moving_forward Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Your long term bf turns you down for sex one night, tells you he's not at all in the mood for sex (not horny), and just wants to spend the night alone. You haven't had sex in a week because you were on your period and it just ended. Then the next morning it comes to light that after you left last night he looked at porn and masturbated. Is something up?
Britney23 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Yeah it would upset me a little bit but I wouldn't stress about it unless it became a regular occurrence. I would tell him that it offended you a bit and see what he said, but would try not to get him defensive and make a big deal of it. He might have been honest and was really tired or whatever and wasn't feeling like sex, maybe he thought that cause you hadn't had sex in a week it would be kind of mean to just have a quickie. so he told you to leave and then decided to just have a quick release from watching porn. Or he got horny from thinking about you after you had left but you were'nt there. There could be a million of reasons but if it really bothers you ask him, otherwise let it go and wait to see if it happens again.
Lucky_One Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 On occasion, I have masturbated simply because I have a headache and an orgasm seems to help that for me often, or because I am having a hard time going to sleep. It's not about sex - it's about having an orgasm. If I was a guy, I'd probably use porn, but porn doesn't do much for me.
borbiusle Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I've done that on rare occasions, mainly as to not disappoint my ex-GF with lackluster 2-minute "quickie" sex, which is probably more insulting to her imho.
Gemini09 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Your long term bf turns you down for sex one night, tells you he's not at all in the mood for sex (not horny), and just wants to spend the night alone. You haven't had sex in a week because you were on your period and it just ended. Then the next morning it comes to light that after you left last night he looked at porn and masturbated. Is something up? I don't know if it would upset me, but I would not understand why he would masturbate, but not have sex with you instead. I guess guys have their reasons though. Unless you start noticing this on a regular basis, I wouldn't worry too much, but I can see where it would bother you.
New Again Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I'm with the quickie sex crowd. Also, he may have just been tired, simple as that. Getting off on porn is faster and easier than working to get you off, as well as himself. Sex is physical and can be tiring in itself. I wouldn't say anything about it, especially if "it came to light" because you were snooping on his computer.
Art_Critic Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Do you not have sex on your period ?.. Was he trying to during the week ? Timing is everything.. even with guys and sex..
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