To bring flowers?

[Javelin]

Okay, so our 3rd date (concert with my friends) is this week and I was thinking of bringing an extra large teddy bear + flowers. Just as a thank you for allowing me to take you out, sorta gift.

 

But, before I ask for advice... I should probably supply you guys with a brief summary of the first two dates.

 

I'd like to say that we've had a very successful first and second date! First date we did dinner and then a long walk through a small town's harbor. During the walk we visited shops, laughed, and kind of held hands. It ended with a long hug goodbye. Our second date went well also, we went for another walk, then dinner, and after dinner, I kept her hands warm within mine while we enjoyed each others company! That date ended with 2 hugs + 2 kisses goodbye!

 

I did not bring flowers to either dates, because I did not want to scare her off. While I know some woman love to receive gifts early, I was hesitant with her because she didn't seem too interested in the, 'typical' guy sorta role. I also did not want her to feel that she owed me anything for bringing the flowers.

 

So with all this information, should I bring flowers for this third date? I'm still having doubts, that it may be too much, too soon..

 

Please, share your opinions!

[Thomas X Forever]

Too much too soon. Definitely.

[SoulSearch_CO]

I was thinking of bringing an extra large teddy bear + flowers. Just as a thank you for allowing me to take you out, sorta gift.

Nooo. OMG, noooooo. LOL No large teddy bear. Um. Cute. But noooooo.

 

And IF you're going to go with flowers, at least I would recommend that you keep them to "pretty," but not overtly romantic. Like, for instance - I wouldn't go with a dozen red roses. I'm not much of a flower gal, so if someone posts after me that says this is bad, then so be it. But at just the 3rd date, I'd say nothing more than a beautifully-arranged bouquet of Gerberas. Or do you have any idea what her favorite flower is? I love Stargazer Lillies...and I don't consider them overtly romantic. It's more the thought.

 

That's if you're set on flowers. I personally am not THAT into flowers. I think it's kind of an odd tradition. I would actually think it was the cutest thing ever if he brought me a bouquet of wildflowers that he picked himself.

 

Am I the odd one out, here? "Girls like getting gifts early on." If you treat her to a wonderful time on the date, I don't understand why you'd need to give her a gift as payment (or as you stated it - thank you). I don't get it. But then, I'm not super-girly-girl, either. I have simple tastes.

[Thornton]

I love receiving flowers, it always makes a good impression on me. However you should reconsider bringing flowers on a date, especially if you're going to a concert or something, at it will be an inconvenience for her to carry them around all evening - plus they'll probably die before she can get home and put them in water.

 

Much better to take flowers when you go to her house (even if you're just picking her up from her house for a date, so she can put the flowers in water before you leave), or even have them delivered to her. Having flowers delivered to a girl's workplace is like two presents in one - firstly she gets the flowers, and secondly she gets the admiration of her colleagues for having snagged such a thoughtful guy. Your girl may not like that sort of thing, but I love getting flowers at work and all the girls crowding round, oohing and aahing and telling me how lucky I am.

[start-fresh]

I never understood why women actually enjoy getting flowers. It's so cliche isn't it? And, really, they're just going to die anyway. This isn't meant to be a troll or anything but could somebody enlighten me?

[Vet]

Flowers are a waste of money and time, and make you come off as very desperate. Skip gifts and everything like this when you're dating.

[butcher's hook]

How old are you guys? Regardless I'd ditch the teddy bear.

 

Bring flowers. That is a really nice gesture that shows your confidence in expressing your interest, especially in that you are reading your dates right.

 

A woman who doesn't appreciate flowers will probably turn out to be a cold unamginative fish anyway.

 

I never understood why women actually enjoy getting flowers. It's so cliche isn't it? And, really, they're just going to die anyway. This isn't meant to be a troll or anything but could somebody enlighten me?

 

It is the ultimate symbol for romance, it shows interest, it shows that he is thinking about you, it shows that he can be unselfish and that he wants to see you happy. All very important signs that bring a situation of a woman really liking a man to an even higher state of liking. Later in a relationship it can represent those early days of excitement when you were falling in love. Flowers just keep giving.

 

The reason I love flowers even though they die quickly is that it makes me appreciate life, it makes me appreciate the true beauty that life has to offer, it is a lot like love it can be here today and die tomorrow. You really learn to enjoy it in its splendor when you look at it in that way. A fake flower that has an infinite life, sits in a vase collecting dust it has no beauty to it it just becomes another fixture that blends into the background a real flower changes before your eyes, there is true beauty in that.

[Javelin]

Okay, so its unanimous, no teddy bear!

 

Thanks for the input guys, I may not bring flowers at all this date either.

 

How old are you guys?

 

We're both in our mid 20s!

[Trialbyfire]

I adore flowers!

 

Instead of bringing flowers, have them delivered the day previous to the concert. This will keep you on her mind, if you're not already there.

[Javelin]

I adore flowers!

 

Instead of bringing flowers, have them delivered the day previous to the concert. This will keep you on her mind, if you're not already there.

 

Oooh, that's a good idea, but I don't want to seem like stalker. I've not asked too much about her job's location and she really isn't too keen on the place either.

[alphamale]

So with all this information, should I bring flowers for this third date? I'm still having doubts, that it may be too much, too soon..

give her flowers after you've had sex

[butcher's hook]

We're both in our mid 20s!

 

Well maybe if you are 20 a teddy bear can be cute that's why I sasked the age, still I dunno.. you know your girl best is she cutesy and does she like cutesy things?

 

About the flowers, if you bring it to the concert will she be stuck having to carry that with her all night? That's a bit of a pain...

[Lucky_One]

Yeah, no bear. And I would go with a paper-wrapped bunch of flowers from a street vendor - a casual, spur of the moment, "hey, I was thinking of you when I saw these" thing.

 

Women love flowers (typically!)!

[boogieboy]

Its waaaay too early for gifts. Shes not allowing you to take her out, shes going out with you because she wants to be in YOUR world. If you put your heart on your sleeve with flowers too early, there will be no challenge for her. She likes you already...youve gone on multiple dates with her already, you dont have to impress her with gifts. Leave the gifts for after you re an official couple. Your gift to her is your great personality, and your WORDS. Kind words are your gift to her. And make sure shes giving you some too.

 

Matter of fact, instead of flowers, you could do more imaginitive dates, that are fun, but no gifts.

[bluewolf17]

I LOVE getting flowers. I don't think it's cliche. In fact, once I get them, I remember them for days. Even when I am at work, I know they are at home in a vase, and just thinking about that makes me happy. And then I think about ways I can make HIM happy. Needless to say, I use to get flowers, a lot .

 

 

Then again, they were flowers FROM MY BOYFRIEND. Not a guy I have only had a few dates with. In my opinion, I would still like getting them. But not the teddy bear...

 

If your hesitant, wait. Or make a smaller gesture..pick one flower (like one sunflower) and tell her you were just thinking about her..and you can leave it at her place (don't make her have to bring it with her).

 

So yes, women still like getting flowers. At least I do.

[The Collector]

No no no no no. To flowers or teddy bear. You say you kissed her twice.. with tongues, or a peck on the cheek? Sorry, but if you don't get sexy on the next date she'll lose interest. Ignore what any woman says on this matter btw. Unless they agree totally with me.

[sally4sara]

Nooo. OMG, noooooo. LOL No large teddy bear. Um. Cute. But noooooo.

 

And IF you're going to go with flowers, at least I would recommend that you keep them to "pretty," but not overtly romantic. Like, for instance - I wouldn't go with a dozen red roses. I'm not much of a flower gal, so if someone posts after me that says this is bad, then so be it. But at just the 3rd date, I'd say nothing more than a beautifully-arranged bouquet of Gerberas. Or do you have any idea what her favorite flower is? I love Stargazer Lillies...and I don't consider them overtly romantic. It's more the thought.

 

That's if you're set on flowers. I personally am not THAT into flowers. I think it's kind of an odd tradition. I would actually think it was the cutest thing ever if he brought me a bouquet of wildflowers that he picked himself.

 

Am I the odd one out, here? "Girls like getting gifts early on." If you treat her to a wonderful time on the date, I don't understand why you'd need to give her a gift as payment (or as you stated it - thank you). I don't get it. But then, I'm not super-girly-girl, either. I have simple tastes.

 

I agree, big teddy bear is scary over kill. Flowers are nice but you should stay away from "Meaning Feelings" flowers like roses. I might not go the stargazer route either though. I sell a lot of them at Valentine's Day as they are the #1 popular rose alternative flower.

Think monochromatic and tidy. How about all purple iris or all orange gerberas? Doesn't mean anything particular but it is a nice gesture. Iris or gerberas are not that expensive either but don't look cheap.

[butcher's hook]

Think monochromatic and tidy. How about all purple iris or all orange gerberas? Doesn't mean anything particular but it is a nice gesture. Iris or gerberas are not that expensive either but don't look cheap.

 

Fantastic choice! Gerberas look great in my place I like getting them almost more than roses. Roses are indeed a very intimate gift, not that point yet they have to be casual flowers she will LOVE it!

[D-Lish]

No flowers, teddy, gifts at all yet. It's way too soon.

[SoulSearch_CO]

give her flowers after you've had sex

:laugh: Yeah - give her the flowers after she's given you hers.

[Lizzie60]

No flowers.. no nothing for now..

 

Maybe on your 6th month anniversary.. not before..

[alphamale]

:laugh: Yeah - give her the flowers after she's given you hers.

hey it works for me, women love flowers after the first love making session...it makes 'em feel "special"

[Trialbyfire]

Oooh, that's a good idea, but I don't want to seem like stalker. I've not asked too much about her job's location and she really isn't too keen on the place either.

Stalker? After two dates? Where does this come from? I've gotten flowers before accepting a first date and have appreciated them. They're the sweetest gesture, IMO.

 

But...do forget the teddy bear...

[butcher's hook]

Eww it's kind of gross to send flowers after sex, kind of like "thanks for your snatch here is a gift" Yuck!

 

Get them now Javeling it sends a much more innocent message and it's not creepy at all it's just a nice romantic gesture it's perfect to send them now. Don't wait longer. But do a casual modest flower nicely wrapped, like Sally suggested.

[bluewolf17]

[quote=Trialbyfire;2345314 I've gotten flowers before accepting a first date and have appreciated them. They're the sweetest gesture, IMO.

 

 

I once got a Boys to Men CD from a guy on a first date. Sounds corny, but we had talked on the phone before and had been joking about B2M. He rememberd that and brought the cd as a gift/joke.

 

I thought it was pretty funny.