Raphownsyou Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Hey guys, So this story is long but i am going to make it short Have been dating this guy for 6 months now, we had been best friends for about 8 months before then. He isn't just a "boyfriend" he means a lot to me as a person For the past 2 months we have been off and on and had major issues, We can see where happiness lies but haven't been able to reach it. We aren't really official anymore but both of us care for one another deeply, He says he is in love with me. I used to love him but i dont think i do anymore, it hurts a lot because i want it to work.. And yesterday he told me that on Friday he kissed another guy while he was drunk, he said it was just like, he had convinced himself he was single and did it, and it didnt go further because he realized he loved me, i do trust him and to be honest, i can see why he would have done that and felt that way as i have felt the same before.. And now he says he feels fresh and it was necessary for him because now he can see more clearly This morning i woke up with him and he was very loving and sweet, but inside i felt a sense of sadness. I think this has all taken so much out of me, i feel really down about my life, i have never felt this saddness He is going away to Europe for a month in 2 weeks, and i dont know how i will cope if we are in this inbetween state and i have to worry about him getting with other guys, I have never been the kind of person who can deal with like being kind of boyfriend kind of not, i just need security I just want to be happy. Do you guys think love can go and come back? I don't want to hurt him, but right now i dont think i love him, and i also dont want to miss out on this with him because of the freshness of this new state we are in (loving and accepting and all that good stuff) I just don't know what to do anymore? I am compleltly lost, the idea of losing him hurts but i dont think i can cope with this sort of state where i have no idea where our boundries lay, If anyone has advice please let me know, It is beyond appreciated, And if you have any questions, just ask, i just really need to talk to someone, Thanks guys, Raphael.
lucy9216 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 If you are at an inbetween state with your boyfriend and you are not really in love with him, things are going to feel a little awkward no matter what. I think it sounds like both of you could use a small break from each other and he is going to be away for a month so this would be perfect. After a month goes by, just see how much you missed him.
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