john1988 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 My advise for newcomers using this site is vent and ask for as much help as possible on these forums when you feel at your lowest. Post things on here that you want to send but never actually send them to your ex or contact them in any way. Don't rehash the relationship for answers you will get conflicting advice and will never be satisfied with any response. All you need to know is it's over. Stay strong you will get through it.
GrayClouds Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 My advise for newcomers using this site is vent and ask for as much help as possible on these forums when you feel at your lowest. Post things on here that you want to send but never actually send them to your ex or contact them in any way. Don't rehash the relationship for answers you will get conflicting advice and will never be satisfied with any response. All you need to know is it's over. Stay strong you will get through it. And learn about "No Contact" it is hard but will make things better.
Author john1988 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 How are you doing lately john? In a better place than before, there are still blips but nowhere near as frequent. I feel stronger for knowing that however much I want to make contact, I feel deep down that I won't.
silic0ntoad Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 In a better place than before, there are still blips but nowhere near as frequent. I feel stronger for knowing that however much I want to make contact, I feel deep down that I won't. That's the key. Satisfaction is the death of desire. Break NC and pay the price. If they break it, either ignore/one word answer them. It's quite simple, yet very VERY hard to employ. You need to be READY to go NC. It's still really hard and I am going on 3 months. Still hard every day. But the motions get easier. The pain turns to anger. Anger turns to acceptance. Acceptance turns to letting go. And then you are all finished.
bella16 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Th It's still really hard and I am going on 3 months. Still hard every day. But the motions get easier. The pain turns to anger. Anger turns to acceptance. Acceptance turns to letting go. And then you are all finished. 3 months straight with NO CONTACT at all??? Wow, I wish I was that strong. I never knew how hard NC was until this break-up. Its like tryng to quit smoking, its THAT hard! More power to ya... keep up the good work!
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