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Ok, a slightly complex one this, first let me introduce the characters (I apologise for the perfunctory way I have given them these names, but this is purely as this is the easiest way to explain this situation):

 

girl A = a friend of a friend (guy C), who I have bumped into socially a few times recently and got on very well with her.

girl B = my housemate, who I have also spent alot of time with recently, but only in a platonic way.

 

Basically, I go out for a drink on Friday night with girl B, and happen to bump into girl A there, who I start chatting to. We get on well, later girl B goes home and I go to a house party with girl A. I finally get her number and we kiss.

 

Earlier in the evening a friend of girl A asks me which of the two I am 'with'. Not wishing to blow my chances with girl A by coming on too strong, I say 'neither' and deflect the question. Somehow, this got back to girl A that I liked them both and didn't know which one I wanted to 'get with'.

 

I only know this because guy C was set the task of finding out what was up, and instead of doing so surreptitiously, just told me exactly what had happened.

 

Now, I'm meeting up with girl A for a drink tomorrow - she doesn't know that I know about what I apparently said. Do I let guy C sort this out by setting the record straight? Or do I come out and tell her that I was just avoiding the issue and that I only ever had eyes for her anyway?

 

Special prizes for all those who managed to keep up with this. My head has been trying to get around it all for hours now...

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Why not just be honest to the girl when you meet up with her?

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Why not just be honest to the girl when you meet up with her?

 

That's my current train of thought, though my friend (guy C in the above allegorical mess) doesn't really want me to tell them that he told me the whole story...

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It's none of her business at this point. Allowing her to keep guessing isn't going to sabotage anything, and honestly, will probably help.

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id listen to vet.. when in doubt.. act naive. It works almost all the time. Just go about your biz of trying to sleep with girl A and let them all work the melrose place drama like you have no idea.

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If you keep it ambivalent, guaranteed, there will be future drama between Girl A and B, whether Girl A talks to Girl B or Girl A slams you for it.

 

Don't play the drama angle.

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Good God why do people have to create so much drama all the time?!

 

First, I would suggest that next time someone asks you about Girl B, mention that she's your roommate/friend, if you really are only interested in her platonically. That would prevent potentially cockblocking drama like you have in this case.

 

Second, when you see Girl A, I would probably bring up the party/bar or where ever it was someone saw you with both girls, and steer the conversation in such a way that you can CASUALLY mention that Girl B is just a friend/roommate.

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