PandaStillLovesBunny Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Alright, shackers, I just need some quick opinions: the girl of my dreams, my bunny , is interested in getting back together with me. Trouble is, she's away in another place, far from me, for school. In this other place, she is already involved with a guy. She's not too into this guy; she's admitted that she doesn't love him, and has been avoiding him, subtly, for the last little while. For the past month, she's been away on an internship. Today, she flies home to her school and her guy. I am afraid that this sudden reunion may convince her to stay with him. Here's what I need to know: do you think that I should keep in contact while she reunites with him, perhaps as a way to juxtapose ourselves -- i.e., to emphasize the differences between him and me -- so that she can come to a decision (preferably in my favor); or should I give her some space so that she can think for herself? In essence, do you think that my presence will annoy her, and bring them closer together; or will my absence cause her to move closer to him, seeing no other option available? I know that a good guess would require much more information and, perhaps, psychological studies , so I'll put it to you like this: what would you do, and why?
WizeMan Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Dude. Show yourself some respect. What was is no longer. Sad but true.
EricaH329 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Here's a question. What do you want to do?? Do you want to still talk to her? Or do you want to back away?? Don't focus on what she wants right now, you'll end up regretting any decision you make now if that's the case. The only way you'll be able to live your life knowing you did the best you could, is if you make decisions based on what you really want, as opposed to what you think someone else might want. It might not seem that way right now, but trust me. Do what you feel is right, and everything will work out one way or another. Good luck!
norajane Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Trouble is, she's away in another place, far from me, for school.So what form does "getting back together" take when you are nowhere near each other? Why would you do that to yourself? She's seeing some other guy, someone whom she is treating pretty badly since she's making up to you and avoiding him (or telling you she's avoiding him). Why can't she tell the poor schmuck who thinks he's dating her that she's not interested instead of avoiding him, "subtly"? She's going to treat you just as badly as she's currently treating him because, apparently, she only cares about herself and what she wants. You'll be that long distance "boyfriend" who's sitting around waiting for her texts and emails and calls while she's out meeting other guys. When she starts "subtly" avoiding you, how long will it take you to notice? Or will you wait until you see a picture of her on Facebook kissing another guy and then realize you've been played as her back-up guy?
samspade Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Alright, shackers, I just need some quick opinions: the girl of my dreams, my bunny , is interested in getting back together with me. Trouble is, she's away in another place, far from me, for school. In this other place, she is already involved with a guy. She's not too into this guy; she's admitted that she doesn't love him, and has been avoiding him, subtly, for the last little while. For the past month, she's been away on an internship. Today, she flies home to her school and her guy. I am afraid that this sudden reunion may convince her to stay with him. Here's what I need to know: do you think that I should keep in contact while she reunites with him, perhaps as a way to juxtapose ourselves -- i.e., to emphasize the differences between him and me -- so that she can come to a decision (preferably in my favor); or should I give her some space so that she can think for herself? In essence, do you think that my presence will annoy her, and bring them closer together; or will my absence cause her to move closer to him, seeing no other option available? I know that a good guess would require much more information and, perhaps, psychological studies , so I'll put it to you like this: what would you do, and why? We chase that which runs away from us... Funny how the "girl of your dreams" is banging another guy while she keeps you on the hook. You need to dream a little bigger than that. Find some women who actually show unmitigated interest in you and forget about her.
justletgo07 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Alright, shackers, I just need some quick opinions: the girl of my dreams, my bunny , is interested in getting back together with me. Trouble is, she's away in another place, far from me, for school. In this other place, she is already involved with a guy. She's not too into this guy; she's admitted that she doesn't love him, and has been avoiding him, subtly, for the last little while. For the past month, she's been away on an internship. Today, she flies home to her school and her guy. I am afraid that this sudden reunion may convince her to stay with him. Here's what I need to know: do you think that I should keep in contact while she reunites with him, perhaps as a way to juxtapose ourselves -- i.e., to emphasize the differences between him and me -- so that she can come to a decision (preferably in my favor); or should I give her some space so that she can think for herself? In essence, do you think that my presence will annoy her, and bring them closer together; or will my absence cause her to move closer to him, seeing no other option available? I know that a good guess would require much more information and, perhaps, psychological studies , so I'll put it to you like this: what would you do, and why? You need to realize that you have no power in this situation to influence her feelings or what she decides to do. If she's with another guy, then she obviously doesn't care enough about reconciling with you to make things work. Disappointing, but true. She can say she's interesting in getting back together all she wants, but pay attention to people's actions, not their words. Talk is VERY VERY CHEAP.
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