great days all the more better!
openbook08 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 just to add, i had not been drinkin alcohol ! im just a plain sober looser
Author Dmoney28 Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 well, now i dont feel so bad, lol. Glad im not the only one
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