venuskies Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 And you're interested in helping me through this, I'd appreciate the add. I'm new to this forum so if there's a way you could private message it to me, or if you need my email or what have you just let me know. I recently moved to college where I don't know anyone, and I feel so terribly lonely. I guess I'm just trying to find comfort anywhere I can. If you can offer that please let me know. I feel so alone..
jumi Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 everyone is here to help each other, keep posting on this forum and youre bound to meet great people *hug*
Jilly Bean Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 College, for many, is among the happiest years of one's life. I strongly suggest you DON'T hide online for comfort, but get out and meet people on campus, in class, through activities, and make real-life friends. The great thing about college, is that people are so different, you will certainly find those with similar interests and passions.
TaraMaiden Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I feel for you, but you have a full forum of potential buddies here. the sad (but wise) thing is, that it is not permitted to post your private details in public (e-mail addies, MSN, IM profiles, whatever) because it lets loose a whole load of issues regarding privacy and risk of contact from 'undesirable quarters'. As a new member, PMs can't be sent or received until you've been here a month or posted a pre-requisite number of posts. So - hey!! Keep coming in! It will get easier, I promise!
AnnPod Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Don't get lost in your sadness, just don't. Everybody knows loneliness and insecurity, especially in LDRs. But believe me, life has more challenges than that. And the lessons you are gonna learn from your hard times you'll never forget. Just think how proud you'll be of yourself when you realize that you can always stand up again after being down.
4givrnt4gtr Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 College, for many, is among the happiest years of one's life. I strongly suggest you DON'T hide online for comfort, but get out and meet people on campus, in class, through activities, and make real-life friends. The great thing about college, is that people are so different, you will certainly find those with similar interests and passions. Ohh i agree! I just went by my college yesterday and I remember the amazing times i had there! sure it was lonely the first few weeks. But PLEASE get involved. You have no idea how regretful I am that i didnt for the first two years. I just went to class, and thats it. Junior and Senior year ohhh that was a blast I joined a group, met amazing people (like my now best friend and my current boyfriend) and just grew so much SO yes, dont hide out in your doormroom. GO out, join service orgs, groups whatever. It IS the best time of your life (so jealous right now! )
carvidep Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 I recommend joining an on campus group that caters to one of your interests. Ask around and search online for info on things you like to do. You'll make friends with dorm neighbors and classmates, too, I promise! One of my favorite activities I joined is called STLF (Students Today Leaders Forever). They hold one meeting every week that's really just playing awesome kid games (yes, all college students doing this) and announcements at the end. They also do a lot of volunteer work (which you don't have to do if you don't want to) as well as their Pay It Forward Tour, which is like 2 weeks of community service on wheels, usually over spring break, and well worth the money and volunteer work! Look here to see if they have a group at your school! http://www.stlf.net/chapters Like everyone else said, hiding on your computer is the last thing you'll want to do. You'll drive yourself crazy and miss out on all of the fun! Plus, he'll love hearing about your adventures!!
smile23 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 venuskies- I'm about to enter my junior year of college, and let me tell you, I HATED my freshman year. I was just explaining to my boyfriend the other day how one of the worst things during that year was that I felt lonely all the time. Now, two years later, I absolutely love it and have an amazing group of friends. Looking back at my first year, I realize I didn't go about the right way of meeting friends. Here is my advice to you: 1. Join clubs where you think you may meet people with similar interests as you (I know it may seem nerve wracking to go to a group where you don't know anyone, but believe me, it will pay off!) 2. Go to any planned activities or events that your RA puts on for you hall or dormitory. 3. ASK people if they want to hang out. Let's say you meet someone who is friendly in one your classes..do NOT be scared to ask them if they want to say, go to the movies or go out to eat for the upcoming weekend. Or, if you would feel weird asking this to someone you hardly know, ask for their screen name or their phone number. 4. As hard as this may be for you, do NOT go home frequently. I understand that it is amazing to be with people who you know and love and to be in a familiar setting, but, if you do this, I can guarantee you will not make friends. 5. You can meet/get to know someone who is in one of your classes by having study sessions together or helping each other out with homework.
Author venuskies Posted August 26, 2009 Author Posted August 26, 2009 Thanks guys, I'm going to try to get out more (:
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