TheMighty99 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 I've posted a couple of threads on here before. Basically, i went out with a girl for nearly 2 years. We broke up because things wern't working out. We still txted each other for about a month, then i asked her back out. She kept saying no, but eventually she agreed. We went out for a day....Then she said she wanted to be friends. She basically gave me false hope and had no intention of getting back together with me. She just used me and let me buy her drinks all night and dance with her. I was really really upset. A couple of days after this i got pretty drunk and sent her a message saying something like 'I hate you for what you've done and i don't want you to ever txt me again'. Was that harsh? It's been 3 weeks since i sent her that message and i havn't made contact with her. I'm probably too soft :/
Danielle46 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I've posted a couple of threads on here before. Basically, i went out with a girl for nearly 2 years. We broke up because things wern't working out. We still txted each other for about a month, then i asked her back out. She kept saying no, but eventually she agreed. We went out for a day....Then she said she wanted to be friends. She basically gave me false hope and had no intention of getting back together with me. She just used me and let me buy her drinks all night and dance with her. I was really really upset. A couple of days after this i got pretty drunk and sent her a message saying something like 'I hate you for what you've done and i don't want you to ever txt me again'. Was that harsh? It's been 3 weeks since i sent her that message and i havn't made contact with her. I'm probably too soft :/ Ehh...drunk texting/calling is always like entering murky waters. If you really don't want to talk to her then just keep going as is. If it pains you too much to just be "friends" then maybe you haven't healed enough to be able to do so. If you do think you can handle being friends, then I suppose you could try to approach her and explain what happened. I dont guarantee that she'll listen because it has been 3 weeks and you haven't bothered to say anything yet, but who knows...Maybe she's a big enough person to just accept that and respond with how she feels. Word of advice though: Dont allow yourself the opportunity to text/call your ex when you've been drinking. You might or in this case WILL say something that was not intended due to the influence. Maybe have your friends help you out in case you can't do it on your own. We all have our moments of weakness and anger...but you can't allow them to surface and then act on it every time. Everyone will say or do things sometimes that they don't mean...they're just having a bad moment or something....just be sure of your decision before you contact her. You don't want to accicently start leading yourself on thinking that you are going to be back together if she strictly wants to be friends with you.
DustySaltus Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Always have someone who is the designated phone grabber. Usually, it should be one of your friends who is much bigger than yourself. If you pull it out when you are drunk, its their job to make sure you don't do something like this. I know from experience. Whatever you decide to do, don't think that it will lead her back to you. If you want to send her a text and aplogize you can, but then go straight NC and start to begin the healing process for YOURSELF.
Beeotch Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I've posted a couple of threads on here before. Basically, i went out with a girl for nearly 2 years. We broke up because things wern't working out. We still txted each other for about a month, then i asked her back out. She kept saying no, but eventually she agreed. We went out for a day....Then she said she wanted to be friends. She basically gave me false hope and had no intention of getting back together with me. She just used me and let me buy her drinks all night and dance with her. I was really really upset. A couple of days after this i got pretty drunk and sent her a message saying something like 'I hate you for what you've done and i don't want you to ever txt me again'. Was that harsh? It's been 3 weeks since i sent her that message and i havn't made contact with her. I'm probably too soft :/ I don't know her...but I do know you are entitled to your feelings and if she did use you, then that was wrong of her. I am sure she will get over it.
Author TheMighty99 Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 I've actually deleted her number. I thought it would be for the best. That way i won't send her drunken txts again. The only way i can get in contact with her now, is to search her on facebook. Just wondered if i've done the right thing deleting her number...?
john1988 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 I've actually deleted her number. I thought it would be for the best. That way i won't send her drunken txts again. The only way i can get in contact with her now, is to search her on facebook. Just wondered if i've done the right thing deleting her number...? Exact same thing happened to me it's sickening, don't take anymore punishment get rid of every form of contact, it was obviously a baron few months until she finds something better. Make sure you never contact her again
john1988 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 And don't worry about what you said to her she deserved every word.
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