A Good Point

[GrayClouds]

Taking to a friend the other day when she said this line:

 

"Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing"

 

For a many of us who prides ourselves on fixing things when they go wrong, its good advice if your dumped. When your dumped it is a realization of the lack of control. It is natural to rush in and try to get it back, which is often the worst thing to do. We can only ourselves. No Contact, healthy activities, a being with people who care are a good way to feel grounded when these earthquakes hit.

[TaraMaiden]

'Doing nothing' though, is rarely satisfying, or satisfactory.

 

Doing the right thing, is far harder.

Even if that means 'doing nothing'.

But it takes careful thought, deliberation and sound resolve.

 

And who has that, when their world is falling apart?

[GrayClouds]

'Doing nothing' though, is rarely satisfying, or satisfactory.

 

Doing the right thing, is far harder.

Even if that means 'doing nothing'.

But it takes careful thought, deliberation and sound resolve.

 

And who has that, when their world is falling apart?

 

Which is why No Contact is so important.

[TaraMaiden]

How is establishing No Contact' "doing nothing"?

 

That's doing something.

It's an action in itself, to safeguard one's own sanity and begin healing.

 

This is why 'doing nothing' is a fallacy, you see.....

[GrayClouds]

How is establishing No Contact' "doing nothing"?

 

That's doing something.

It's an action in itself, to safeguard one's own sanity and begin healing.

 

This is why 'doing nothing' is a fallacy, you see.....

 

doing noting as in trying to fix "it", trying to control the situation, doing nothing to effect the outcome, allowing what will be to be. If someone what to leave trying to hold them will only make things worst.

 

It is not to say do nothing at all but control what you can, yourself. No Contact is "doing nothing" to effect the outcome or the other, your doing it for yourself.