lsb Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 It has been like 3 months now since we broke up. I dumped him. It wasn't the cleanest of breaks, but I tried. We ended up talking for about a month and then I saw how that was not a good idea for either of us. I am sure I am not getting back with him. I just can't see that happening. So I have been NC for almost a month. Well I have been getting lonely and wanting to meet others so I put a dating site profile up. He had his up way before me. But i guess this is the final part in definitely admitting it is over without a doubt. He ended up calling my house this morning, I did not answer. Everything else is blocked. I deleted my myspace. And i will delete any emails. I just want to move on. I need to shake any guilt. I don't think I really did anything wrong. I don't know why it feels like that. It feels like I can't make a move without him noticing. I want him to just get over me so maybe it is good for him to see I am on a dating website.
greenparrot Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 A little tough, but youre doing good not talking him to him. You shouldnt feel guilty, sometimes things just dont work out. He seems to be moving on as well. Just dont give him hopes, and youll be fine.
Exit Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Have you said any of this to him? When guys have hope on their mind, they won't always see clearly. So you didn't answer your house phone, maybe you were in the shower. That's the way a guy in pursuit will think. Might help him to make it clear that these missed calls and blocked websites are INTENTIONAL. Have you asked yourself why you feel guilty?
Author lsb Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 Well he knows it is intentional I did tell him I do not think we should talk anymore. First he agreed yet still emailed me asking if we can talk in a few months. But I did not respond. I think I feel guilty because he is the first guy I have ever been with. Also, I know he is a lonely person and I am too. I noticed he made a fake account on the dating site I am on, this is just so childish...
Author lsb Posted August 24, 2009 Author Posted August 24, 2009 I don't know what to do. He just posted on his facebook this message: OHHH ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,AND WANTS TO WISH HIS EX GIRLFRIEND ALL THE BESTEST OF LUCK ON MATCH.COM,,,,,LOL I dunno what to do? He was the first guy I was with. And it really depresses me to see how immature he is being. Should I say something? I already deleted the site. What is the high road? Just dropping off the face of the earth?
joyinSF Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 damn,. thats kinda messed up...i cant believe he wrote that...
DustySaltus Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 I don't know what to do. He just posted on his facebook this message: OHHH ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,AND WANTS TO WISH HIS EX GIRLFRIEND ALL THE BESTEST OF LUCK ON MATCH.COM,,,,,LOL I dunno what to do? He was the first guy I was with. And it really depresses me to see how immature he is being. Should I say something? I already deleted the site. What is the high road? Just dropping off the face of the earth? Think of it as the witness protection program. I've been a part of some very petty things done by an X, but this is right up there. Don't contact him at all, as people say here all the time..."nothing is as big a statement as complete silence".
Absolutely Curtains Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Don't respond to his facebook message. You're in no contact or whatever remember? He's doing it for attention, so don't give it to him. I understand feeling guilty, and feeling bad for him because he's lonely. I have this problem with ex's also. It's so hard to do, and I still struggle with it, but guess what? You are not responsible for anyone's happiness but your own. Be a good person, but not at the expense of yourself, if that makes sense. A long time ago I got fed up with ex's who didn't seem to have to much going on outside of the relationship with me. They never started out that way, but somehow that's what seemed to happen by the time we broke up. However, a relationship can not be the be all and end all, nor should it. It's more like a bonus when you have your sh*t together. So I made it a point to be happy with myself and my life outside and independent of a relationship or individuals. I wish everyone else would do this too. It would seriously help alleviate my feelings of guilt when breaking up with someone.
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