justagirl09 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I guess i am kind of rusty at dating because i was with the same guy for 10 years prior to my fairly recent singlehood. Anyways, I dont want to have the same outcome as the last guy i dated. So, this guy called me yesterday and asked me out. My question is, do i let him contact me now, or is it okay to send a text in a couple days to say " Hi" (wont bring up date) I dont want to seem eager, but i dont want to seem like i am not interested since he made the initial contact. What do you think?
Thaddeus Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Being "cool" and not jumping on his invitation right away is one thing. But being cold and not even bringing up the date is something else entirely. He may misconstrue your response (or, lack of response) as disinterest and he may not bother following up. If you can, avoid texting. Send him an email or, better yet, call him and tell him that you'd like to go out. If you wait too long, though, or don't bring up the date, he may very well just bail.
Author justagirl09 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 Oh no, i said yes to him. I was talking about me following up kind of.
Isolde Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I don't usually follow up before a first date. However, if the details haven't been worked out fully, there's no harm in confirming a time/date, or where to meet, for example. Honestly, I don't think it really matters if you say "hi" in between, but if the date is soon, it's probably not necessary.
Author justagirl09 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 We didnt set up a meeting place. I will give it a couple days though.
Isolde Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 We didnt set up a meeting place. I will give it a couple days though. justagirl, he'll most likely text you very soon to set up the details, if not, you can text him.
Author justagirl09 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 I hope so! guess i am nervous and excited at the same time!
alphamale Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I guess i am kind of rusty at dating because i was with the same guy for 10 years prior to my fairly recent singlehood. Anyways, I dont want to have the same outcome as the last guy i dated. So, this guy called me yesterday and asked me out. My question is, do i let him contact me now, or is it okay to send a text in a couple days to say " Hi" (wont bring up date) I dont want to seem eager, but i dont want to seem like i am not interested since he made the initial contact. What do you think? yes you can send him one text message
D-Lish Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 He asked, you accepted- DO NOT do any confirming with him. Let him do it since he asked. Confirming will only reek of insecurity. Ever notice how guys you aren't all that interested in seem to chase you more? It's because you are essentially playing it cool without even realizing it. It's not about game playing- just playing it cool. He initiated, he asked you out- please don't worry...he'll confirm and you'll have that date:love:. He initiated, so you know he's not shy about being assertive- so he's more than apt to follow through. You've been in a relationship for a very long time- so enjoy being courted by this guy. Me personally, I wouldn't send a "how's it going" text during the week. He already wants to go out with you, so you don't need to do any reminding that you are "around". When is your date?
alphamale Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 He asked, you accepted- DO NOT do any confirming with him. Let him do it since he asked. Confirming will only reek of insecurity. well one little text message can't hurt. its a very casual form of communicating and will make him more reassured...
BobSacamento Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 In the beginning I would play down the whole starved for attention thing.
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