dreamergrl Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I see what you're saying and I agree with you. However, reference the earlier post about him having only three options. Did the OP give this guy any reason to turn down other girls? How much time was she actually given to give him a reason though. They went inside to mingle a bit, and the drunk girl barrels through flashing her tits.
Phateless Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Why even waste your time on a guy like that. He must be desperate, if one flash of a chest draws his attention away from a decent girl. I see someone mentioned he made the move, and the OP didn't. It seems the OP did let on that she was interested in him. What else was she supposed to do in order to gain his respect and attention that night? Flash her boobs as well? You misread. He said that HE WAS INTERESTED IN HER. She didn't mention what her response was. As far as we know, she smiled coyly, leaving him clueless as to whether or not he had a shot with her. The OP is the one who didn't hang around from what I can tell. Yep. She walked away. She could have just stood her ground and not walk away implicitly saying, eh do what you want i don't care. Yep. This is what happens when you play "coy" or "hard to get."
BCCA Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 She could have just stood her ground and not walk away implicitly saying, eh do what you want i don't care. I still stand by my belief that he had absolutely no idea where he stood with the OP, and another girl came along flashing boobs, and the OP walked away as if she couldnt care less what he did. Again, OP is the one who walked away. Other guys try and hit on our dates/gf ALL THE TIME, we dont just walk away and let them have at it. You have to stand up for what you want, or people will think you dont want it that much.
Gemini09 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 So we end up chatting on the front porch, just him and I for a good hour. Things are going really well, and he tells me he has always liked me and saw me as "a catch". But that I was with (the ex) so he never was able to tell me that. Anyways we chat for awhile more, then go inside to mingle... get this.. They spoke for at least an hour on the porch, and why would she do this if she was not interested? Not only this, but she continues to MINGLE with the guy. Suddenly he sees a pair of tits, and basically says "screw the OP".
BCCA Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 They spoke for at least an hour on the porch, and why would she do this if she was not interested? Not only this, but she continues to MINGLE with the guy. Suddenly he sees a pair of tits, and basically says "screw the OP". Are you being serious? do you know how many hour+ long conversations Ive had with women, only to learn that they are not interested at all? Lets be frank, women like attention. He made it clear he was interested, she did not do the same back. And again the OP walked away, not him.
dreamergrl Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Are you being serious? do you know how many hour+ long conversations Ive had with women, only to learn that they are not interested at all? Lets be frank, women like attention. He made it clear he was interested, she did not do the same back. And again the OP walked away, not him. Making out in front of OP with the flasher may as well as been 'walking away'.
Author bluewolf17 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 :DThis is getting out of hand First, I honestly don't know if I like him or not, I don't know him that well. From what I have seen before, I had a bit of a crush, but obviously, I don't know this guy. The only reason I put more weight into him is because I am single now..and I can find out more about him if I choose.. He did say I was a catch, and I laughed and told him I thought he was pretty great too. Did I grab his dick and drag him inside? No. Should have I? Err..no. When the great boob incident of 2009 occured, I was standing right there...and I laughed. What else can you do? Besides, mine are much nicer. He laughed too, until he touched them and a little signal in my brain went red and alerted me to stay away from this guy. So I did. I turned around and walked away and joined my friends outside. Could I have shown my affections more? Sure, but quite honestly, I didn't want to, because I didn't really know how I felt. I wasn't playing hard to get, in fact I'm pretty straighforward. And when he called me today it was comical. My interest leval when from about 80% to pretty much zilch. And you know what? It is within his right to do whatever pleased him, so I am fine with it. I thought it was more funny than anything. Besides..I have a feeling he didn't ask her out to dinner. And guess who did get asked? Me. And I said I wasn't interested. He made a choice, and so did I, the world goes on.
Phateless Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 They spoke for at least an hour on the porch, and why would she do this if she was not interested? Not only this, but she continues to MINGLE with the guy. Suddenly he sees a pair of tits, and basically says "screw the OP". Mingle with others. That doesn't mean they were together or separate. We don't know. I understand the frustration here and it makes perfect sense. This woman had invested an hour with this guy and genuinely liked him and then *POOF* he's all over another girl. I completely understand how frustrating that is and it really does suck. This has happened to me a number of times with girls I like going for other guys before I was "ready to make a move." Fact is, I can only blame myself for hesitating. If she really did make it clear to the guy that she is interested, then she has a right to be pissed. But if she left things ambiguous, there's really no accountability.
BCCA Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Making out in front of OP with the flasher may as well as been 'walking away'. Oh geez...Im done here, whatever. Guys are all pigs.
Gemini09 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I just can't see that type of guy to invest over an hour talking to a girl, then suddenly start making out with a half nude girl.
sumdude Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 He laughed too, until he touched them and a little signal in my brain went red and alerted me to stay away from this guy. Okay, now it makes more sense.. OK so he went for the boobs. His loss.. next...
Trialbyfire Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I believe the guy's behaviour would be replicated by a large fraction of men in the same situation. So large that criticising him is that same as criticising the entire male gender. I agree with this portion of your post. The choices for this guy were to blatantly get laid or who knows? He decided to get laid. Having said that bluewolf, I would not go out with this guy. He`s too easy.
Phateless Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Making out in front of OP with the flasher may as well as been 'walking away'. True. I 100% agree with this. :DThis is getting out of hand First, I honestly don't know if I like him or not, I don't know him that well. From what I have seen before, I had a bit of a crush, but obviously, I don't know this guy. The only reason I put more weight into him is because I am single now..and I can find out more about him if I choose.. He did say I was a catch, and I laughed and told him I thought he was pretty great too. Did I grab his dick and drag him inside? No. Should have I? Err..no. When the great boob incident of 2009 occured, I was standing right there...and I laughed. What else can you do? Besides, mine are much nicer. He laughed too, until he touched them and a little signal in my brain went red and alerted me to stay away from this guy. So I did. I turned around and walked away and joined my friends outside. Could I have shown my affections more? Sure, but quite honestly, I didn't want to, because I didn't really know how I felt. I wasn't playing hard to get, in fact I'm pretty straighforward. And when he called me today it was comical. My interest leval when from about 80% to pretty much zilch. And you know what? It is within his right to do whatever pleased him, so I am fine with it. I thought it was more funny than anything. Besides..I have a feeling he didn't ask her out to dinner. And guess who did get asked? Me. And I said I wasn't interested. He made a choice, and so did I, the world goes on. Again, agree 100%. You're absolutely right and I think you handled this perfectly. So I guess the thread was just to vent? Nothing wrong with that. Sucks for him that he didn't hang in there to find out how much nicer your boobs are, lol.
sumdude Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I agree with this portion of your post. The choices for this guy were to blatantly get laid or who knows? He decided to get laid. 10:1 he didn't get laid and boob girl was just vying for attention. She made out with him, got her ego stroke then left him with a major case of blue ba!!s. Hence the phone call.
Trialbyfire Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 10:1 he didn't get laid and boob girl was just vying for attention. She made out with him, got her ego stroke then left him with a major case of blue ba!!s. Hence the phone call.Whether he got laid or not, he`s still playing the numbers game with the phone call. Tacky, if you consider that he abruptly dropped her at the party.
sumdude Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Whether he got laid or not, he`s still playing the numbers game with the phone call. Tacky, if you consider that he abruptly dropped her at the party. yep, pretty tacky, guy's got a lot to learn. If you lose, at least lose gracefully.
tkgirl Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 this is like the flip side of "Why do girls always go for jerks?" "Why do Guys always go for the Girl who shows her tits?" The same answer; confidence. are you kidding me? the girl who flashed her tits is... confident? more like desperate for attention...
tkgirl Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I still stand by my belief that he had absolutely no idea where he stood with the OP, and another girl came along flashing boobs, and the OP walked away as if she couldnt care less what he did. Again, OP is the one who walked away. Other guys try and hit on our dates/gf ALL THE TIME, we dont just walk away and let them have at it. You have to stand up for what you want, or people will think you dont want it that much. yea.. I do agree with this point too. If I had been her and really into this guy, I would have done something... maybe like, "sorry, I saw him first" and then pull him closer to me... like real close! I dunno.... it's always easier said than done. BW might have been so shocked that she didn't know what else to do and walked away... but yea, by doing so she threw in the towel. But I also stand by my earlier point... that it's his loss, not hers.
Trialbyfire Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 One of my oldest friends used to be like this, albeit not to the point of anything as tasteless as flashing anyone. If a guy showed interest in me or I thought someone was cute, she would immediately be all over him. It used to piss me off until I realized that she was doing me a favour, by being a natural filter for the `dine and dash men`. After that, I just let her do her thing and only dated the guys who wouldn`t do her. She`s matured into a wonderful woman, after a lot of self-evaluation about why she was so competitive.
AAlike Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Actually, now that I re-read exactly how this went down, I would like to change my stance somewhat. Had it been me, and I was legitimately interested in OP, and the other girl had flashed me directly in front of her (that is what I misread - I thought it was more like a "we talked for a while, then I looked for him later and he was hooking up with that girl that was flashing people"), I probably would have made it a point to openly reject the flasher girl in a visible way so that my detachment towards her would have been construed in a positive way by OP. I didn't realize that he started feeling her up right in front of you. that is pretty lame.
stillafool Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 The thing about what that girl did at the party. If she was goodlooking and fun he may have sex with her and think about a relationship with her. If she wasn't so hot looking he may have sex with her and never call again. Men, what are ya gonna do!
loveslife Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 I think guys forget that making out with drunk girls who flash their tits makes the guy just as much of a ho. At least in the eyes of many women. That would have been a huge turn-off to me, too.
Author bluewolf17 Posted August 25, 2009 Author Posted August 25, 2009 I think guys forget that making out with drunk girls who flash their tits makes the guy just as much of a ho. At least in the eyes of many women. That would have been a huge turn-off to me, too. Agreed. I can't blame him for having fun though. He just won't get to have fun with me.
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