meep1227 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months now... And i love him to death. He loves me as well. But I keep getting jealous over stupid stuff. Like: 1) he looks at porn and i hate it. I hate thinking about him looking at other women naked... He understands and is trying to quit but he's an addict. But i find myself looking everyday to see if he's keeping his promise of not looking. And it hurts the both of us. But i can't seem to stop 2) he has this ex girlfriend and she was his longest relationship before me. but she cheated on him with his cousin. he was really hurt and up until about a month into our relationship he still had feelings for her. Now she wants to talk to him and text him and stuff and it bothers me... for a little bit i would check his texts but now i've stopped that. 3) he has this friend who likes to make it seem like he is cheating on me and as much as i know she's a lier its still kinda gets to me. I guess what i'm asking for is help i wanna stop being so jealous. I love this guy and he could very possibly be the one. I just dont wanna **** it up. Please help.
You'reasian Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months now... And i love him to death. He loves me as well. But I keep getting jealous over stupid stuff. Like: 1) he looks at porn and i hate it. I hate thinking about him looking at other women naked... He understands and is trying to quit but he's an addict. But i find myself looking everyday to see if he's keeping his promise of not looking. And it hurts the both of us. But i can't seem to stop 2) he has this ex girlfriend and she was his longest relationship before me. but she cheated on him with his cousin. he was really hurt and up until about a month into our relationship he still had feelings for her. Now she wants to talk to him and text him and stuff and it bothers me... for a little bit i would check his texts but now i've stopped that. 3) he has this friend who likes to make it seem like he is cheating on me and as much as i know she's a lier its still kinda gets to me. I guess what i'm asking for is help i wanna stop being so jealous. I love this guy and he could very possibly be the one. I just dont wanna **** it up. Please help. 1. Tell him you don't agree with his porn consumption. Most guys reduce their porn consumption when they are involved in a relationship that involves healthy amounts of sex. Get things steaming in the bedroom. 2. Suggest that he go NC with the ex. That's probably the healthiest thing for both of them. 3. This friend is possibly interested in him or doesn't like you. Realize this. Maybe he'll see this overtime, realize it and act on it so that the two of you can sustain your relationship.
serlash Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 im Ash 20 years old my lover is 17 years old im so jealous of her she need to be lil bit free with her friends i let her go out with her girls but she want to see the boys nw and i cnt handle it i love her like a crazy we see each other 4 times per week we chat every night we fight on the msn because of me coz i push on her alot she really loves me im her 1st guy on her life, but she think that im not lettin her to be free. before few weeks she had a new friend a hes a boy as she said he is texting her everyday and she dnt wnt me to be everything in her life she needs to be with her friends but she cnt coz her parents are so close so she only got me so when i see her friends around her i get jealous coz she 4gt me sometimes when she is with them im giving her everything can som1 give to his lover. i really need help im sick of this **** plz reply.
MSUE Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 im Ash 20 years old my lover is 17 years old im so jealous of her she need to be lil bit free with her friends i let her go out with her girls but she want to see the boys nw and i cnt handle it i love her like a crazy we see each other 4 times per week we chat every night we fight on the msn because of me coz i push on her alot she really loves me im her 1st guy on her life, but she think that im not lettin her to be free. before few weeks she had a new friend a hes a boy as she said he is texting her everyday and she dnt wnt me to be everything in her life she needs to be with her friends but she cnt coz her parents are so close so she only got me so when i see her friends around her i get jealous coz she 4gt me sometimes when she is with them im giving her everything can som1 give to his lover. i really need help im sick of this **** plz reply. not to be rude but you need to start your own thread this is not about your issue is about the OP's relationship...its a matter of respect and principle around here this is about meep not you
Dina2208 Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Well, I personally don't agree with the porn. I just find porn digusting in general. Anything sexual, or sexual intercourse, is a unity of two people who love eachother and should be kept private. The ex girlfriend thing -- well, its over right? So if he really cared about you and loved you, he would just say see you later to his ex, because that was the past. Talk to him and tell him how you feel.
serlash Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 not to be rude but you need to start your own thread this is not about your issue is about the OP's relationship...its a matter of respect and principle around here this is about meep not you MSUE: what should i do? tell me the conclusion plz would i should give her time or what?
nvntr007 Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 Ash, you need to start your own thread. This is meep's thread. What you have done is called "hi-jacking".
missdependant Posted August 30, 2009 Posted August 30, 2009 1. Tell him you don't agree with his porn consumption. Most guys reduce their porn consumption when they are involved in a relationship that involves healthy amounts of sex. Get things steaming in the bedroom. 2. Suggest that he go NC with the ex. That's probably the healthiest thing for both of them. 3. This friend is possibly interested in him or doesn't like you. Realize this. Maybe he'll see this overtime, realize it and act on it so that the two of you can sustain your relationship. This ^^^^^^
snoopy girl Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months now... And i love him to death. He loves me as well. But I keep getting jealous over stupid stuff. Like: 1) he looks at porn and i hate it. I hate thinking about him looking at other women naked... He understands and is trying to quit but he's an addict. But i find myself looking everyday to see if he's keeping his promise of not looking. And it hurts the both of us. But i can't seem to stop 2) he has this ex girlfriend and she was his longest relationship before me. but she cheated on him with his cousin. he was really hurt and up until about a month into our relationship he still had feelings for her. Now she wants to talk to him and text him and stuff and it bothers me... for a little bit i would check his texts but now i've stopped that. 3) he has this friend who likes to make it seem like he is cheating on me and as much as i know she's a lier its still kinda gets to me. I guess what i'm asking for is help i wanna stop being so jealous. I love this guy and he could very possibly be the one. I just dont wanna **** it up. Please help. jealous? darn right! that would make anyone jealous, if he does not stop he will lose you for good, you can only take so much, he knows what he is doing yet it still goes on, you can't change him but you can change what you will take out of this, its up to you to decide just how much crap to take. good luck honey.
rudeaims Posted August 31, 2009 Posted August 31, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 3 months now... And i love him to death. He loves me as well. But I keep getting jealous over stupid stuff. Like: 1) he looks at porn and i hate it. I hate thinking about him looking at other women naked... He understands and is trying to quit but he's an addict. But i find myself looking everyday to see if he's keeping his promise of not looking. And it hurts the both of us. But i can't seem to stop 2) he has this ex girlfriend and she was his longest relationship before me. but she cheated on him with his cousin. he was really hurt and up until about a month into our relationship he still had feelings for her. Now she wants to talk to him and text him and stuff and it bothers me... for a little bit i would check his texts but now i've stopped that. 3) he has this friend who likes to make it seem like he is cheating on me and as much as i know she's a lier its still kinda gets to me. I guess what i'm asking for is help i wanna stop being so jealous. I love this guy and he could very possibly be the one. I just dont wanna **** it up. Please help. I think that some people do not understand the differance between 'viewing pornography/masturbating' moderatley and being an addict. If one is an addict to porn then you cannot just "spice things up in the bedroom". Sure, you can buy hot new lingerie or pull a few new moves out of your sleeves, but the porn addict is still going to prefer "wacking off" because of it's simplicity. It has NOTHING to do with you. He may even be unable to engage without the "seeing 5+ different video/online girls" over you. To him, one person, the same ol same ol is boring. NOT that you are! That is what makes a porn addict-they desire more and more hardcore porn and suddenly they cannot be as aroused to the "soft" or more intimate things. Seeing a brunette there, blonde here, big tits, small tits, hot bj, double penetration... If he is wacking more than engaging in sex with you...he is an addict. If he chooses porn over you...he is an addict. HUGE RED FLAG. Pornography addiction is not easy to overcome because it is so private A and B the lover (you) does not feel open to seek advice in person because you feel it's his 'secret'. Don't blame yourself for looking, try not to though. You are probably looking because you want to know if he picked the porn over you again... like I said try not to look. But hey, it's not a surprise his ex gf cheated on him. He was probably to busy fu$king himself to f$ck her.
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