ralph1319 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Well i hope this thread helps some who cant move on.(like myself) Well here goes i am that guy who ignored a loving wife played video games sometimes snapping at her for the most stupid things angry all the time(not at her) just at parts of my life i wasnt happy about.not spending time with her as much as i should have.im not going to sit here and take all the blame why our marriage is in the rocks but i did play a very big role in it.now for some of you whom you other half has hurt you and your thinking of taking them back DONT.not yet make sure they are working on themself so they wont hurt you again.As for me im going to mc alone working on my past to see why i am how i am today.ive been going for 3 months now and even my wife has said i have changed but isnt ready to work things out. as of now.i have thrown away all the games i play i read more. pray more and im a better father, friend ,brother,son to my family i can say its night and day the stars are brighter.the moon and sun are even more amazing its very hard to explain like that song goes(ican see clearly now the rain has gone,i can see all the obstacles in my way gone are the dark clouds that had me blind its going to be a bright sun shiny day.)but anyhow i am working on myself to be just a all around better person and make the wrong, right.so trust me on this if your other half isnt doind anything to make themself better as a person dont take them back they will hurt you again.this is coming from a person who has done the hurting. i just hope 1 day things will work out.
LakesideDream Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 You are doing the best you can. Good for you tossing those silly games. Keep communicating with your estranged wife, and your children, no harm can come of it... and who knows? You may get another oppertunity. Good Luck.
singledad2 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I am alot of that guy, with the arguments over silly stuff, etc. I hope me and my kids get to where you are with the counseling and all. My wife is supposed to be coming back tomorrow to join me in counseling and trying to work it out, but you are right. Right now, I don't want a relationship with the woman that left. I don't want one with the one coming back unless she truly makes some changes in her deep issues that allowed her to abandon 3 beautiful kids. Do not want to set myself up for a repeat performance that she simply planned better next time.
soheartbroken Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I was also one for snapping at silly things, and I watched too much tv (same as video games). Glad to hear that you're working on yourself, and I hope she comes around. I myself do not even have the chance.
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