sweetnlow Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 My boyfriend and I are notoriously bad at arguing. The littlest thing seems to blow out of all proportion. We yell at each other, then don't speak for hours. We eventually make up; but not before we're mentally and physically exhausted and have called each other every name under the sun. Take today for instance. Today we're not speaking because we lost each other in the supermarket. Pathetic really. He's mad at me because I wondered off when he went looking for some kidney beans. I'm mad at him because when we did actually find each other, after 20 minutes of searching, he was snappy telling me I should stay put and generally treating me like a 5-year old. He then marched off in a bad mood, which put me in a bad mood. We've now not been speaking for going on two hours. We've yelled some, he's stormed out and goodness knows when I'll see him again. I don't want to back down because I feel like his attitude stinks. Making the first move feels like admitting I was wrong, and to do that feel like I'm giving into what feels like a controlling aspect of his personality. Problem is we argue like this a fair bit. Maybe two or three times a month. I'm beginning to wonder whether its worth it, maybe I should just call it a day...
kizik Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 If you can live like this and be happy, then good luck. But IMO this is a terrible way to live. It's not love, it's immaturity. It's not kinship, it's bickering. I feel terrible for people like you, who cling to the supposed security of a crappy relationship. One word: Bail.
Els Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 I'm sorry, but the first thing that strikes me is... Don't you carry cellphones when you go out??? Saves a lot of trouble...
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